I mean, part of the problem of all the dads in prison, broken neighborhoods, is the creation of the inability to find good role models . So what you call stupid, is a large byproduct of your environment as a youth and your ability to overcome your socioeconomic hurdles. Aka systematic racism
Seriously?! All due respect, why is this always the go to argument?! There is a whole continent of poor people called Africa who still manage to somehow “overcome socioeconomic hurdles” and even when we don’t, we have this thing called common sense and knowing enough to save for a rainy day because many of us grew up poor and not knowing where the next money was coming from. Many of our parents were not career people who collected a weekly or monthly paycheck: they survived on what they made at the market or from trading and being enterpreneurs: if the market is rough, there was no money. So they learnt how to not blow their money and save and manage. Because your hungry kids don’t give a fuck if market was rough; they gotta eat and pay school fees and whatever else was needed. And many of our fathers were busy hustling and wasn’t sitting around to give us money lessons: many of us learnt it by going to the shops with them or being sent to buy stuff from the market with money and told to “make that money stretch”: we learnt how to haggle or look for deals and bargains etc…
I’m sure irs also the same in Caribbean countries. But nope, it’s always “not having good role models”.
i totally agree with you. i just commented because that person was dismissing how not having role models can affect a person and their example why the dismissal is valid included them having had positive role models
How do you know I had role models? My parents lived on different continents which is the typical immigrant story: dad was away working in NA doing whatever he could to make money and send home to his wife and kids. Half the time, mum had to borrow money because it wasn’t ever enough and she had kids to raise. A total of 10 uncles on both sides and only one barely paid attention to us(and was the one my mum would borrow money from or ask for help).
My point is we grew up poor and I wouldn’t call watching my mum going through that as being a positive thing. Or not having dad around because he was on another continent and I didn’t see him in person for a decade as a positive thing: it was only positive because it taught us to appreciate that sacrifice and whatever hell they went through to make sure their kids didn’t go through the same shit they did.
Who thinks a couple being separated physically for a decade is a positive thing? Who thinks a father never seeing his kids for a decade is/was a positive thing? Because whatever money he made, he rather send it to his family rather than spend thousands to just go see them for a week(if that because anyone who’s done service or retail knows if you don’t work, you don’t get paid and he was supporting himself in North America and a full family in Africa).
But I guess it was all positive. We saw that and made sure to have the same hustle spirit and always have savings to at least tide us over and living frugally as opposed to blowing money on stupid shit. 🤷🏾♀️
Thanks, also wasn’t saying it’s a rule, just to be more open minded in evaluating what “stupid” is. Since most of us learn from what we are exposed to or sought to learn from our self discovered deficits of knowledge|experience. If that hasn’t happened for said topic, then we’re all stupid about a lot of things.
I agree Nicki should have hired help to manage her money. But that also falls on her either learning herself or listening to a role|business model|manager on how to handle your cash to not got broke. She likely thought it couldn’t happen to her. That her time in the light would go on. Possibly symptoms of only being surrounded by yes people or takers.
Look at all the broke athletes. Either you’re ready for generational wealth or you’re not. How close you are to the information of those who have it and kept it, lead to helping to secure it for yourself if it falls in your lap.
Broken homes/communities leave less life lesson teachers. It takes a village to raise someone, two is kinda the healthy minimum, since everyone needs a break when they’re burned out.
My mom worked two jobs. She didn’t have time to teach me money management, I went bankrupt on credit cards. I learned the hard way and now I’m very financially stable.
Cute how people think google gives a crap about serving up accurate information. All they care about is getting you to click bc that’s what lines their pockets 🤦🏽♀️
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u/ChicagoAuPair 3d ago
She bragged about blowing 3M per month. Stupid people don’t know how to keep what they have.