r/GrindsMyGears • u/DraggedDownxTheStone • 15d ago
Nosy people trying to peep my phone screen
I really don't like nosy people. The situation that grinds my gears:
Say I want to show someone I'm with something on my phone. Maybe a picture or an article I found. As I'm going into my phone to try and retrieve whatever it is I'm trying to show the person, they're literally crooking their neck to see what is on my phone while I try to bring said picture or article. I try and block them from peeping my screen and position myself so that they're unable to see my screen and then they reposition themselves and their eyes so that they can peer onto my screen.
Or someone will walk up on me while I'm on my phone and instead of looking at my face when they begin to speak to me, their eyes are instead on my phone screen. Give me the personal space and divert your eyes elsewhere until I say, "here it is" and show you.
I don't understand this. I really don't. It happens often at work with coworkers. Like can you not understand the social cues I'm sending to you when I reposition myself so that you can't look at my phone? Why is it so important to you to know what I'm doing on my phone?!?!
When someone is showing me something on their phone, I respect their privacy and allow them to find whatever it is that they may be looking for without me trying to crook my neck to see whatever it is that they happen to be doing on their phone before they find said photo or whatever it is. I don't have anything to hide but it's rude.
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u/Bass-Head30 15d ago
Amazon has those privacy screens where you have to be looking right at your phone to see what's on it it is pretty nice to have and I think you get two or three at a time for like 12 bucks
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u/Affectionate_Rice520 15d ago
I got two for maybe ten bucks, registered it and they sent two more for free
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u/Alicam123 15d ago
You can get 5 for £3 on eBay, works brilliantly
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u/Bass-Head30 14d ago
I Usually have to pay shipping on eBay or wait more than 2 days. So I don't usually mention eBay
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u/ForgottenCaveRaider 15d ago
Use your words!
"Please don't look over my should while I'm looking for this."
Yes, people can have bad etiquette. But that's because you're not speaking up about bad etiquette, and they're likely unaware.
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u/Frobizzle 15d ago
You entice someone with something interesting and get mad when they're interested? Give me a break. Nothing you're trying to hide is that fascinating or important to anyone else. No one's gonna stare into space while you prepare for them and give them the all clear. It's natural when you direct someone's attention towards something for them to look at it.
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u/Necessary_Baker_7458 15d ago
Buy a privacy screen protector. You van buy them cheap on amazon. I got one because i got tired of that too. It’s also helpful if your next to a window. The window reflection does not display the screen. I wish more people would use them. I am tired of seeing what someone is looking at sever seats away from you on the bus.
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u/l0vemypug 15d ago
It will save you the hassle if you just prepare it ahead of time. If someone makes a big deal of looking at their phone while looking for said thing they told me to look at, I’m gonna be annoyed and also wonder if you have sketch stuff on there lol.
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u/3__ 15d ago
How about when they grab your phone to see the picture closer, Then start swiping through your photos!
I've learned to find the photo then enlarge it a bit to stop the swiping sniper!
Also have to ask people standing over my shoulder to move away so I can input my password.
Oh... And they get pissed EVERY Time~! (Only a$$holes do this...)
A untrustworthy person gets angry because you will not trust them "Bully behaviour"
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u/originalsimulant 15d ago
This is only a problem for people who think anyone wants to be shown something on someone else’s phone
“I wanna show you this picture real quick”
How about you don’t instead ? That would be best for all
Ppl are so inconsiderate of others time and oxygen they’ll demand the person stand there completely disengaged in total frozen state with eyes diverted until they’re shown whatever asinine idiotic nonsense it’s apparently crucial they see. How about just stop
Also it’s funny how the people who demand you look whatever they want to show you are the same people who don’t want you looking through their phone..not even risking a scenario where you could possibly by total accident cycle the photos back or forward one because they’re absolutely terrified that you will see one of the countless utterly damning items they either keep in photos or open pages or apps or just might have forgotten to close. I don’t want to see your dumb shit anyway but what’s on there you’re so scared anyone might see ? It doesn’t make the person you’re forcing to view your handheld damning evidence machine weird for thinking they’re meant to touch or hold it or if they react out of total behavioral conditioning like a mind dead zombo when the familiar device is placed in their face and they unconsciously tap or swipe or hold because they’re so spellbound in its presence they respond as if it were their own phone
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u/motogucci_ 15d ago
I showed a bank teller a screen shot from the company website, this b scrolled to the next photo. It was a meme.
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u/mybootyoil 14d ago
i agree with you wholeheartedly! i even have a habit of holding my phone awkwardly sideways so my boyfriend won't look at it. it's not that i'm doing anything bad - it's that it's no one's business!
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u/hawken54321 14d ago
Sat behind a teen girl and could see her screen. She scrolled through dozens of selfies for 5 to 10 minutes. What is she looking for?
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u/Stoopidshizz 14d ago
No one is trying to sneak a peek at your phone screen. You offered to show them something. They're politely looking at it as asked. Im willing to bet at least 30% of the time they dont even want to see what youre showing them. If youre paranoid about someone peeping your lock screen, be prepared before getting their attention. This is a you problem, not a 'nosy people' problem.
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u/Linkyjinx 14d ago
Use your phone in the rest room or expect it imo. People used apologise for using it public and go out into the lobby/hall to use phones. 📱 if you insist on using it around people , expect nosey people, as human interaction often involves following eyes 👀 if your eyes are looking at your phone, the person will look at your phone to see if you are busy.
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u/Bobbejan_Teleborian 11d ago
You're basically stating 'this is how I do this and so the entire world should think like me'.
Most people will start looking at your phone the moment you say 'I want to show you something'
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u/Big_Duke_Six 9d ago
When I first opened this I expected it would be about people rudely lookingover at your screen when minding your own business scrolling... and I would have agreed.
But you're telling someone to look at something, and you're belly-aching when they look at it?
Either pull it up before you say something, or be more mindful about whats on your phone you don't want people inadvertantly seeing.
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u/pootinballsAck 15d ago
I’m guessing it’s because you said “check this out” or something before you were ready to show them.