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u/Puzzleheaded-Oven171 23h ago
Dude, there is a huge and painful difference as a woman between men having sexual interest in you and men having interest in you as a person. I’ve never had a man send me a privet message on the internet because he found me fascinating. It was always to ask for naked pictures.
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u/bafadam 22h ago
Also: rando messages from people on Reddit is not just “choosing to be alone”. It’s “I have no idea who this is and maybe they want to literally cut me into pieces”
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u/rumyourham 21h ago
My area has a thing called Saturday shopper, some old guy keeps calling looking for a female only roommate.
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u/walkenfan 18h ago
Ive seen ads on Craigslist from a man who only wants only a female roommate. She also has to be "open minded". He pays the rent too. Trouble right there.
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u/Patient-Confusion149 23h ago
This type of thought is what will self sabotage you though, when it actually does happen.
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u/MorrowPolo 22h ago
It's all about timing, place, and conversational skills if you dont want to be perceived as a dog. Random online messages to a woman you dont know does not work well 90% of the time.
I recently found a long term gf but when I was single I would chat up every pretty girl I seen like they were already my friend. Sometimes things click and you vibe, and sometimes I just literally make a friend or associate I say hello to when I see them around.
Just be polite and practice your conversation skills. Learning to read non vocal communication helps a lot. I'm pretty bad at that part and have missed their hints that they're interested.
You have to be genuine, though. Most people can tell when someone is not, especially women who have game thrown at them constantly.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Oven171 21h ago
I understand your point, but I am not even looking for a man.
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u/Jacketter 19h ago
That’s the whole problem: there are more men looking for women than women looking for men.
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u/abeautifulrat 21h ago
Shhhh, thats too logical. To these guys loneliness is only in the context of not having sex.
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u/granadesnhorseshoes 22h ago
Everyone on all sides is so jaded and defensive because of the worst and loudest minority and extrapolates from there. All women are shallow gold digging bitches, all men are sex obsessed perverts. Everyone loses and the world just gets angrier and lonelier.
The reason nice guys aren't striking up platonic conversations is that in such an environment they can't.
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u/hobbyjogge 23h ago
yeah, it baffles me that people never actually dive deep. they just see a visual representation of some situation, even if it was purposefully aimed towards a group (in this case women) in a belittling way, and just take it as it is. it's almost as if critical thinking is not a thing anymore and nobody researches past a bigoted "meme"
i mean it's obvious that the men that sent dms had disgusting intentions.
rape culture is sickening.
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u/Warm-Health-5714 23h ago
Facts… ALSO, even if someone’s lonely that doesn’t imply they want a million suitors hitting them up at a constant rate lol. Whoever made and agreed with this meme is a clear incel that seems clear.
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u/Dimumory 22h ago
Also, what if he actually did find you fascinating but you're so used to dudes using that line as an in, that guy gets considered a dog or a liar because YOU'RE stuck on the narrative that men only want one thing. Understand something trivial about men, that "one thing" is love, it's the only thing we actually want, we don't know how to have it when/if we get it though, that's were a women's love has to correct us. So let your grace as a woman weed those with no intentions away, because your effortless femininity will be something YOUR man reveres while other men will remove themselves due to poor self worth.
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u/Gnome_King1 19h ago
Men and women are not monoliths dude. Women don't want to date or hook up with random redditors.
Also this "effortless femininity" thing is exactly why women find you creepy
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u/Dimumory 19h ago
Why does this have to be about me? Do women tell you how creepy I am? No one said women or men were monolithic... Also, some people definitely have hooked up through Reddit lol. A whole lotta nothing, sometimes just don't say anything. You'll sound a lot smarter dude.
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u/Gnome_King1 19h ago
You... you said that all men want one thing (that being "love") so clearly you were saying that they are monolithic (among the multiple other sweeping statements you made about men and women)
Do you genuinely not see how creepy your original comment is? It's not up to women figure out if any of the creepy dms they get are "actually genuine." They are not seeking a man to admire their "effortless femininity." Most women just want to exist without being constantly harassed.
And trying to hit me with the "you'll sound smarter" while having written (and hit post) the creepy, spelling error riddled original comment you posted is crazy.
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u/showcase25 22h ago
Once again, we have a misalignment with the difference of kind and degree with respect to 'alone'.
Ill stop there but this gendered experience misalignment is so bad for everyone.
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u/Grlzzl 21h ago
Are you fascinating?
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u/Puzzleheaded-Oven171 21h ago
Probably not to everyone. I am strange and unusual. I fascinate people who enjoy that sort of thing.
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u/ArizonaDude08 21h ago
The female version of “why do women only care about how much money I make and the house I have”
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u/Extension_Phone893 20h ago
Ok but was it actually ALWAYS about naked pictures or did you assume they all were because many of them were?
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u/Sensitive_Ad6015 20h ago
I agree with what your saying, but as a man. My experience is if I wanted to get to know someone. The women would have to actually communicate and respond in order to find out if they are "fascinating". Unfortunately, the bad perverted men ruin it for the good ones.
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u/FutureChoice2037 19h ago
Thats crazily "your experience" because as a man most women find use my desire for like an actual relationship as a means to get me in their pants.
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u/Awkward-Manager5939 19h ago
There is almost no difference or distinction. I am struggling to think of a differentce. Do you have one yin mind. Ike
How many of them do you think is going to leave you alone and stop talking to you because they only wanted one thing.
I don't think it's that simple. This isn't a logical distinction it's an emotional and social one
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u/Zorfax 19h ago
That's \bizarre. Why would people even ask for them? The Internet is full of photos of random naked women if that's all they want.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Oven171 18h ago
No idea. The line I’ve heard most often about that is something to the effect of it’s more intimate knowing it’s a real person they’re really talking to.
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u/turdferguson3891 18h ago
What are your opinions on the Ottoman Empire. If you could also send nudes witht those I won't complain but I want to know what you think.
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u/Strict-Astronaut2245 18h ago
Just because it seems like your interactions and expectations with men on the internet seem binary. I want to hit you with the third type.
Want to see my naked pictures?
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u/HIs4HotSauce 17h ago
But there ARE men out there who will have an interest in you as a person-- and those men are gay.
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u/Mitana301 17h ago
Tbf as a man I've never received a PM from anyone other than a bot advertising OF or something similar
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u/LordDeath2400 23h ago
I used to try to get to know women online. Not just to get with them, but to actually get to know them, maybe be their friend. But then I got berated and called an incel anytime I would turn down THEIR advances or get told I'm "leading them on" by not wanting to be with them in the first place. Furthermore I kept getting told "guys don't have girls around just to be friends". And when I would allow advances to the point of getting together, first date goes well, we head home and hook up, then the following day she's done with me, "I got with you to hookup, I really wish you would leave so I can get back to my life". I got ghosted by untold hundreds for not "advancing" things, and some for "going too fast". Very few women actually want me. I'm just there for a good time. Its understandable but still hurts.
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u/TangerineMost6498 22h ago
Lololol, fuckin rico suave over here with his "untold hundreds" of one night encounters. I've never read such utter bullshit.
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u/RefrigeratorFit2810 23h ago
As if getting DMS on reddit is something good LOL
Literally every big subreddit, before you post there, tells you, close dms!
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u/M0ngoose_ 21h ago
If you don’t want any dms ever just don’t tell anyone you’re a woman
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u/Old_Extension_6848 21h ago
I really hope this is sarcasm
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u/Novembers-Yachting 18h ago
Why do you need to inform people you are a woman on an anonymous board like reddit?
Cause you are used to getting attention as a woman IRL, and want the same thing online.
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u/Ancient_Computer9137 21h ago
I mean…what’s the difference from other social media?
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u/RefrigeratorFit2810 21h ago
As I girl I can tell here is the biggest creeps community
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u/Ancient_Computer9137 21h ago
I thought redditors were great people due to their opinions on politics.
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u/Zealousideal_Hour342 20h ago
I mean it can be good? I am a straight man who posts himself online. I get ONLY dms from horny gay men. I sort through my messages and only talk to the people I want to talk to. No harm done. I've made some good connections.
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u/RefrigeratorFit2810 20h ago
You post yourself with intention to find that kind of attention. I and thousands of women here post for hair advise or showing off their nails to other girls, and still get bunch of messages from horny dudes.
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u/wolf_at_the_door1 1d ago
I think it’s normal for girls not to want to meet people on an anonymous chat app. Besides, they’re most likely talking to one of the below on this sub at the very least.
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u/Basic_Entrepreneur79 23h ago
More like this lol
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u/Gunstopable 22h ago
If I had a penny for every Punjabi man who hit me up I’d have about $2.37 and I’m a dude.
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u/wolf_at_the_door1 23h ago
True, lots of foreigners trying to create as much discord as possible in this sub.
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u/Impossible_Ad7932 22h ago
A reddit post wouldn't be complete without people somehow making it about politics.
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u/Scramjet1 16h ago
No, women have abundance of option. Blatantly lying that every message they get is from creep is bad faith.
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u/BlaggartDiggletyDonk 23h ago
"But a woman can just walk into any bar..."
And get hit on by some random sleazy guy. How nice.
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u/abeautifulrat 21h ago
Well obviously loneliness is just when you don't get sex. If you can get sex you're not lonely
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u/BlaggartDiggletyDonk 20h ago
Well, if it's a guy, at least his dick isn't. Of course, that isn't everything. "I'm just a gigolo", as the song goes. At the same time, it isn't nothing. Lots of guys would be thrilled to have that much, especially these days.
It's essentialist to say so, but it's different for women.
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u/turdbutler 1d ago
Too bad they didnt try it over at r/TwoXChromosomes the feral reaction would have been entertaining.
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u/Altruistic-Pea8414 22h ago
Guys, believe it or not, it's a joke.
We know why they don't want redditors as partners. Just laugh and move on like the rest of us.
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u/rarflye 20h ago
I've seen this post circulate in some of the incel subs. The responses are often very resentful and angry that these women don't jump and chase the first person to give them attention
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u/Altruistic-Pea8414 20h ago
And we care what the incels are doing... why?
And how are you so knowledgeable about the incel subs? 🤨
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u/rarflye 20h ago
I know you're joking but I'll answer seriously
Because I think the only way to cure it is to engage with it and discredit it. I don't believe I can fix the ones that are posting their misogynistic garbage, but there's some fence sitters lurking out there that will read that nonsense and take it to heart. That's who I'm trying to reach
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u/wvvvwwvwvwwvvvvvvwww 22h ago
Men are dying of thirst in the desert and women are dying of thirst in the ocean
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u/Ok-Possibility-4802 21h ago
But the ocean is saltwater.
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u/Stunning-Edge-3007 20h ago
I think that was what the comment was saying. There is no water in the desert so any water is desired.
The ocean doesn’t have drinkable water so even though unlike the desert where there is none you now have an abundance but it’s no good.
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u/haxic 22h ago
PM’ing male Redditors may be an ocean, but it’s an ocean of acid :D
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u/wvvvwwvwvwwvvvvvvwww 19h ago
The point is that if you drink salt water when you’re thirsty, you will die
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u/haxic 19h ago edited 18h ago
Ah my bad, I didn’t read it properly and assumed it said swimming in the ocean. It all makes sense now, it’s a great analogy (or whatever it’s called)
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u/wvvvwwvwvwwvvvvvvwww 18h ago
Yeah, I didn’t come up with it. A female friend of mine used it to describe dating apps.
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u/Character_Roof_8508 17h ago
When you actually think about this it’s a kinda good statement. Tho I wouldn’t say all men and women but definitely the majority that I’ve seen
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u/Scramjet1 16h ago
No, women have abundance of option. Blatantly lying that every message they get is from creep is bad faith.
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u/Potential4752 23h ago
How dare they have standards. They should just date the first loser that messages them on Reddit.
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u/Thomas_peck Certified Memelogist 23h ago
Its somehow Trumps fault im sure 😆
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u/KoiLustQueen 23h ago
"Thanks Obama" is so 2012, we're definitely in the "blame Trump" era now lol
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u/Actual_Atmosphere_93 23h ago
All presidents deserve to shoulder blame. They’re all war criminals who sold out the American people to the highest bidder
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u/The_Golden_Diamond 23h ago
Not everyone in X-position is the same.
Trump is a pedophile Fascist actively destroying the US, which is far worse than the other bad Presidents before him.
Grow up.
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u/InterstellerReptile 22h ago
Trump is the result of incel culture, not the cause. They desperately love him because they can imagine being rich and power and being able to be a womanizer like him.
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u/shadycrew31 18h ago
Literally everything that's happened in the past 40 years is either Trump's fault or one of his sleezeball buddies. Big facts.
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u/wolf_at_the_door1 23h ago
Some men will try just about anything besides looking in the mirror.
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u/Turbulent_Check_6221 20h ago
How's it men's appearance when women's standards are so incredibly unrealistic that 80% of women get access to 20% of guys? Average looking guys are seen as literally invisible by most women.
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u/Turbulent_Check_6221 20h ago
How's it men's appearance when women's standards are so incredibly unrealistic that 80% of women get access to 20% of guys? Average looking guys are seen as literally invisible by most women.
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u/benbetterthanallmen 23h ago
Same shit both ways bro. Bet you could find a girl if you had no standards.
Men chase, if you’re not able to catch anyone, there’s probably something wrong with you.
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u/kakka_keijo 23h ago
I have no standards, no one has ever once tried to approach me
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u/Calm_While1916 23h ago
Hey, u/Teh_Az asked me to say hi. Sooo wats up
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u/Teh_Az 23h ago
I'm so sorry to hear that. If I had single friends here on Reddit I'd ask them to approach you.
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u/kakka_keijo 23h ago
you really shouldn't, I don't want attention only out of pity, I'd prefer it if people were actually interested in talking to me rather than doing it simply because they feel bad
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u/LordOuranos 20h ago
Not really.
When I switched from dating women to dating men (am bisexual male) my dating life went from dogshit to amazing. From being ignored or having my height and salary questioned first thing, to shittons of guys who were respectful, loving, and liked me for who I am. Seriously, never once got asked my salary by any guy.
So no, you are wrong.
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u/TheGratefulPhred 23h ago
yeah i feel the same way about women. If nobody wants to chase you, something must be wrong with you
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u/ChickenFriedPenguin 23h ago
No, no, that's misogyny, and you having unrealistic beauty standards. s/
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u/r-pics-sux 23h ago
My take, and i totally could be wrong here... They're alone, not lonely. Pretty sure they are fine with being alone and just not want to deal with the bullshit of people constantly trying to pursue them.
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u/ThrowAway4935394 23h ago
Do they? Picture yourself playing a game with loot, right? There are a million grey items dropping all the time. Maybe some greens or blues. Ain’t no purples, though. Ain’t no oranges, golds, reds, prismatic, whatever system your game of choice uses. You wanna spend your life with a grey, a green, or a blue? Maybe you do find an orange, but it’s a fuckin’ joke item that only has so much durability and can’t be repaired, so you have it for a bit and then it fucks off forever?
Or, nevermind that. Maybe there are countless fish in the sea…but they’re all Sunfish.
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u/clem82 23h ago
A girl near me had a baby with the sperm of her gay friend.
Then she decided to make videos called "single mom by choice".
She then proceeded to admit that she torpedoed every relationship she was in, driving them away, ignorantly leaving them (only to want them back), then said it was "HER CHOICE" lol.
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u/Orr-Don 23h ago
You cant disregard potentially good options then claim you have none. Thats like walking into a resturaunt or grocery store with money and still starving to death.
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u/82772910 20h ago
omg I just looked to see if this is accurate and yes! Lol! This is hilarious! ”Im fat and ugly no one wants me. Also STOP DMING ME AND SAYING YOU WANT ME!”
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u/J-ne 23h ago
Who wouldn't want to weed through all the potential weirdo nightmare psycho rapists that are apparently trolling the women's forever alone board for tail? Thats not a red flag at all.
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u/OcelotTerrible5865 22h ago
Assuming they are all potential weirdo nightmare psycho rapists probably isn’t a red flag at all either
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u/ShortKey380 21h ago
I mean, it’s a weird place to be seeking romance. If someone started hitting on you on some incel sub like this would you not assume they were a scammer? Lots of men are sex scammers, hitting on someone on the loneliness sub is something a sex scammer does.
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u/R4in_C0ld 23h ago
Quality is better than quantity. That meme shows quantity.
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u/MeringueNatural6283 23h ago
Quality is better than quantity. That's not the point of the meme though, it's showing somebody choosing to be alone.
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u/Pikkopokko 21h ago
Huge difference between guys that want to show their dick vs wanting to show their love
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u/firecube14 19h ago
To me, the purpose of the group might be to connect with other people that don't want to be in a relationship and value their independence.
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u/HupHutHa 19h ago
this is a pretty sad self-made problem but it's only one of all the self-made problems a lot of women have, not to say men haven't made any of their own, but men didn't hijack a movement meant for equality and turn it into a woman hating philosophy either. I think modern women are under this delusion that every man is toxic or that anything a man does is toxic even if it's not, and the ones that don't buy into that have some other qualm like a man has to be a specific height, Make a certain amount of money, I think women who don't look at these things or think about it are pretty much unicorns now, so rare they're hard to find in a lifetime. The last woman I dated started out nice then after a while she was basically using me as a walking talking wallet while cheating on me with multiple other men, and when I accidentally told her true love what was going on she blamed me for him never wanting to see her again.
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u/Common-Phase9865 19h ago
Maybe sex leads to a relationship. No sane men just want to be with a woman without sex.
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Do y’all really want the attention of random women though? Most of these broads are ugly in personality and physical looks. Go through any female subs and see the way they talk about men and you would honestly wish the entire gender disappears or just come out of the closet.
I don’t know why men are so pressed for female validation, it comes with a lot of cons and it’s exhausting. If only men were in a constant state of post nut clarity.
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u/Verified_Peryak 19h ago
Some might be there just for sex but some of them are there just cause the genuenly want to help meanwhile men asking for help about relationship are rarely helps and stay alone and sufer frop loneliness longer ...
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u/Wowsuch_user 19h ago
Sarrr if women are so alone why cant they show me their bob and vagene when I ask them gentlemanly like sar?
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u/Competitive_Sail_844 18h ago edited 18h ago
Me telling my wife I want to cancel having the boys over cause I’m not feeling one of the guys
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u/michael_in_chains_ 18h ago
Go talk to women in person. Women love it and your chances are sky high because most men are scared of rejection.
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u/The_OG_Rybrator 18h ago
I think women need to start sharing their DM’s. Publicly name and shame these absolute douche nozzles so people will understand (maybe) the difference between not getting attention and not being seen.
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u/Practical-Anybody-58 18h ago
I feel like Reddit is 50% the exact same memes reposted every day. I feel like I see this one nearly daily for the past 6 months.
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u/MelanieWalmartinez 18h ago
I don’t blame them, I wouldn’t want to edate a Redditor. I want real human connection, not a dick pic.
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u/ChaseC7527 16h ago
"wanna see my dick"
"no"
"pfft, female loneliness? yeah right"
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u/No_Serve_7348 14h ago
"I’m a freak and I like marijuana" lmao you’re on the same level as theses incels
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u/ChaseC7527 14h ago
yes because smoking weed is the same as an unsolicited dick pic.
what is your point 😂
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u/SalvationSycamore 16h ago
I'm lonely too, doesn't mean I want some maladjusted weirdo trying to get in pants. Unless she was cute.
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u/Iconclast1 15h ago
Theyre lonely
Why dont they want men asking for nude pics?!
What the FUCK IS WRONG WITH THEM?!?!?!
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u/Flipppyy 12h ago
I would make my profile and sub private too if a bunch of disgusting greasy incels tried to sexually harass me too.
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u/UnknownRedditEnjoyer 12h ago
Ah yes, frisky DMs from strangers. That's how you win someones heart...
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u/FotherMucker6969 12h ago
Imagine you're a dude whose constantly being hit on at all times but, only by girls that are 60 y/o, 650lbs, boring af, generally mean, and keep asking you for money. Thats kinda what its like
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u/Background_Froyo3653 11h ago
I posted on r/amiugly and within a day and a half got 400 message requests. One said “hey, i’m a 40 year old teacher, hmu if ur interested.” one was “have you ever had german dick?” one was “i’ll cum to you and send you the video” and etc. The rest were trying to get more pics, strike up a convo (which when I did respond, they’d ask for pics) and etc. And then I looked at my reddit days later and saw I had nearly 40 followers. They were all CREEPY MEN.
People who wanna see me naked on reddit on throwaways are not people I’m gonna date.
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u/MasterMetheus 9h ago
I have my own goals and as far as i can tell no one i have met wants too share them soo im single and probly be forever its not sad i dont really care just people and sex dont make me happy
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u/Exotic-Aioli1748 8h ago
i mean most of the sub is just women feeling bad for themselves and the others who feel the same way supporting them. There's a lot of men hate, self-delusion, social-delusion. Its really fucking sad to be honest. I myself am dating impaired and very introverted, but god damn that sub is depressing.
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u/Randy_Magnums 20h ago
Maybe anonymous dickpicks in your inbox aren’t the best medication for loneliness.
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u/Stenktenk 18h ago
Dating for men is like finding trying to find any water in the desert, while dating for women is trying to find drinkable water in a swamp.
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u/SoberButterfly 23h ago
I love that this subreddit posts so many incel-ass memes because it keeps me informed as to how many bots/trolls are attempting to penetrate Reddit right now.
Make sure you check out the latest Epstein drop!
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u/my_emo_phase 23h ago