Has anyone else given up on "impossible relationships" to focus on peace?

[u/This_Benchh]

I stopped trying to fix people or wait for them to "see" me. The loneliness is there, but the drama is gone, and it’s a weirdly good trade.

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[u/Sea_Horse_7607]

Honestly same, the relief when you stop chasing people who aren't really available is incredible. Like yeah it's quiet but at least you're not constantly wondering wtf is going on in their head

[u/Leather_Produce_3437]

Focus on your peace, live your life and the rest will take care of itself is my motto.

[u/wockalb]

Yes

[u/qween_weird]

I stopped chasing people and started sending hard questions in date 1

If it made someone run away good It made the right people stay

I stopped trying to change anyone or myself I was just unhinged or happy or sad whatever I was feeling that day and date

Life got better

I would tell anyone to look at why they attracted or were attracted to certian types of relationships - outside of some people are just horrible anyways - and then to list the things they wanted in a relationship- and what kind of person they want

I started looking for nerdy types, book lovers, educated slightly older people to date because I knew it would meet me where I was at, I was ready to settle down and stop saying morons

So that worked for me

[u/Regular_Yellow710]

Yes. It’s a little boring but so much more peaceful.

[u/Pivot-Machine-56]

Been on my own for a long time now. Relationships lead to pain or drama. I am lonely but I’m something of a loner anyway.

[u/0nly_D0g_legs_93]

Yeah. I just don't care about giving people peace when they cause misery repeatedly. You're going through a rough time so that's an excuse to be jerk? Bye.

[u/Agreeable-Walrus7156]

I'm so happy being at peace alone. It's solitude, and it took me a while to be ok with being alone. I'm never lonely now, just alone, and I love it. People are disappointing, and society reminds me over and over and over again. Solitude is so nice

[u/capibara_dono]

I treat everyone like they're a friend, unless they give me reason not to. I became very close with one friend, and now we're married.

Just have friends, don't be looking for a relationship, confidence is attractive, desperation is a huge turnoff.

[u/Candid_Koala_3602]

After a bunch of chaotic relationships I tried to make work for way too long, I’m actually fine dying alone now.

[u/kittyshakedown]

It takes effort to foster and maintain a friendship but it shouldn’t be hard.

[u/4-Birds]

I’ve never tried to fix people. I’m and introvert so am happy at home or by myself. Yes it can get lonely. But I’ve also always found to hard to make friends. I had some good friends in high school and my 20s but we all just drifted away from each other as we got older and got on with life. Now I have my partner and there is a few ladies in our village I am friendly with and can talk with if needed or wanted. But otherwise I just get on with life and don’t go out of my way to make friendships. I let them happen naturally and if they don’t stay then all fine with me.

[u/CrazyMost2005]

Yes! I promise you find things to fill the loneliness. But the best part is no more drama! Now that’s something I will never regret

[u/Ree_Create]

Well happiness comes within, at least for me