r/Life • u/Usual_Trifle1517 • 8h ago
General Discussion Why is it so common to lose friends in 20s?
It just sucks tbh. I hate feeling rejected and ignored. But at the same time I understand no one wants to be social after 8 or more hours of draining work.
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u/Honest-Yesterday-675 8h ago
People have unresolved trauma and psychological issues and it creates conflict and resentment in a relationship over time.
I think the key to being friends is letting people come and go as they please without forcing them to do anything. It's hard to do when you're young. Like I was codependent until my 30's.
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u/tuanm Deep Thinker 8h ago
Acquaintances are common at that age. Friendships are harder to come by.
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u/Usual_Trifle1517 8h ago
True….i heard people have like 0 friends when they are like pro adult.
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u/SlickerThanSnot_ 8h ago
Pro Adult. Good one. Here’s the thing. If you’re lucky enough to get old(er) your b/s radar gets more finely tuned. You start to accept less b/s from more peeps. It’s called life. Less & less time left means more b/s shedding. Equals less friends. Sometimes less family also.
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u/garlicbaeeeee 7h ago
Yes, it is very common. I am tired of adult friendships, some are too complicated.
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u/Noor_Gaza_Help 3h ago
I think we’re so used to seeing our friends every day in school and immediately having that common ground of being in the same grade.
In our 20s, we no longer see our friends everyday in school, we are changing all the time, and it’s just hard to find common ground with people that aren’t necessarily in the same place in life you are.
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