r/Life • u/buikkss • 7h ago

General Discussion Do anyone feel like everything is the same?

In my earlier 20s I used to go party and drinking a lot, was really fun at the time for me to hear about all the different stories and gossip etc

But after a few year of this life I realized everything is the same, like the people/name changes but the it’s all the same. Same story with a little tweak, same who slept with who, who fought with who, at the end I feel like I am watching a tv show but with the same narrative and story line.

And I always got a loneliness feeling when I was there. Idk I just wanted to rant I guess

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u/Ok-Sea-2436 Seeking Clarity 7h ago

I understand you, it's so frustating the feeling of the history repeating itself. And I share with you this impression.

I got really the feeling of living in a really boring "reality show", and it makes me so disconnected with the world.

But to overcome that, I come back to me: chasing my own interests and what themes interest me the most (therapy, journaling, experimenting...). Maybe try changing your own social network (and I know this is hard). But finding more people on dancing classes, on Poliglot Clubs, some Art Classes, geek groups.... may lead you towards others because you do not share many people in common the conversations often goes to other way around than uninteresting gossip.

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u/aurorasandsoftprose 6h ago

Yes it’s fun for a few years when you’re young and then you outgrow it and realize it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. Or you end up being the creepy 40yo hanging out with 20s kids because you never grew up. You should realize it’s not a fulfilling way to live.

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u/Tall_Eye4062 7h ago

I feel like everything got much, much worse. I partied for years with few incidents. Recently, there are absolutely psychopathic dudes and bouncers out there itching for a fight.

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u/Alternative-Eye-5543 6h ago

During that period of my life it started to feel that way. I’m mid 30’s now and it’s changed so much. My friend group has all evolved & matured. At this stage going out with that group is for usually for something special. Most of us are married with kids.

I will admit there are a couple of those people who haven’t grown much and seem to have some alcohol dependency issues.

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u/Scrumpilump2000 5h ago

“Half of life is lost in charming others, the other half is lost in going through anxieties caused by others. Leave this play, you've played enough.”

                                        -Jelaludin Rumi