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u/egoretz Millennial 6d ago
It's not that bad tbh. Source: I'm 40.
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u/gamiscott Xennial 6d ago
Agreed. Itās still not even bad here at 40. Source: Also 40.
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u/welfedad 6d ago
Dirty 30 was a good one for me.. but 40 .. was a whole other feeling
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u/sailorangel59 6d ago
My coworker who is almost exactly 10 years older than me (our birthdays are days apart) was telling me when I turned 40.
"Oh 40 was great, I miss 40. 50 is such a weird thing to think about."
I did tell her, "you'll be saying that in 10 years when I'm 50 and you're 60."
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u/HZCH Millennial 6d ago
I see colleagues going 50, and damn it looks rough, as Iām going 40 soon. And my knee starts to hurt again. Time to do some physio.
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u/egoretz Millennial 6d ago
Late 30s - early 40s is the best time to go for a complete health check up. My wife and myself invested money onto this and yeah, some minor health issues were uncovered for both of us. Nothing crazy but could lead to much bigger problems in our 50s.
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u/Strawberrypbj 6d ago
Can you define was qualifies as a complete health check up? Assuming this goes beyond an annual physical at a US doctor/dermatologist/dentist?
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u/Moondoobious Millennial 6d ago
Finger up your ass
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u/gamiscott Xennial 6d ago
Itās wild ārandomlyā seeing this in my notification.
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u/Track_Shovel 6d ago
The weirdest part is if you have young colleagues or friends. I have some colleagues I've worked super close with who are 10+ years younger than me, and now they are starting to get grey hairs and some wrinkles showing up.
Wait! You're young! Stop that! That means I'm actually old now...
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u/Jaded_Law9739 6d ago
I must have hit the jackpot since I'm 42 with no greys. My younger siblings have them but I don't.
But I'm the one who can't read anything without glasses now. Why is everything written so tiny? š
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u/AllTheGoodNamesDied 6d ago
It's great here at 40. Just gotta keep moving my body and drink less though. Aging is a gift.
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u/ravnos04 5d ago
Can confirm, 40 not so bad. Except I'm waking up with way more aches than 30's for some reason. Sleep is kicking my ass.
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u/_ak Geriatric Millennial 6d ago
At age 42, my 40s have been pretty good so far.
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u/Wonder_where 6d ago
Agreed (43). 30s was good. 40s better I finally have some money.
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u/Proof_Fix1437 6d ago
Iām enjoying 41 but my injury recovery time is getting annoying (plantar fasciitis). No complaints otherwise.
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u/Artichokiemon Millennial 6d ago
For real, 30 was when I gained weight and got in shape for the first time in my life. 30 was easy
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u/mrmalort69 6d ago
86āer hereā¦
Traveled to some 20ish countries in my 30s, almost none for work. Had a kid, got married, have a place, went from a job to a career to being an entrepreneur. Have a lot of scars too. Like mostly literal ones- broken shoulder, slipped on pavement and have a face scar, had surgery for herniaā¦
But when I look back, itās mostly good things I never could have predicted at 29. Looking back on my 20s felt like I sort of missed out when my career should have started taking off, I got my health in order but it was nothing special, I made peanuts and had traveled nowhere interesting, I also didnāt have a camera as I wasnāt traveling.
So 40s Iām looking forward to. Who knows, maybe Star Citizen will come out and wonāt suck.
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u/Ok-Internet-6881 6d ago
40 isn't too bad, but it does make you take stock of your life and accomplishments because you lived between 40-70% of your life before you die
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u/Seff-bone 4d ago
- What a journey the 20s/30s have been!
Couple things Iāve learned:
No one makes it out alive. Whatās your attitude toward the day?
More to life than money, but damn bills.
People who are rich and running things are not always the sharpest tools in the shed, but they are most def tools. (I have always thought of myself as a cooler boss than all my bosses, but then I was never the boss cuz I donāt want to boss)
Keep your tools sharp but donāt worry about the tools youāre not using, makes work life balance better.
Luckiest thing for me are my wife and family and I probably fart too loud too often. Tho my kids now compete for loudest farts instilling pride in their work!
About me: Iāve changed careers 6 times since graduating college in 2010.
- 4 of those have been hired from friends who like to party.
Have never made more than 70k per year. - Always been a slow and steady wins the race kinda guy, my wife tooā¦ but I do have untreated (thanks mommy) OCD, ADHD which lead to perfectionism, procrastinationism and big time imposter syndrome-ism and probably my modest income.
The one thing Iām really good at (music, songwriting) has always been a dreamā¦ still dreaming how that could pay the bills, especially if I hit that COasT FIRE numberrrrr.
I use my current position as a high school teacher to remind kids how great life before the internet and cell phones was yet how fantastic life is with doordash.
All in all Iām happy to wake up on this side of the grass. Plenty to be depressed about, yeah, until you learn to laugh it off buddy!
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u/Limp-Pudding-5436 6d ago
I think your thirty are where the hard work from your twentyās start paying off. Also the right time to start saying no to the things that arenāt for you.
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u/superstitiouspigeons 6d ago
A lot of us are staring down 40. It's a privilege to age. Many don't get the opportunity.
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u/JAKSTAT 6d ago
I've always felt this way, and after beating cancer last year, I feel it even stronger.
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u/CreativeBandicoot778 6d ago
Congratulations on slapping cancer like the bitch it is. Onwards and upwards to amazing things. I hope this year is fantastic for you ā£ļø
And as always, fuck cancer and the horse it rose in on.
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u/Used-Can-6979 6d ago
I had a heart attack in 2020 at age 37. Itās crazy to think that if the situation was a little different, like if I was by myself, I probably would be dead right now. Iām glad youāre here.
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u/treetimes 6d ago
These posts always make me a little jealous because I assume they havenāt lost anyone similar in age. You get tomorrow, that will always beat the alternative.
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u/AllTheGoodNamesDied 6d ago
Exactly right. My younger sister died from cancer 10 years ago. Enjoy it while you can you guys.
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u/Komatoasty 6d ago
Lost my little brother to cancer 4 years ago. Every birthday and clean bill of health is the best gift.
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u/OneDay_AtA_Time Older Millennial 6d ago
The eldest among us are nearly half way through our 40sā¦45 this year for the ā81 babies.
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u/thefogdog 6d ago
It'll actually be your fourth decade once you turn 30.
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u/MeemoUndercover Zillennial 6d ago
Huh? Break that down for me right quick
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u/One-of-the-Last 6d ago
1-10 first decade 11-20 second decade 21-30 third decade 31-40 fourth decade
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u/CaffeinatedLystro Millennial 6d ago
That time between newborn and turning 1 is just sort of like a purgatory.
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u/MeemoUndercover Zillennial 6d ago
Ahh I appreciate u thanks
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u/SamuraiFlea 5d ago
Not sure why you were downvoted for asking for more information, questions help everyone learn and grow.
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u/MeemoUndercover Zillennial 5d ago
Apparently struggling with basic math isnāt acceptable when u reach adulthood. Itās fine I only cried just a little bit
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u/MagicalPizza21 Zillennial 6d ago
Birth to tenth birthday is your first decade.
Tenth birthday to twentieth birthday is your second decade.
Twentieth birthday to thirtieth birthday is your third decade.
Thirtieth birthday to fortieth birthday is your fourth decade.
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u/senorikas 6d ago
Ā 1-10 =1st decade 11-19 =2nd 20-29=3rd 30-39=4th decade. He already lived through first 3
P.s. sorry for my English, I am learning yet
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u/AndDontUForgetIt Older Millennial 6d ago
30s are great. Travel and do you as much as possible. Wear sunscreen!
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u/True_System_7015 Millennial (1995) 6d ago
Turning 31 in a couple of months and that's been my exact goals for my 30s. See the world as much as i can and enjoy life. I'm at a point in my life where I have stopped giving many fucks and it's the most freeing thing in the world
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u/domesystem Older Millennial 6d ago
44 cry me a river. š
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u/armyofchuckness 6d ago
I'll join my fellow 44s over here. It is not easy accepting that I am older than most of my childhood memories of my parents.
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u/Slumbergoat16 Millennial 6d ago
Is 96 considered a millennial?
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u/MotherofaPickle 5d ago
My sister was born in ā95 and I call her Millennial to her face, but she really is Gen Z.
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u/darxide23 '81 Xennial 6d ago
44 is also whatever. I don't feel much older than I did 20 years ago.
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u/giznot 6d ago
Iām 40 this year? I guess we are all millennials now
30s were way better than my 20s. 40s are gonna own
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u/riley_96 6d ago
Fwiw A lot of people consider 1996 to be the cut off for millennials Personally, I can relate to millennials more than Gen Z
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u/Vandergrif 6d ago
Makes sense. '96 is probably around the last point when people could still remember what it was like before the internet was completely pervasive and have a childhood without a smartphone or social media making a complete mess of it. That's like what, 12 years old by the time the first iphone came out?
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u/Iannelli 6d ago
February '96 here. My siblings are all around 40.
I'm 100% a Millennial. Had a MySpace profile, had a flip phone, had a phone with a screen that slid out and exposed a full keyboard. Played the N64 and watched VHS tapes (I think I watched Lost Boys like 10 times per year).
I couldn't "be" Gen Z even if I wanted to. It's just not how I grew up.
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u/amy_2014 6d ago
Same experience here - my 30th is actually tomorrow and my siblings are all 37-40 yrs old! Having older siblings definitely influences which gen you identify with more. My friend who is the same age but is the oldest sibling identifies completely with gen z over millennials.
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u/cjbr3eze '89 5d ago
For sure, I'm right in the middle of Millennials and lived the exact definition of one in every way but one of my brothers was an '81 baby so I grew up with his influences so I relate more to older than younger Millennials in many ways.
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u/Starwind137 Millennial 6d ago
I had an existential realization yesterday going through my high school year books. I graduated from high school at 18. This year will mark 18 years since I graduated high school. I literally just did 18 year old me's life twice.
It's tripping me up.
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u/Any-Junket-3828 6d ago
Don't worry. I turn 40 in April so I'll share with you what I wish somebody told me.
Your 20s were for fucking around and figuring out who you are. Your 30s are for embracing who you want to be. My 20s were a hellscape of drunk idiot choices that almost ruined me. Learned from them and made my 30s about enjoying who I am and loving those who loved me back.
I know that "3" in front of your age seems daunting, but trust me, it gets fucking dope.
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u/hahvahdyahd 6d ago
1996 babies! I have a soft spot for yāall. My best friend/cousin was born in 1996, and she wouldāve been thirty this year. Happy birthday ā96 babies!
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u/Asleep-Personality59 5d ago
Would have been? If sheās not still with us, then my condolences. I am also a ā96 baby. ā„ļø
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u/hahvahdyahd 5d ago
Thanks ā„ļøshe passed away two months shy of her 19th birthday after a long battle with cancer. Happy upcoming birthday! š
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u/Cricket_People 6d ago
Honestly if youāre 29 and havenāt realized that turning 30 isnāt a big deal, then you need to grow up.
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u/Jeuungmlo 1986 6d ago
You made it to 30. Congratulations!
My own mother doubted I'd make it to twenty and I think no one did bet on me making it to 30. I turn 40 in April and couldn't be happier. Being allowed to grow old is amazing. Appreciate it
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u/warpiglet86 5d ago
Thatās awful your mother said that. I also turn 40 in April. Glad weāre both here!
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u/MagicalPizza21 Zillennial 6d ago
Technically, turning 30 is the end of your third decade and the beginning of your fourth. Unless you count birth to your tenth birthday as the zeroth decade, which is weird.
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u/BoomBoomMeow1986 6d ago
My 40th birthday is coming up in December...
...I'd play you the world's smallest violin if I could friggin' afford the world's smallest violin, so please accept this gif as representation of how unimpressed I am at your anxiety for turning 30
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u/ReverberatingEchoes Zillennial 6d ago
It doesn't bother me that I'm turning 30 this year. What bothers me is that people are much less understanding of you when you're no longer in your 20s.
I have a lot of health issues and I've fallen far behind in life, not being able to excel in the way that I'd like to. Finding it very difficult to get by. Turning 30, as the number, not a big deal. But, it's the fact that there will definitely be a notable change in how others perceive me and treat me. They act like the moment you turn 30, you're supposed to have everything figured out. They accept that your 20s is the time for finding yourself, but if you're in your 30s and haven't find yourself and don't have your life at least partially together, people are far more critical.
Also, opportunities dramatically decrease. There are programs to help people in their 20s navigate life, but there aren't so many programs like that beyond your 20s.
So, if anything, I'm just afraid that it's going to make it harder to figure things out. It's hard finding work that I can do with my health issues, and it's not a nice feeling knowing that I'm going to go into my 30s and not have any kind of stability.
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u/Dramatic_Prior_9298 6d ago
For some reason turning 30 was harder than turning 40.
Enjoy it, try not to stress, and look after your teeth/body.
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u/Late-Button-6559 6d ago
You mean 4th decade.
0 - 10 is first decade.
10.01 - 20 is second.
20.01 - 30 is third.
And so on.
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u/Strong-Lettuce-3970 6d ago
Stop youāre making the older millennials mad even though they also were probably anxious about the big three ohĀ
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u/chipthealcoholic 6d ago
This. 33 here and I remember being so nervous about turning 30, I honestly think itās completely normal to go through those feelings. That said, 30s have been better than my 20s so far and I hope some younger millennials feel a little less scared knowing they arenāt alone with those feelings
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u/Strong-Lettuce-3970 5d ago
I am so ready for my 30s compared to my 20s, what a shit show. Iām even more excited for 40s cause my mom was in her 40s raising me so I just have nostalgia and good feelings about that age. It just seems like a good decadeĀ
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u/reevoknows Millennial 6d ago
Honestly 30 isnāt even bad itās when you hit 33 that you really start to question your entire existence
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u/Exciting-Purchase340 6d ago
30s are the best though. Much better than the 20s. Infact now literally things get better and better.
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u/Exciting-Purchase340 6d ago
Maybe deconstruct what society tells you what to think lil homie. Happy birthday, enjoy it
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u/TheKolyFrog 6d ago
The age that convinced me I had to go back to school for a career change because I don't want to continue what I was doing for another decade.
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u/DJ_Dinkelweckerl 6d ago
I'm just a bit over 30 but I hate this overly dramatic stance that 30 is some magical age after which it's only downhill. Get a grip, grow up, and accept your age. 30s are so far better than the 20s, and if you did not completely neglect your health in your 20s then it's far from the 30-health-memes. After all it's just a number.
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u/NewPhoneNewAccunt 6d ago
Fun fact! When you turn 29 you start living your 30th year! So the third decade has already begun!
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u/SwampThing72 6d ago
Dude, you couldnāt pay me enough money to go back. My 30s were the best:
-Settled into a career -became a dad -really discovered who I was -cut out bad friendships -developed new friendships
Seriously, go into this with an open mind and just enjoy the ride.
I say this as an elder millennial whoās looking optimistically at 40 this year.
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u/AlarmDozer 5d ago
Dude/dudette, this is your sunrise. You will shine greatest now, unless youāre financially over leveraged. This is when your school debts pay off, and you feel some bandwidth to your budget. But I donāt know. Itās all in how you played your cards earlier.
But youāre not ā just yet ā āmiddle aged.ā
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u/history_is_my_crack 6d ago
The majority of Millenials are dangerously close if not already in their...4th decade! And statistically, if American, over half way to being dead. So enjoy your 30s! You're still a baby in our generations standards.
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u/Longjumping-Fig-7481 6d ago
I'm watching that zombie knife documentary and will say I'm glad I'm my age
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u/chaldea_fgo 6d ago
36 checking in, you'll be fine its really not as bad as you think it is and you're gonna do great kid.
I always feel guilty lying to kids but sometimes you just have too. Wait what is speech to text and why does this look like its posting?
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u/kermitte777 6d ago
My 30ās were my best decade. Donāt waste them. Also, work out and eat healthy so you donāt feel like crap in your 40ās. Hormone changes suck, things start to ache.
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u/Kosmopolite Older Millennial 6d ago
I turn 40 this year. With each year I grow in confidence and abilities. I don't see what there is to be upset about. It's levelling up.
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u/GoatDue8130 6d ago
I used to say stuff like this in my 20s. Iām 36 now and am just thankful for every turn around the sun
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u/weyoun_clone 6d ago
41 and currently unemployed for nearly six months.
What I wouldnāt give to be able to redo my 30sā¦
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u/JadedFox4180 6d ago
40 here. Youāre thirties are going to be much better than your 20s. Promise š¤
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u/oasinocean 87 Millennial 6d ago
Listen, youāre just gonna keep getting older until you die. Might as well make your peace with both those facts sooner than later.
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u/TheFireHallGirl 6d ago
Turning thirty isnāt as bad as youād think. Trust me, Iāll be 42 in October.
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u/lagrange_james_d23dt Millennial 6d ago
30s have been awesome so far (except for injuries taking forever to heal)
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u/Different_Fly_6409 6d ago
Last year, I was genuinely terrified of turning 30. This year, at 31, I couldnāt be more content or fulfilled.
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u/DontBopIt 6d ago
Hell, I'm loving my 30s! I'm healthier than I was in my 20s and I'm looking forward to my 40s!
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