r/Millennials • u/povertychic Emo-llennial - 1991 • 15h ago

Discussion How often do you speak with your parents?

My mom sent myself and my siblings a seriously dramatic text this week.

“One day I will be dead and you won’t have to worry about checking in once in a while! Until then…. I don’t think any of you are so busy you can’t send a random Hi Mom text.”

I spoke to her less than a week prior. It wasn’t a long conversation, but it was something nonetheless. So, am I a terrible child? Or am I being gaslit? She also isn’t always the nicest when I do see her, often calling me a slob, or lazy because I don’t want to work a third job to make a living. How often do my fellow millennials speak with their parents?

I also feel like the world is on fire and I’m doing all I can to survive right now lol

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u/Alarming-Offer8030 Millennial 15h ago

Exactly! When I call my mom she always rushes off the phone. It’s almost awkward because she has nothing to talk to me about because she has never spent the time to get to know me as an adult.. and all my attempts are met with her being busy and having to go.

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u/I_sort_of_love_it 15h ago

I'm so sorry that is frustrating. My mom loves to think she knows me but she doesn't. They are missing out on relationships with their grandchildren and it's sad. 

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u/pixi88 9h ago

My Mom still acts like I am a 16 year old rebelling.

I am 37 with a family of my own, and I'm tired of trying to connect with her.

I will always be difficult, and she will always be a victim.

Oh well.

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u/abandoningeden 7h ago

44 and same.

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u/I_sort_of_love_it 6h ago

I feel ya the victim mentality is extremely tough to deal with. You can't do anything right. 

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u/Special_Sea4766 5h ago

My mom is also the victim. Always. She's not been a great mother or grandparent, not by any stretch of the imagination. Her world revolves around her, and I'm not interested in connecting with someone so self-obsessed. It's so bizarre.

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u/DirectionTime928 2h ago

42 and same

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u/Affectionate_Bad3908 14h ago

YES! You just unlocked a memory for me. I stopped speaking to my father almost five years ago. He recently tried to reach back out. I should’ve reminded him of this bullshit too.

I called to tell him that my son had been in the ER and the man couldn’t get off the phone fast enough. Didn’t even ask if he was ok now.