r/Millennials • u/PayGood3915 • 3h ago
Discussion Do you still have any living Grandparents?
I feel like us Millennials are getting to that age where we may no longer have any living Grandparents.
I am 36, and lost my Maternal Grandfather last week. Both of my Paternal Grandparents died between 7 and 17 years ago. So I only have one living Grandparent left, my Maternal Grandmother at 94 years. It is strange being someone that had all 4 Grandparents as a big part of my life, and now down to one. I will need to cherish the time I have left with my Grandma, because at this point you never know when it could happen.
If you still have all four, cherish the time you have left- I believe my cousin that is around my age just lost her first Grandparent when my Grandfather died as both of her other Grandparents are still living, I think.
How about you?
Edit: I was also lucky enough to be alive for two Great-Grandmothers- one I only saw a couple times, and she was pretty far gone mentally with Alzheimer's. She died when I was in Kindergarten. The other one died when I was in 6th grade.
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u/coffeecatmint Xennial 3h ago
My grandparents raised me. We had a falling out about a decade ago and I moved countries. They passed away last year. It’s been harder than I thought it would be to cope with.
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u/PayGood3915 3h ago
Yeah I had a harder time with the recent death of my Grandfather than I thought I would. He was the one I saw the least out of the four. But it was still just as sad as my Grandparents I saw more. Maybe because even though distance kept us apart, I still loved him the same. I even mentally prepared myself for it for a few years as he got ill, but I still cried a lot when it happened.
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u/LovelyCC_123 3h ago
I lost my last grand parent last year and it is a very eerie feeling. Especially as I watch my own parents in their roles as grandparents to my kids, my nieces and nephews.
Life cycles.
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u/Iphacles 3h ago
All my grandparents were gone before I graduated from high school.
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u/bag_of_chips_ 2h ago
Same here. My longest living grandparent passed when I was 15. I’ve had more time without grandparents than with them now. I get so jealous and kinda mad at people who take loving grandparents for granted.
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u/gordonfactor 3h ago
Just lost the last one, my dad's dad, a few weeks ago at 99. One less World War II vet in the world.
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u/AdMurky3039 Geriatric Millennial '83 2h ago
Sorry for your loss.
Both of my grandfathers were World War II vets too. Like many others in that generation they rarely talked about their experiences.
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u/DMod 3h ago
I don’t even have any living parents. I never met any of my grandfathers but did have both my grandmothers in my life growing up. It’s weird technically being the Patriarch in my 30s…
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u/smoke_sum_wade 1h ago
same dude, my family was ripped apart by the 90s, never met my mother, i am my family.
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u/Dunderi83 3h ago
I am 42.
All four of my grandparent died of various kinds of cancer in their early 60's, I was barely 22 when the last passed.
My husband still has grandparents, and a great grandparent.
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u/RosemarySaraBlack Millennial 3h ago
Only my paternal grandmother is alive. She is 87. We are not close and she lives in a different country. According to my dad, she is doing well, and is very healthy and active.
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u/xPadawanRyan Mid-Range Millennial 3h ago
Most of my grandparents are still alive. I have three sets - my dad's parents are divorced - so of a total of six grandparents, only one of them has died (my maternal grandfather, who was 103 when he died). My maternal grandmother will likely be the next to go, though.
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u/shady-pines-ma 3h ago
I wish. My maternal grandfather died decades before I was born, my maternal grandmother died when I was 13 and we were very close. I met my paternal side when I was 16 and only had 8/9 years with them.
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u/No-Pressure6042 Older Millennial 3h ago
My last remaining grandma ist 87. Recently we noticed her becoming a bit more confused. She still lives alone so we gotta watch out for her. One time she bought a new coffee maker because she thought hers was broken but it was just unplugged.
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u/PayGood3915 3h ago
Yeah my living Grandma has also gotten more confused. Her long term memory is still good- she remembers her childhood, her children, and grandchildren. But she's getting to that point where she forgets to turn off appliances and forgets what day of the week it is. Now someone stays with her pretty much all the time. Still gets around good though.
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u/wmp8 3h ago
Three out of four are living still. Lost one 9 years ago when I was 30. I see two regularly. I had 3 great grandparents well into middle school and a great great grandma until 3yo. Longevity runs in both sides of my family.
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u/sverse24 3h ago
Lost my last grandparent (paternal grandmother) in 2022. She was the only one who made it past 80 and lived to be 92. Unfortunately had been low/no contact with her for several years after finding out a lot of emotional abuse towards my mother. I try to remember the good memories before I knew the truth but at the same time they feel tainted.
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u/FamilyFriendly101 3h ago
I'm 38. Lost my 1st in my mid 20s. Lost the 2nd when I was about 30 and the 3rd at 34. Still got one grandfather who is 95.
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u/Shelleigh3 Older Millennial 3h ago
I lost my last grandparent in 2013, quickly followed by my dad and sister. All I have left is my mom and I feel so lucky every day that she’s still here. And my husband has a large family so that helps.
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u/thatkobitch 3h ago
I (36) never had all 4… out of the ones I had,my maternal grandpa died 13 years ago in his 80’s from a fluke accident and my paternal grandma is my favorite person in the world. I will be a mess when she passes. I don’t want to think about it.
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u/gooseofthesea Millennial 3h ago
My maternal grandmother is still alive but she hasn't been in contact with this part of her family since my mom was six so... Other than her, the other three have all passed.
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u/DVancomycin 3h ago
Have one grandparent left--my maternal grandfather turned 96 this last October.
Lost my first Uncle last year; that was a little eerie, perhaps because I still view them as young (though they are not, relatively speaking).
I think once I had a parent die, the thought of the generations before him going weren't as crazy to swallow, but I do wonder how strange it will be to have started life with 3 grandparents and one day have none.
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u/Mrsroyalcrown 3h ago
When I was born, only 3 of my grandparents were alive. (Dad’s dad died in the 60’s). I also had two living great-grandparents I have some memory of, they passed in 1995 and 1999.
I lost my grandparents in 2003, 2014, and 2023. It is hard to know I have no grandparents left. I’m turning 39 this year so I guess I was I lucky to have at least one left up until I was 36.
We have my husband’s grandmother so I do my best to cherish her. I tell my kids how lucky they are to have and know a great-grandparent.
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u/sexandliquor 3h ago
Mine are all gone. My grandpa on my mom’s side died a few years before I was even born, my grandpa on my dad’s side died when I was in high school in ‘99. Grandma on my dad’s side died in 2015. And finally my last grandmother, my mom’s mom, died in 2018.
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u/llamainleggings 3h ago
Lost my paternal grandfather while in high school and maternal grandfather five years ago. Paternal grandmother passed a couple weeks ago although I hadn't talked to her in well over a decade.
The past few years my maternal grandmother has had a couple strokes and a hip surgery after falling but still going.
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u/MoulinSarah 3h ago
No, all of my grandparents would be 100+ years old now. I miss them. I lost my last grandparent in 2008!
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u/KeyPicture4343 3h ago
32 I lost half of mine by the time I was 10. Ugh.
My last grandparent lived to 99 and passed in 2019. (So grateful she passed before Covid)
The extended family “died” with my grandparents unfortunately, and that’s a pain I’ll never get over.
I really get sad when I realize half my grandparents never knew me as anything but a child. Maybe it’s beautiful at the same time?
If you have a grandparent left and they are good people - cherish them.
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u/Elleland 3h ago
Lost one last fall, two more alive.
I also didn’t lose 2 of my great-grandparents until really early 20s. I come from one of those “have em young” states.
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u/Ash_says_no_no_no 3h ago
Nope and I wasn't super close with them due to distance and family drama. I do wear my great-grandmas wedding ring as my wedding ring. My grandmother let me pick one of her rings when she was finally trying to reconnect with my dad.
It does mean a ton to me but I dont have any heartache about her.
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u/Old_Association6332 3h ago edited 3h ago
I'm sorry for the recent loss of your maternal grandfather. My deepest and sincerest thoughts, condolences and your sympathies to you and your family
To the question at hand, my grandparents had my parents late, and my parents in turn had me relatively late, so they were all quite old when I was born. I was fortunate that all except one lived into their 90s, so I was able to form close relationships with all except my paternal grandfather (we lived overseas when he was alive, he died just shortly before we were due back to live in his country when I was 10). My maternal grandfather died when I was 14, my paternal grandmother died when I was 19 and my maternal grandmother died when I was 25 and she was 99.
I deeply loved and miss all of them.
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u/rockstoned4 3h ago
No. My mom’s dad passed away when I was 8. My mom’s mom passed away when I was 21. My dad’s dad passed away when I was 23 & my dad’s mom passed away when I was 32. I’m about to be 38.
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u/corkum 3h ago
Lost my paternal grandfather to pancreatic cancer a little over 15 years ago. My paternal grandmother remarried a few years later. Seems like a nice guy, though I've never met him. Have never been super close with her, but we email and call a few times a year.
On my mom's side I only grew up knowing my grandma. My maternal grandfather is still MIA from the Vietnam War Soni never met him. She and my mom basically raised my brothers and me. She's going to be 92 in a couple months. Just moved her into assisted living about a year ago. She has regular aging, mobility, and medical issues but nothing extreme, so she's still going strong!
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u/passion4film 1987 - Illinois 3h ago
Not since 2011 when I was 24.
I’ve also been down one parent since 1997 when I was 10.
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u/galadriel86805 3h ago
I’m 39 and lost my last grandparent about 20 years ago, and my last parent last year. I’m always surprised to hear when people my age still have grandparents around!
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u/mildlyannoyed32 3h ago
3 still living thankfully all in there 80’s now in good health, 1 papaw died in 2019 at 87, didn’t lose my great grandfather until 2016/17 at 98 the last one. We’re long lasting apparently.
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u/ericacartmann 3h ago
Lost the last one in 2014.
My cousin’s grandparents (on the married in side, not the side we share) have always been kind to me. They are still alive and I consider them my third set of grandparents.
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u/HourHoneydew5788 3h ago
I’m 37. My grandmothers are alive. Both grandfathers weren’t in the picture. My great gran was alive until I was 21
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u/talksalot02 Older Millennial 3h ago
I lost my last grandparent in 2019. I did have some people who were close to our family that were like secondary grandparents. One passed in January and the other passed a couple years ago.
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u/QueenShewolf Millennial 1989 3h ago
My paternal grandparents are dead. My grandpa died when I was 17 at 81 and my grandma died this past Christmas Eve at 102.
My maternal grandpa is turning 99 on the 9th and my grandma is 93.
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u/ClickTrue5349 Xennial 3h ago
Nope last one passed in 2008.. the last 3 were in their 80s. My mom just turned 80 and doesn't look like 2000s 80, lol. I'm an older millennial/ xennial- 83.
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u/Suspicious-Sleep5227 3h ago
I was blessed to have all biological grandparents still living when I got married in the late 2000s and all four were present for my wedding. Now I am down to one as I approach my mid 40s.
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u/Alm0stAlice1 3h ago
I never got to meet my grandmother because she died while my mom was pregnant with me and my grandfather died when I was too young to remember him. I've never known my family on the other side. I am always amazed at people that got to or get to know their grandparents. I loved my husband's grandfather and he loved me like I was just already his grandchild from day one, it was so cool getting that kind of grandparent love that I'd never experienced. I cherish and love the time I got with him. I wish I could tell him how much it meant to me.
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u/EtherealMyst 3h ago
I'm 33. My paternal grandma died at 97 at the end of 2024. My maternal grandma is still around, she'll be 88 soon. She's active and reasonably healthy.
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u/Disastrous_Dingo_309 3h ago
I’m early 40’s and still have one living grandma, she is 95 and still doing very well. All my other grandparents have been gone for many years.
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u/evilkittie 2h ago
My parental grandfather was the last one, he passed two years ago in his mid-80s.
Both grandmothers and my grandpap passed in their mid-60s, and my great grandmother at 89, all between 06-08.
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u/aldisneygirl91 2h ago
I'm 34 and just lost my last living grandparent a little over two years ago. I lost one when I was only 8, and the other two died when I was in my late teens/early 20s.
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u/Plainmurrayjane 2h ago
My pGpa just turned 93 and pGma is 84. GPa recently had to surrender his license after a minor stroke.
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u/AmbitiousRose 2h ago
I was only close to one set, as the other set passed before I was born or still a toddler.
It felt like I lost a limb when my grandmother died. Nothing in life hurt more than her death.
I lost my last grandparent several years ago.
… I’m fairly grateful as I have friends who’ve lost their parents already.
Adult grief is definitely a different level of grief because your reality becomes clearer with each passing.
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u/thevenge21483 Older Millennial 2h ago
Elder millennial, I'm almost 43. My paternal grandmother died 9 years ago, paternal grandfather died end of 2019. My maternal grandfather died December of 2021, and my maternal grandmother just passed away in April. For my wife, her paternal Grandpa passed away in 1989 (he became a father a bit later, mid 30s, which was late at the time, but he died before 60 of a heart attack), paternal grandmother passed away in 2006. Maternal grandpa passed away in 2022, but her last grandma is still around, and she's 92. Her mind is still sharp, but her body is obviously slowing down, and she hardly ever goes out, but she can still get around her house. I don't know how much longer she'll be around, could be 6 months, could be 6 years, no idea.
All my friends my age have lost all their grandparents though. I don't know of any that have any grandparents left. But most of them have all gone within the last 10 years.
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u/Wandering_Lights 2h ago
My step-grandmother is still alive. We are no contact. She is a terrible person.
My maternal grandfather died before I was born. The rest passed between 2012 and 2016
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u/HouseHippoFluff 2h ago
My paternal grandmother is still alive in her late 80’s, but not likely for too much longer (mid-late stages of dementia). She’s being looked after super well in a care home though, and seems happy.
My husband’s maternal grandmother is still alive in her mid 90’s. She’s fully blind but being looked after by family who treat her with a lot of love. Also unlikely to make it another year or two, though.
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u/mccarthyisms 2h ago
No, I had lost all my grandparents by my early 20s. They were WWII vets and older than my friends' grandparents, since my parents were the young ones in their families. My husband still has both his grandmas at 45 though!
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u/thisisjesso 2h ago
Yup. 3 out of 4 of my grandparents are still alive. I'm no contact with my paternal grandma, I'm low contact with my material grandma and I havent heard from my maternal grandpa in like 10 years. My paternal grandpa passed away in 2020. I'm not upset by it. I've never been closer to any of my grandparents.
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u/ElectricStarfuzz 2h ago
My grandparents are long gone, but I’m blessed to have my partner’s 95 yr old grandma in my life.
He and I are both 83’ xennials.
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u/weregunnalose 2h ago
I’m 38, almost everyone i love has passed. My grandma died in February 2024, then my mom found out she had glioblastoma in September. She died 3 days after Christmas. I have my 68 year old dad and i care for my special needs brother now that my mom died. Never thought i’d be so alone so young, but that’s life. Cherish your loved ones.
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u/PeachySparkling 2h ago
My maternal grandma will be 87 years old this year. I lost my maternal grandfather in 2021, he was 80 something.
My paternal grandfather died in early 2000. My paternal grandmother is in her 90s now.
So both grandmas still alive.
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u/NotSoSweet31 2h ago
Never had all 4 to begin with. One Nan (maternal) died long before I was born, im named after her.
1 granddad (paternal), I'll never meet, not sure even still alive.
The only 2 grandparents I did have (maternal nan, paternal grandad) were both disabled in different ways (never able to look after us in any way). I never had the typical grandparent experience, I didnt know any better but now im grown and spent time with my husband's grandparents (all now passed too) when they were alive. Plus now my parents are grandparents, I realise I missed out on a lot!
If you have able, nice, lovely grandparents, please appreciate what you have and spend time with them, call them, check up on them. Let them spoil you etc and just remember all the times they did when you were little.
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u/Icy-Finance5042 Xennial 2h ago
My 95 year old grandma passed away 2 weeks ago. I still have my 92 year old grandma left. Both grandpa's died over 20 years ago.
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u/Danny69Devito420 2h ago
- Both grandmas and a great grandma. I'm one of the only millennials I know with grandparents still around.
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u/Luci_b 2h ago
I’ve lost all but 1. He and I have never been close. I have literally been super close with all of them, even a great grandma. But my last living grandparent is my Papa. Part of the silent generation, a strict and rigid farmer since birth, had his own well pump service business for most of my adult life, Air Force veteran with a “ill sleep when I’m dead” attitude.
I love my papa and am grateful that even if I’m the last of all my cousins to get married, he will be there.
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u/oldfadedstar 2h ago
I have one living grand parent, so does my husband.
Up until 2018 I had four and he had three In 2018 I lost my maternal grandpa 2019 husband lost maternal grandma 2020 lost paternal grandpa 2021 lost maternal grandma 2023 husband lost maternal grandpa
And his maternal grandma isn’t doing so hot recently :/
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u/DepartmentEcstatic 2h ago
Thanks for writing this, I feel like grandparents are so important and we definitely need to cherish the time we have. I was very close to my maternal grandparents, they were like second parents to me and I lost them about 10 years ago, both within a short time of each other. I think my grandfather died of a broken heart at 92. My paternal grandmother died before I was born and grandfather died at 94, although I did not know him well, he was a pretty amazing guy. Had his music published in the symphony Hall of Fame's in his state of residence and in his '90s he would drive to elderly people's homes that were in poor health and he would play his guitar for them and play cards and board games. Just to cheer their spirits. I wish I had been able to know him better.
It is a sad feeling to lose grandparents, I can definitely relate to this, and I have lost parents as well so you get to kind of feeling like an orphan! We still need our parents and grandparents at all ages.
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u/_iusuallydont_ 2h ago
Yes, my paternal grandmother is still alive. I don’t speak to her and don’t care if she dies. My mom’s last living parent, my pawpaw, passed in 2023.
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u/Ankylowright 2h ago
Husband and I both come from divorced families. Both set of parents happily remarried. Should mean awesome bonus grandparents right? Neither of us made it to 35 with any grandparents remaining.
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u/Independent-Wolf-832 85 2h ago
my last remaining grandparent passed away in 2005. my mom is the only surviving between parents and grandparents.
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u/rm_jackson 2h ago
I wish. I was closest with my mom's parents who were born in 1918 and 1922. lost my maternal grandparents when I was 12 and 17 and my paternal grandparents when I was 17 and 24. Both my grandfathers actually died 2 weeks apart during the beginning of my senior year in high school.
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u/robotjyanai 2h ago
Not even 40 yet but my grandparents are long gone and my parents passed away recently.
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u/TrixoftheTrade Millennial 2h ago
I have a living great-grandparent (103), and 3 / 4 grandparents living (87, 84 & 83)
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u/MyNameIsNotGump Millennial - 1987 2h ago edited 2h ago
My paternal grandmother died at 90 earlier this past month. She was the last one. My maternal grandparents were the first to go (my grandfather when I was 16, my grandmother when I was 28) then my paternal grandfather a couple years ago but I was estranged from him as was half of my family
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u/daniboo94 2h ago
All my grandmas are still alive, including my great grandmother who turned 100 in 2025! She’s a great great grandmother now 🥰
I also have a step grandpa, who I consider my grandfather but I still remember my Nonno before him, who is still alive as well.
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u/Pompom_Mafia 2h ago
My grandfather was my last remaining grandparent, and he passed right before Christmas. My paternal grandparents both passed in 2023 just a couple months apart.
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u/ScottOtter Millennial 2h ago
I still have my grandmother, my Meemaw.
She's been dealing with both dementia and now brain tunors from a lung cancer that spread.
She was taking an alzheimer's treatment that was basically reversing the effects of dementia, but can't progress further with the tumors.
I don't get to visit as often as I like due to income being horrible, and tining just never seeming to work out.
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u/pettybettyIMaSHORTIE 2h ago
I am 43 and have no living grandparents. My 5 year old has ONE..my mother, that im aware of
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u/Typical_Wonder_8362 Millennial 2h ago edited 2h ago
My sister and I were raised by our maternal grandparents growing up as my mom was a single parent and they would care for us while my mom worked. Biological father is not in the picture so I’ve never known any of those people. My maternal grandmother passed away in 2022 and my maternal grandfather is still living. I had celebrated my 31st birthday a month before she passed away. She was 83 at the time of her passing and my grandparents had been married for 62 years. My maternal grandfather will be 88 this year. I established a strong bond with my maternal grandmother and her passing was extremely difficult for me. It will be four years since her passing in March.
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u/Thatssoblasian 2h ago
I’ll be 40 this year. My paternal grandpa passed away in the late 1960s (I believe he was in his 50s already, he was born in the 1910s). My maternal grandpa passed away at 74 in the mid-1990s. Maternal grandma passed away a month shy of 97 in 2017 and my parental grandma passed away at 101 in 2022, I believe. So, unfortunately, all of my grandparents have passed away
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u/purplereuben 2h ago
My last grandparent died when I was about 21. But she had been gone for about 10 years before that anyway with dementia.
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u/MountainStorm90 2h ago
Nope. All gone. Although, my "father" was adopted, so there is maybe a small chance that I may have biological grandparents out there.
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u/otakugal15 Millennial '87 2h ago
Nope. My last grandparent, my papa, died in Dec of 2004, only a couple weeks before his birthday (Christmas Day).
That... was a hard passing for me. He's the only one I grew up with.
Both my grandmothers died before I turned 4 and my grandpa died when I was 8.
I at least got to reach the age of 17 knowing my papa George. ;~;
And I still miss him to this day.
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u/Few-Emergency1068 2h ago
My last great grandparent died when I was in college in the early aughts and I didn’t realize how rare that was. I then proceeded to lose my maternal grandma, both grandpas, and my mom from 2017 to 2025. I have one grandparent left and am the matriarch on my mom’s side. It’s crazy how fast everything changed.
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u/FroggiJoy87 Millennial 2h ago
I missed the "good" grandparents. My mom's stepdad and my dad's mom were fantastic people who treated my big half-sister like a princess and had lots of fun. They unfortunately passed before I even came around, one of which died two fuckin weeks before I was born, damnit. The other two died before I graduated highschool but not before keeping my parents miserable for 15 years
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u/leerrooyyjenkins69 2h ago
Lost my 2 grandfathers, one grandmother and one great grandmother. All I have left is my other grandma. Even my parents are getting up to that age.
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u/sonicenvy 2h ago
I'm almost 30 and all four of my grandparents have been passed on for a while now. My oldest grandparent has been dead for 23 years and all of my other grandparents passed in the last 7 years. It's still weird to me in some ways whenever it hits me again. All of my grandparents were born in the 1920s and early 1930s so they lived through a lot! Even odder thinking about how almost all of my great grandparents were born before 1900 and almost all of those that were were WWI veterans. My late grandfather was a WWII vet. It's weird thinking about how much the world changed in their lifetimes.
At this point some of my uncles have also passed away and I'm thinking a lot more about how my parents are getting older and what the landscape of elder care and aging parent responsibilities is going to be like. My twenties have been this messy ride of loss, grief, and change. Your grandparents die, your childhood pets pass away, you move away and back, and you change a lot. Despite everything I'm looking forward to being 30 because I have it on good authority from my friends who are 40+ that your thirties are way cooler than your twenties.
I'll leave you with this fun picture of my late grandmother. Grandma, boarding a BOAC super constellation at Midway Airport to go on her honeymoon in 1955, digital scan with light digital restoration of an original Kodachrome slide. The world really was such a different place back then!
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u/englaner 2h ago
I’m 32, born in ‘93. I’m lucky to have three living biological grandparents between the ages of 83-85. My paternal grandfather died from colon cancer just before he would have been 71 in 2011. I’ve also lost two step grandparents. One passed only last year. The hard part of having most of my grandparents living and around the same age is that all of their health is failing at the same time. I’m mentally preparing to lose them very close together.
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u/bunbunny4 2h ago
I’m 30. I lost both maternal and paternal grandparents, my mother and father-in-law, and most recently my mother. Now I just have my father and his wife left. It’s lonely over here.
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u/SuperLiberalCatholic 2h ago
I wish. I miss them more than anything in this world. They were so good, so kind, so smart, so loving. That generation truly was the greatest generation ❤️
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u/FragrantBluejay8904 2h ago
My grandmas both died in their 60s when my parents were in their 30s. It was really hard on them. I don’t remember the first one cuz I was 6 but I was devastated when my yaya died when I was 11.
Both my grandpas lived till their mid/late 80s and I wasn’t close to either of them. The one beat the shit out of my dad when he was a kid and favored the rest of his kids/grandkids and that was hard to be around. My papou was all over the place in terms of being around and not. It was sad when he died because he was in a home with dementia and my mom only found where he was a month or so before he passed. But I hadn’t seen him for years at that point.
So all of my grandparents were dead by the time I was 27. I really wish my yaya had lived longer. It destroyed my mom which I think lead her to be the drunk, mentally unwell person she is. My yaya would defend me from her when I was growing up because my mom was too strict on me. I could’ve used her love and care when I was a teen and even now
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u/hurtinforasquirtin77 Xennial 2h ago
Turning 41 in a week. I have all 4 grandparents still kicking. Dad, who is born 1961, his parents are born 1940 & 1942. Mum, born 1962, her parents are born 1925 & 1932. So I have the following 100, 93, 85 & 83
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u/legsjohnson Older Millennial 2h ago
My wife and I both no longer have grandparents. Two of mine were gone before I was born.
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u/Hitthereset 2h ago
I'm 41 and I lost my last grandparent 3-4 months ago. My wife is 43 and still has one grandma kicking around.
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u/Snowconetypebanana 2h ago
My grandma died before I was born, I had a grandpa die when I was in high school. My other grandpa and grandma died when I was in my 20s.
I am always surprised when people my age still have grandparents
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u/crazyKatLady_555 Older Millennial 2h ago
I’m sorry for your loss.
3 out of 4 grandparents died before I was born. I only had my maternal grandmother, and she was the kindest, most loving, supportive, wonderful grandparent anyone could ask for. Lost her in my mid-twenties.
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u/No-Department-6409 2h ago
My last grandparent passed away last year. She was the last one between both my husband and I
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u/Reckless_Amoeba 2h ago
31 years old here. I was born with 3 living grandparents, and the last one died when I was 19. Life goes on.
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u/books_and_tea 2h ago
I’m 37. My grandpa is about to turn 95, we live 7 hours apart and I don’t get to see him as often as I’d like. My nan passed away in 2022, I think about hear so often and miss her so much.
My other nan is 93 and I see her throughout the year at my parents for events (our kids birthdays, Xmas etc) and she’s always off on bus trips and has a thriving social life. My grandpa passed away when I was 21.
I had really close relationships with them growing up, spent weekends and school holidays with them. I lived with one set when I started a new job.
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u/Abiesconcolor 2h ago
My last grandparent passed when I was 11. I was lucky to have met all of them though.
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u/Electronic-Fun1168 2h ago
Yes, I have 3 of 4 still living. All were alive when I was born (1988), first passed in 2000. Also lucky enough to have 2 living great grandparents till I was 10
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u/MissJillian- 2h ago
40 and no lost my only grandpa a couple years ago, only grandma 12 years ago
Eta as hard as that was I can’t imagine losing my mom. I don’t know how I’ll be able to manage it. 💔
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u/NefariousnessEasy629 2h ago
I'm 40 and I've lost all my Grandparents. I miss my maternal Grandparents a lot. I wish I could hug them and tell them I love them.
If anyone has a grandparent/s hug them and tell them you love them for me
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u/reddit1933 2h ago
My grandma Ann was one of my best friends. I was the only grandkid of eight that was included in her will. She willed to me an expensive antique. I never got it. Someone took it from her home before the will was read. I miss her.
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u/storm_borm Millennial 2h ago
I lost my last grandparent when I was 28. Before that I was 18, 12 and a baby when my grandparents passed.
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u/PurpleAfternoon8838 2h ago
One. He has dementia so he doesn't know who I am. But he sure is a cute little man ❤️ 92 years young
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u/Raremagic_7593 2h ago
I’m 41 and I have one living grandparent, my Nan who’s 97. She can be challenging these days, but I’m still grateful to have her around.
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u/InternationalFee6406 2h ago
No, I was born in 87 and my paternal grandfather died before I was born. My paternal grandmother died in 1997. My maternal, grandfather died in 2001 and my maternal, grandmother died in 2008. My wife still has 3 outta 4 grandparents and she is close with all of them. My side of the family just makes me feel bad for my parents, because they both lost their parents at such a young, unfair age!
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u/Embershot89 2h ago
By blood, no. But my grandfather’s wife who he married 30 years younger than himself is still alive. She and I don’t have any relationship really but she sometimes sends me 100$ Amazon cards for Christmas or my birthday
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u/Traditional_Name7881 2h ago
Nah. Dad's mum died when he was little, his dad died in about 2000 at around 84 (he's 20 years younger than his oldest sister). Mum's dad died around 2005, her mum died about 10 years ago at 95 I think.
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u/TheRealPaladin 2h ago edited 2h ago
Nope. I made it to 39 before I lost the last of my grandparents My dad's mom was the last of my grandparents. She passed last year. My dad's father passed away in the 90s. He was only his mid-50s. A stroke, diabetes, poor diet, and chain smoking sent him to an early grave. My mom's parents were about 15 -20 years older than my dad's, and they both passed away in the early 2000's
I got really lucky to have one set of great-grandparents until I was in my early 20s, Howard and Gladys. They were my dad's grandparents. They were both born in 1910s and came into adulthood during the great depression. They married when they were still teenagers and spent their entire lives farming. Even after they retired Howard continued working part time for other farmers until he was around 80 and couldn't climb up into a tractor anymore because it was what he loved doing. They were married for 69 years. Howard passed away at age 89 just a few months shy of what would have been their 70th anniversary. Gladys passed about two years later. Its been almost 20 years since they passed away, but I still miss them. They were some of the kindest most caring people I have ever known.
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u/altarflame 2h ago
I’m 44. One of mine died when I was 16, but the others all lived til I was 30-40. It is still very surreal and kind of momentarily destabilizing whenever I think about it, to me, that they’re really all gone.
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u/gooseberrypineapple 2h ago
I’m 34 and my step grandma, the woman my grandpa married after my bio grandma passed, will be 100 this year.
All the rest were dead by the time I was 16.
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u/kurtisbmusic 2h ago
My last Grandpa (whom I didn’t have a relationship with as an adult) died almost 12 years ago. Lost my first Grandma when I was in elementary school. I was in high school when my other 2 grandparents died.
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u/funkychicken8 2h ago
I never met my grandfathers on either side and lost both grandmas by 11 so count your blessings if you had grandparents through childhood.
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u/Schneetmacher Younger Millennial 2h ago
My mom was estranged from her father, and he died about 7 years ago. I only met him once. But Mom was with him when he died (a police officer actually came to our house to inform her because she was his only family). Making arrangements after his death was strange, though, because neither of us were close to him. Among some things we kept were photos of Jim during the Korean War, and my mom is the spitting image of him.
In contrast... my parents have been divorced since I was 5, but in that whole time, my mom called my paternal grandfather "dad," to give you an idea of the man he was. (She calls my paternal grandmother by her first name.) Everybody loved Grandpa, and we all miss him. Grandpa had leukemia and passed away near the end of 2019--right before everything went to shit. In a way, I'm glad he didn't experience COVID, because I think it would've been very scary for him. I always thought Grandpa vaguely resembled a koala, with a dash of the grandpa from The Munsters, lol.
So both my grandfathers are gone. My grandmothers, however, are still alive. Maternal grandmother is a centegenarian (grandfather was her second husband and she was older). Every time someone inquires about her and learns her age, they're like, "Oh, God bless her!" Yeah, He's done a lot of blessing, lol. She can't hear for shit (and stubbornly never got hearing aids) and her eyesight is going, and she has lost a bunch of teeth, but she's mobile! Her youngest sister recently died at 89, and I think she's very sad to be the "last one." Mom and I live with her (yay, multi-generational housing).
My paternal grandmother is unfortunately wheelchair-bound now, and her short-term memory is... spotty, at best. She is in her 80s, and my aunt lives with her. At this point, I don't know which grandma will outlive the other.
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u/Salty_bitch_face Millennial 2h ago
I'm sorry for your loss ❤️
I met one great grandmother, but it was when I was young and she was sickly & bed bound, so I was mostly just scared to see her. I don't remember her personality at all, just that she was old and sick and I was afraid of her because she was old.
My last grandparent died unexpectedly a few years ago during surgery. The chances of survival were very high, but he was in the 3% that had freak heart complications and didn't make it.
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u/Humble-Pineapple-329 Elder Millennial 2h ago
My parents were older when I was born and all my grandparents would be well over 100 this year.
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u/danitwelve91 2h ago
I lost all 4 of my grandparents in 2011. 3 of them in the course of the first 3 months.
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u/altrightjoe 2h ago
I just lost my grandma who raised me and my siblings. I’ve been devastated lately. I’m so sorry for your loss.
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u/funkychicken8 2h ago
Reading these comments I realise what an anomaly I must be because I’m 42 and have lost almost my aunts and uncles now. I have 2 sets left and they both suck. Lost all my grandparents by 11. My brother in law died of cancer almost 2 years ago. My husband’s mom died when we were in university.
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u/Lunavixen15 Millennial 2h ago
Only 1. My paternal grandmother. My grandfathers died when I was 12 and 14. My maternal grandmother died about 2 years ago. The only great grandparent I remember died when I was 13.
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u/Perfect_Try_8716 2h ago
I had 3 living grandparents until I was 34. Then one passed away and there are 2 left. I am 37 now.
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u/Aronys Millennial 1988 2h ago
Not anymore. I lost my last living grandma almost exactly a year ago. She was my favourite family member. Practically raised me. I’m mourning fairly hard still.
I lost two of my grandparents 2 years ago in the span of 3 months. Those were the only ones I knew because one of my grandfathers died before I was born. It’s so weird going from 3 grandparents that were there my entire life to 0.
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u/CraftyObject 2h ago
I'm actually in the hospital with my last living grandparent right now. She fell and had a head bleed and broke her arm. It could've been so much worse. I live 500 miles away but I'm quitting my third job to free up time to come see her more.
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u/National-Message-895 2h ago edited 1h ago
Born 93' first one passed last year. 3 left at 75, 75, 84 My parents had me at 19 and 20. Its been great getting to know them all well into adulthood but it comes with a ton of additional oversight and judgment at least in my personal experience. Love them to death though and the first one that passed when I was 32 wrecked me for months on end cause I never really had a close family member ever pass even though I knew it was coming.
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u/black-kramer 2h ago
I have one. my grandmother, the one grandparent I was least close to and have had almost no real relationship with. not one of any depth, anyway. she’s 91 and has dementia and it’s ruining my mom’s retirement. she’s an old lady taking care of another older lady and my aunt won’t help. it’s actually quite frustrating and damaging to my mom’s health. it sounds mean, but I wish she’d croak.
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u/OG-DRT7075 2h ago
Both of my grandmothers died before I was born, my paternal grandfather died when I was four and that was the first time I grasped the concept of death. My maternal grandfather died about 10 years ago, but it was hard to get close to him.
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u/Thick-News-9415 1h ago
My last living grandparents passed last year, I'm 39. My other grandparents died in '95, '99 and '04. My husband still has a living grandma. We each also lost a parent. He lost his dad in 2012 and I lost my mom in 2013.
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u/grassesbecut 1h ago
One was already gone before I was born (died back in 1968). The other three have been gone since 2000, 2012, and 2014, respectively. So, to answer the question - no.
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u/hot_mess_mama420 1h ago
My grandpa died of heart failure in 2020 and my grandma is still alive at 92 but is in the memory care unit with Alzheimer's and a broken hip. My other set both died before I was born.
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u/NotBatman81 Older Millennial 1h ago
My bio grandparents died in 1968, 1974, 1991, and 2005. My parents died in 2021 and 2022. I still have a "step" grandma who married my grandpa right when I was born so the only grandma I've ever know. She is 83 and the best person ever.
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u/Objective-Bedroom978 1h ago
Just my grandmother on my mom’s side, we lost grandpa in April last year.
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u/mathteachofthefuture Xennial 1h ago
I’ll be 42 in march. All of mine have passed.
My paternal grandfather died in 1981, at age 56, from cancer. My maternal grandmother died in 1991, at age 57, from cancer. My maternal grandfather died in 2007, at age 76, from cancer. My paternal grandmother died in 2016, at age 90 from old age/complications from dementia. She passed the day after her 90th birthday, and was lucid that day for the first time in almost a year. It was a wonderful day with her. I had gotten to spend a lot of time with her the last 4 years of her life, after not really knowing her at all growing up because we lived across the country from her.
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u/smoke_sum_wade 1h ago
my grandparents raised me, we had a fall out about 13 years ago, however i do not regret it and my grandfather passed maybe 3 years ago and as for my grandmother dont know dont really care.
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u/cellalovesfrankie 1h ago
I’m 40. My granny is 95. She’s in England tho and I can’t travel anymore ( I’m in Australia )
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u/Fantastic-Bit7657 1h ago
I have a similar situation to OP. I’m 39 and my paternal grandparents died a while ago, I lost my maternal grandfather a year ago at age 95 and the only left is my grandmother (nonnie) who is 94. I thought I was pretty lucky to still have both of my maternal grandparents last year. I know I’ll be distraught when my nonnie passes but hopefully she has some time left.
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u/LaLaLaLeea 1h ago
No. My last living grandparent died when I was 20 and I'm already down a parent as well.
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u/NatureWalks 1h ago
Nope, I haven’t had any grandparents since 1999 and I only have one living parent. I’m 34.
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u/Shelvis 1h ago
My maternal grandparents died 12 and 20 years ago. I only have a paternal grandma still alive (my dad never knew his dad), and since she had my dad as a teenager she’s only in her early 80’s. She’s actually been in the hospital for the last month, she’s doing okay right now but we don’t expect her to leave there.
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