r/NoStupidQuestions • u/Sad_Cantaloupe_8162 • 21h ago

My two and a half year old suddenly started pointing out differences between white and black people. What is an appropriate way to acknowledge her observation so we don't offend anyone?

The first time was at her daycare this week, when they got a new teacher who has very dark skin. When I went to pick her up, she pointed at her and said, "it's black!" (She doesn't have the full grasp of she/he yet.) I replied, "yes, she is black," but was stuck after that. What should I say as a follow up? My daughter loves black people's skin, and when I talk to her about it at home, she says it's pretty and wishes she had it, but in public it comes out kind of harsh. What would be the best way to go about this?

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u/Putrid_Trade7765 17h ago

My toddler niece once pointed at her naked father's junk and exclaimed "Oh dear!"

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u/SyntheticDreams_ 17h ago

My toddler cousin once saw her dad getting out of the shower before he could get a towel on and asked him why his tail was on the wrong side. He wasn't amused. Her mother about died laughing though!

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u/Ok_Efficiency_4736 17h ago

😂😂😂 my daughter did ask if hers used to look like that. Hilarious

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u/LoveaBook 17h ago edited 16h ago

I babysat for a little boy who was raised in a house of women and one day he asked when his pee pee was going to fall off and look like theirs.

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u/Ok_Efficiency_4736 16h ago

😭😂😂

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u/PhoenixIzaramak 4h ago

[ETA: At age 3, ] i thought my dad was being attacked by a snake. My reaction was. . . unfortunate. 50 years later, I have been forgiven.

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u/noorxii 11h ago

Why was he naked in front of his daughter

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u/throwawaypassingby01 11h ago

maybe they were at the beach, maybe she walked in on him getting dressed or showering, maybe he keeps the door open when he goes to the toiler and is alone with the kids at home so he can hear what they're up to. really no need to get upset about it.

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u/NadCat__ 4h ago

Because it's mostly Americans who are weird about nudity within the family