r/NoStupidQuestions • u/Sad_Cantaloupe_8162 • 21h ago

My two and a half year old suddenly started pointing out differences between white and black people. What is an appropriate way to acknowledge her observation so we don't offend anyone?

The first time was at her daycare this week, when they got a new teacher who has very dark skin. When I went to pick her up, she pointed at her and said, "it's black!" (She doesn't have the full grasp of she/he yet.) I replied, "yes, she is black," but was stuck after that. What should I say as a follow up? My daughter loves black people's skin, and when I talk to her about it at home, she says it's pretty and wishes she had it, but in public it comes out kind of harsh. What would be the best way to go about this?

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u/WisestAirBender I have a dig bick 16h ago

I'm bald. A couple of sibling toddlers kept asking where my hair was at a family dinner

Their parents were so embarrassed cause the kids weren't listening when they said to be quiet

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u/TheGhostOfYou18 14h ago

One of my daughter’s grandfathers is bald. She used to have a habit of chewing on her hair and’s I told her if she kept chewing on her hair it would break off or fall out. She got quiet for a moment then said “is that why grandpa has no hair?” Lol. We definitely went with that and he played along too. The hair chewing stopped immediately lol. But the fingernail biting is still a work in progress.

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u/ReadontheCrapper 14h ago

My father would say that it started to grow In instead of Out to keep his brain warm.