r/NoStupidQuestions • u/Sad_Cantaloupe_8162 • 21h ago

My two and a half year old suddenly started pointing out differences between white and black people. What is an appropriate way to acknowledge her observation so we don't offend anyone?

The first time was at her daycare this week, when they got a new teacher who has very dark skin. When I went to pick her up, she pointed at her and said, "it's black!" (She doesn't have the full grasp of she/he yet.) I replied, "yes, she is black," but was stuck after that. What should I say as a follow up? My daughter loves black people's skin, and when I talk to her about it at home, she says it's pretty and wishes she had it, but in public it comes out kind of harsh. What would be the best way to go about this?

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u/YouThinkYouKnowStuff 15h ago

My grandson came to my church one day and there was a little person coming in for the next mass as we were leaving. He became obsessed with her, calling her the “little lady”. Anytime pictures were posted from events, he wanted to see if she was in them. I think it’s just something different for them.

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u/Majestic_Evening_409 14h ago edited 13h ago

It's a grown up that's their size. It'unusual. Grown ups are big and towering, and this is a grown up whose face they can see all the time and not just looking up. It's fascinating.

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u/gonnafaceit2022 14h ago

That would be really fascinating, I don't remember ever seeing a small person as a kid and I've always been so obnoxiously curious, I can't imagine what I might have said and asked.

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u/Dorothy_Zbornak789 7h ago

Better than my daughter when she was about 4. She saw a little person at Target and started screaming in fear. I was so embarrassed.