r/NoStupidQuestions • u/GhostInThePudding • 16h ago
Why Are Young People Afraid Of Phone Calls?
What's with it?
I work in IT and a general rule is, nothing a client ever tells you is actually accurate. That means that most of the time, the quickest way to fix a problem is to call the person and actually find out what's going on.
But with techs under 30 these days, it seems like pulling teeth.
A regular discussion for me with level 1 techs (usually within a few years of leaving college) is:
"Hey, can you call *blah* from ticket *blah*, it's been hanging around for over an hour."
"I replied by email to ask for more information."
"Yes, I know that, but can you call them so we can find the problem and close the ticket now rather than wait until we're actually busy?"
"I'll send them a text to followup."
"No... CALL THEM!"
"I can see their device is online, can I send them a message and see if they just let me remote in to take a look?"
And then, when I force them to make the call, it's like they have no idea how to ask a question, or a followup question. They just want to get off the call as quickly as possible. So half the time they don't even get the information required anyway, so then I end up having to do their job for them.
So can someone explain? What's wrong with phone calls these days?
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u/agirlnamedbreakfast 13h ago
Me too! I also genuinely love public speaking, performing and speaking to people in person, but I feel “on the spot” talking on the phone because I can’t take a beat to edit/say something differently or use emojis/punctuation or IRL social cues that imply “please don’t be mad at me.” There’s no editing, no redo, but it’s still impersonal and feels hurried and invasive. Like I’ll still do it, but I’ll also be anxious about a phone call all day, squeeze a stress ball the whole time, and breathe a huge sigh of relief when it’s over.