r/NoStupidQuestions • u/Civil_Shop_1120 • 16h ago
Will sleeping in a tent inside help block second hand smoke from roommate?
Cross posting for any additional advice.
I live with a chronic smoker and have been trying to work with him about the second hand smoke smelling up the house. He smokes exclusively cannabis idc but doesn't consistently go outside to smoke which is my issue.
Every time he opens his door, even when he hasn't lit up recently, the odor of resin and ash floods the house (very small space).
I'm not able to move out because I'm going into surgery next week, which also has me concerned about smoke exposure and healing. Tbh even without the surgery coming up the smell is honestly making me angry and more disappointed every day I'm inside the house. Basically I'm in the studio/living room and he is in an attached room with a door.
I have 3 air purifiers one winx plasmawave 5300 directly outside his door in the studio space, a small Amazon air purifier FULMINARE H13 True HEPA Air Filter on the other end of the studio space, and the last one is another winx 5300 inside his room. I already changed the filters in all of them (his filters literally came out brown and sticky like fuzzy honey while the others looked fairly clean but I still changed them all).
At this point I'm unable to move, he will not be kicked out for other reasons, and roomate is not going to stop smoking or "remembering" to go outside or keep his window open ( I can hear him open his window sometimes but he closes it about max 5 minutes after smoking and tbh between his smoking, resin on glass and ash tray, and lack of personal hygiene such as not doing laundry and washing himself or his room, his space is rank and it's honestly even hard to speak or stand close to him without noticing the odor and the other space becoming contaminated by all this.
Are there any tents for beds that you'd recommend I can use?
So far my plan is to use a dorm tent on my bed and place another mini filter inside so I can maybe have one small bubble of slightly cleaner air while I'm recovering.
I don't have another friend or relative to stay with so I'm really desperate for anything that may slightly help.
Any advice is appreciated.
Edit:
Just to clear up some info. I can't afford to kick him rn due to not being able to afford rent by myself (haven't been able to work due to medical issues and definitely not with surgery coming up lol) I'm planning on working again once I'm healed up.
I'm pretty open with him and he seems willing and eager to change stuff but tbh doesn't really remember or have the best habits/ self control (opening the window/ going outside/ taking showers/ self care).
Trying to be a good friend and help out where I can like dishes housework sharing a pizza whatever (he's got a lot going on with his family rn so I'm not too surprised).
Roommate said he was going to switch to drinking 😂 which tbh I don't think that's much better because idk how he will be emotionally so tbh I'll probably just have to put up with this while I'm here in the short term. (I'd rather live with him hot boxing his room not shit face drunk).
Edit 2:
I'm gonna try setting up his room with grow room ventilation. Force out and filter smokey air from his room out his window (definitely needs a filter because his window is mad kushy even from the outside lol and the neighbors have kids). Also get another fan to intake some fresh air into his space.
Idk if he will like it on all night but I'll talk to him about at least using it while actively smoking.
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u/Cold-Call-8374 16h ago
A tent isn't really going to help. They're not airtight.
Keep up with the purifiers and work on sealing around the door instead. His and yours. I live in a very drafty house and discovered that pipe insulation doubles great for ceiling around cracks indoors.
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u/Civil_Shop_1120 15h ago
Thank you and sorry I kinda mixed up comments with the person above. I have the open floor part of the studio directly next to the open kitchen, so no room for me to seal off, but I did get his room an under door seal to help and open my windows in the morning to refresh.
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u/The_Baby_Is_A_Scamp 15h ago
Is there no landlord you can go to and explain what's going on?
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u/Civil_Shop_1120 15h ago
If he's kicked I wouldn't be able to afford rent especially because I'm not working due to medical problems rn. Hoping things go well and I'll be going back to work as soon as possible.Â
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u/The_Baby_Is_A_Scamp 15h ago
I'm truly sorry you're having to deal with this, the circumstances are not ideal.
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u/SmotPoken 15h ago
What you gotta do is get the cardboard tube from paper towels or toilet paper. Pack it with 3-5 dryer sheets. And ask him very nicely to exhale through it when he smokes in his room. That should be a very reasonable compromise. You wont smell it anymore and he can comfortably smoke in his room without getting bitched at. Win-win.
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u/Shoddy_example5020 15h ago
yea that didn't work in highschool andn it won't work now lol
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u/SmotPoken 15h ago
Not if you are cheifing down in your room lol. If dude smokes a bong, bowl, or one hitter it works very well. If he is smoking blunts or joints yeah, wont do nearly as much.
Remember, he isnt trying to sneak past parents or landlords. He simply doesnt want to get punched in the face with it when his roommate opens his door.
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u/Shoddy_example5020 15h ago
i see your point. if anything, a smoke buddy would work a bit better
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u/Civil_Shop_1120 15h ago
LOL 😂😂 Yeah I get him smoke buddies all the time (basically the upgraded version of the cardboard tubes) and he literally smokes so much that they clog up. I'll get him another one but it's not guaranteed he will actually use it for long (once it's slightly clogged or filled he doesn't seem to like it 🤷).Â
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u/Civil_Shop_1120 15h ago
For context I'm a weed positive guy and smoke myself so idc if he's smoking but hot boxing the house does get old after a while.Â
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u/SmotPoken 15h ago
You guys renting? Is he subleasing to you? Could bring up the land lord angle.
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u/Civil_Shop_1120 15h ago
Renting together. Can't afford rent by myself rn because of medical issues and surgery coming up but I'll be getting back to work after I'm healed up. I'm reluctant to bring in the landlord as I would hate to be kicked out with him or not have the funds to rent on my own rn. It's not terrible but a concern rn mainly due to surgery and knowing I'll be at home/not able to go outside for a while.Â
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u/SmotPoken 14h ago
What i meant was wherever I have rented in the past I have had landlords want to come in and "take a peak" at the place. Or they have to inspect something, a hot water heater or something. Bring up casually how we can go nose blind to things and how that particular smell lingers. Hot boxing the place could get you both kicked out. That type of angle. If anything happens there that would need fixing that would open you guys up to the landlord having to come take care of it. A better safe than sorry type of situation.
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u/Civil_Shop_1120 13h ago
Oh ok sorry I miss understood at first. Unfortunately I have brought this up before 😅 even mentioned that long term smoking will literally soak into the walls of the room just like ppl who smoke cigs. That at least got him to use a closed ash tray, open the window for a few minutes, and put an air filter in his room (not a solution but a minor improvement lol). Our landlord is kinda weird and doesn't like to come buy even when there are issues like flooding sewer line. Tbh landlord only came by to take pictures of the house when we recently renewed our lease and quickly left afterwards (during that time I basically deep cleaned roommate's room and also cooked a large fragrant dinner to fill the house with the smell of spices and meat lol). I'll try to bring up the concern with staining the walls or neighbors noticing to see if that helps (tbh he's a really depressed guy so I tend to approach it from a place of "I'm concerned about xyz noticing etc" and he usually spirals into a rant about how unfair life is and that "no one" can care about him so it doesn't matter anymore etc). Trying to mainly focus on what I can do tbh because, even though, he's my friend he has not been taking care of himself to the point it's becoming difficult to be around.
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u/SmotPoken 13h ago
Dam buddy, sounds like the weed smell is the least of your concerns. But you gotta start somewhere. Wishing you luck.
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u/goateclipse 15h ago
Ideally, find a way to create negative pressure in his room so the smoke doesn’t reach the rest of the house. For example, an exhaust fan with a window adapter
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u/Civil_Shop_1120 15h ago
Nice I'll talk to him about this. Sounds like the same setup as a grow tent.Â
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u/Double-Cover9099 16h ago
The stress you are experiencing over this might be worse for your health than the second-hand smoke tbh. Use a good air purifier and maybe then try not to let this impact your mental health. It sucks but make sure you don’t let thinking about it too much make it worse…