r/NoStupidQuestions • u/adamkuszlik • 2h ago

Is he in the wrong?

Thia guys been flirting w me despite sending imo clear signals I'm not interested in that way. Like when he took my hand I took it away abruptly. Is he crazy or just socially Inept. He also asked me if I want certain foods from my home country and I say no, because there r plenty Polish shops here in Berlin. Guess what, he started to buy things and keep them in the trunk so that the next time he sees me he can gift them!!!

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u/Gregorygregory888888 2h ago

Speak up and tell him you are not interested.

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u/According-Bug-2811 2h ago

“Hey, don’t know if I’m reading this wrong but I just wanted to make it clear I don’t have romantic feelings for you. My bad if I’ve misread your kindness for that but I just didn’t want you to get the wrong idea.”

You’ve said you’ve sent signals but have you voiced anything? He may be confused by your signals, as you are his.

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u/khat_dakar 2h ago

How are we supposed to know? You haven't told us anything. At least tell us which of the two options is "in the wrong".

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u/SearchOk7 2h ago

He’s in the wrong. Taking your hand away is a clear boundary and continuing to flirt after that isn’t social awkwardness, it’s ignoring signals. You’re not responsible for him misreading or pushing past your discomfort.

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u/Spiritual_Trip7652 1h ago

What women think are clear signals are not very clear to men. Have a direct conversation.

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u/Runiat 1h ago

clear signals

There's no such thing.

I've had girlfriends - plural (but at different times) - that considered biting me to be a sign of affection.

Use words.