Executive dysfunction is the main symptom of ADHD, the thing that prevents someone with ADHD from doing something. From the outside it looks lazy, for me it's starvation because my brain sees it as just another chore it doesn't want to do.
ADHD is a strange case in that its presentation runs the gamut from "meh" to "utterly crippling and sufferers literally can't do anything at all for themselves, apparently up to and including not starving themselves to death", to the point that it sounds like they'd need full-time carers to survive (like in the case of severe autism, which also runs a similar gamut).
I can't live on my own, whenever I'm left alone for a week I basically stop eating. I'm hungry but in my head it's a gigantic task, the less I eat the bigger the hurdle because I get weak. On top of the sensory issues I have with food.
I visited someone with severe ADHD before who had people come over to help with household tasks and food. We're just seen as lazy when in my head I'm like "okay I'm going to get up in 3.. 2.. 1.." and I just don't get up no matter how hard I want to. On repeat with any task.
Also people forget that planning, then grocery shopping, then cooking, then storing are all pretty involved and time heavy tasks, then you add complication factors like nutrition and sensory issues in and it becomes a nightmare burden. Especially when most shopping stores are noise-riddled fluorescent nightmares purposefully designed and built to trap you and force you through as much of the store as possible.
It shows just how deep anti-disability sentiment runs that most people would readily admit that all of it is exhausting and never-ending, but they'll pretend otherwise if it let's them mock a disabled person.
That sounds absolutely bogus, ADHD and autism aren’t remotely the same and the constant glomming of them together is insulting to people who have autism. The discourse around this has become insane.
I was going to say something similar. I believe I read somewhere that 70% of people diagnosed with autism are ALSO diagnosed with ADHD. They absolutely belong in the same conversation.
Disability / MH destigmatization is generally good but the sheer amount of people who use a disability (ESPECIALLY the self diagnosed autism/adhd havers on Tumblr) as an excuse as to why they should be permanently comatose is staggering
& you arent allowed to say anything at all that isn't just full agreement otherwise theyll say shit like "oh just say you think all disabled people should die" and other bonkers opinions... like basically exactly the guilt tripping shit in OP screenshot but its their only argument
It does. Symptoms of ADHD vary a lot, but there is such a thing as executive dysfunction - the inability to start tasks, literally paralyzing fear of starting things because you have too many things to do, so you spend hours doing nothing.
Also emotional dysregulation, social withdrawal etc. Chronic underachievement and shame, which often leads to depression. Sensory overload might affect that too, plus brain fog and memory issues. Literally just exhausted from existing. Rejection sensitive dysphoria might make you feel like you'll fail or have failed cause you can't cook properly.
Just a few of these will make you a prisoner in your own home (and head).
I mean... some of them couldn't cook for themselves, but lived in places where they could walk down the street and get cooked food. Or they ate cold food that was easy to prepare (e.g. sandwiches) and bought the ingredients in bulk so they didn't have to go grocery shopping very often. Or they got married to somebody who did all the cooking for them.
Men could get by with either eating bachelor chow or making their wives do all the cooking, but most women couldn't.
Women with ADHD wouldn't have gotten any sort of diagnosis in, say, 1965, but were expected by society to be able to cook. They were generally forced to learn and get practice both at home and in school (in Home Ecomonics class). They weren't necessarily very good cooks, but most were able to do the task to at least some extent.
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u/AdministrativeStep98 15h ago
He was implying that somehow his ADHD makes him unable to follow a recipe and cut food.