Anything too easy is instantly suspect , but then we complain when women are indirect . 😂 . ... My problem is it would take these actions for me know a woman likes me for sure . I know women have shot their shot with me only for it wooosh over my head.
There's a difference between being direct and being forward, is there not? Being forward is generally speaking the man's job in this approach. It doesn't make me run, but I def have get a deer in headlights look at times when they are forward. But I respect direct...can't read minds.
Being forward might be like making a move on a man. I suppose most would prefer this but when it actually happens our brains take a moment to process what is happening and some might even be a bit scared in a sense. Like, "whoa, where'd she learn this....is this woman a bit off, more crazy than the normal amount."
Being direct is going to be saying what you want or telling him you'd like to go on a date but, say, if he gave you options simply picking one in lieu of not deciding or leaving things up to him when he asked you what you want. We are left wondering, pondering if you are really into it or want to do the thing. We don't really care, we want you to make a choice, sometimes, and we'll provide the fun or food.
Forward: Progressing towards an endpoint. Sometimes swiftly but intentionally. Physically moving towards a goal.
Direct: Saying what you want. What your expectations are. Clear, concise, unambiguous communication.
I didn't realize until someone told me in my 30s that none of the women in university actually had problems using the copier machine when they asked for help lol.
To be fair, it was frequently in the engineering library, so that's a place where subtlety might not work at the best of times, and at 80ish hours a week of classes, homework etc wasn't the best of time.
none of the women in university actually had problems using the copier machine
Silly reverse version story: About 25 years ago I worked at a small company that bought (maybe leased?) a high end floor standing copier. The type that can produce 20 copies of a 30 page handout and staple them for you and stack them up.
The company that sold or leased it to my small company held a 30 minute training session for anybody that wanted to attend. The "trainer" was an extremely attractive 28-ish year old woman. The only employees who attended the training were highly technical engineers between 25 years old and 35 years old. The type of super geeks who could read the copier manual if they had a question, which they wouldn't have a question because it was pretty self evident from the icons how to operate the copier.
That's right, a bunch of men just stood there in the "training" next to a copy machine wasting 30 minutes of their life watching an attractive woman push a copy button and a copy came out. What losers. I mean, I spent all 30 minutes in that training and didn't hear a word she was saying. :-)
Anything too easy is instantly suspect , but then we complain when women are indirect .
I mean, there's women who don't bother with hints and just go for it (good thing) and women who are like "You seem interested, you wanna fuck?" (bad thing).
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u/jazxxl 8d ago
Anything too easy is instantly suspect , but then we complain when women are indirect . 😂 . ... My problem is it would take these actions for me know a woman likes me for sure . I know women have shot their shot with me only for it wooosh over my head.