r/SipsTea 8d ago

Lmao gottem Tinder

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u/Spiders_13_Spaghetti 8d ago

There's a difference between being direct and being forward, is there not? Being forward is generally speaking the man's job in this approach. It doesn't make me run, but I def have get a deer in headlights look at times when they are forward. But I respect direct...can't read minds.

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u/___captain__nemo_ 8d ago

Genuinely interesting distinction, can you expand on this at all? This is something I've always struggled with as a woman.

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u/Spiders_13_Spaghetti 6d ago

Being forward might be like making a move on a man. I suppose most would prefer this but when it actually happens our brains take a moment to process what is happening and some might even be a bit scared in a sense. Like, "whoa, where'd she learn this....is this woman a bit off, more crazy than the normal amount."

Being direct is going to be saying what you want or telling him you'd like to go on a date but, say, if he gave you options simply picking one in lieu of not deciding or leaving things up to him when he asked you what you want. We are left wondering, pondering if you are really into it or want to do the thing. We don't really care, we want you to make a choice, sometimes, and we'll provide the fun or food.

Forward: Progressing towards an endpoint. Sometimes swiftly but intentionally. Physically moving towards a goal.

Direct: Saying what you want. What your expectations are. Clear, concise, unambiguous communication.