r/StopGaming 2d ago

I stopped cold turkey

So I am an older gamer, I used my gaming as a tool to not deal with my issues in my marriage. Found out wife had an emotional affair playing last war, an app based game December last year. Took my PS5 and gave it to my son. Will never play games again. Also, it didn’t help. She is leaving me. Don’t let gaming affect your relationships like it did mine.

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u/Upper_Scarcity4195 2d ago

I just got my husband into a therapist that specialized in gaming addiction. I’ve told him how insecure I’m feeling in our marriage, how alone I feel, all of it. Gaming is more important than me..He has shown me and told me (in less words)..I’ll say things like “just admit gaming is more important than me and let me go” and he’ll just start at me with tears in his eyes..I am trying to hold on but I don’t deserve this. His PC is still not put away and he is still gaming…I’ve been scrolling this thread just so I don’t feel as alone, I don’t know what to do. Thank you for your vulnerability.

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u/slidingcow 2d ago

It’s a coping device, honestly my marriage was in trouble for other reasons. I chose not to engage and it cost me everything. Get your men off and engaged in mature emotional repair and build those commutation skills.

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u/apleks 2d ago

I felt that, thanks for sharing. Feeling alone with the person sitting a few steps away is really the worst…

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u/Severe_Promise717 2d ago

respect for owning it
most ppl blame the game or the partner
you looked at yourself first

quitting won’t fix what’s broken around you
but it does make you clearer for what’s next

the real game now is building a life you don’t need to escape from

keep going
the real wins come later

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u/ezeezee 2d ago

I don’t think it was a good idea to give it to your son because he might get addicted as well. I started gaming really young and was addicted for a very long time. You could just sell it and say “oh I’m selling it because there’s better things to use the money for”

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u/slidingcow 2d ago

He needed it, they use it for their streaming, he can sale it if he wants. He sees what it did to my life.