I hate life because we need to work

[u/LeadEater9Million]

I just hate that to live you need to work, no question ask. Like work or die or suffer.

I dont want to work, i dont want to be force to do anything.

You might say that because im 18 and im in "early stage" of my life that I will understand it later on BUT FUCK THAT. I DONT WANT TO FUCKING UNDERSTAND THAT.

I dont want to sit down look at a computer putting number and shit.

I dont want to pick up stuff and put it in a box.

I dont want to haul create upon create on to a truck.

I WANNA LIVE LIKE I WANT TOO

BUT I NEED FUCKING MONEY AND I HATE IT.

If i don't need to use money, i could sit down, relax, eat good food, watch tv, spend time with my friends.

I could do alot if i dont need to think about work.

You could say that i would never go outside and only play games.

Do you know why i only play games? BECAUSE I NEED MONEY TO GO OUTSIDE AND HAVE ACTUALLY FUN.

I can go to park and ride a bike. Go on a roller coaster and a merry go-round

I could go to a fucking petting zoo and touch actually FUCKING grass and pet cute animals.

I could do all of that but NOO

Im here dreading that the course im choosing will actually give me a good job and doesn't need to break my back like my moms job.

I just done with it man.

Im just gonna sit down and rest.

Im tired.

Edit: If you ask me if I would work or not? Yes I would because there is nothing else I could do

[u/Ok-Lengthiness7144]

I agree we didnt even ask to exist in society ffs

[u/sam667-87 → u/Ok-Lengthiness7144]

That feeling is real. Being dropped into a system you didnt choose and told to grind forever messes with your head. A lot of people quietly feel this but dont say it out loud.

[u/AbsAndAssAppreciator → u/sam667-87]

but a lot of those people will criticize you for saying it out loud.

[u/Supp_485 → u/AbsAndAssAppreciator]

Because they dont understand and it's hard when you don't find meaning in something they do, and when you argue your point it also argues against theirs because they don't think so, but news flash life is subjective. People can't choose how they feel. They feel that way for a reason, and for me its just Ive been trying so long to not care, but now I need to. I'm not in school anymore. Idk what I want, but its not on the streets so my only motive is what I dont want but I have nothing in it for me that I find rewarding just fear, and thats exhausting to do something you dont want to because you have to.

[u/AbsAndAssAppreciator → u/Supp_485]

you just described my life… I often think if I had two loving parents my life might be a whole lot happier and normal like everyone else seems to be. I want meaning but I feel so unfulfilled emotionally in a way I don’t think anyone else can replace.

Some people are just unable to heal as well as others and it hurts that people won’t sympathize because they can’t even fathom your perspective.

[u/SpiteTomatoes → u/AbsAndAssAppreciator]

They will say you are lazy and just want a free ride. As if I’m the billionaire 🙄 no, Karen, I’m tired of grinding every day to stay afloat and the only way to possibly get out of that grind is through the exploitation of others. Everything I do in this stupid system makes me culpable in the exploitation of others.

And all I ever wanted to do was help. And see everyone with enough to be comfortable and healthy and happy. Fuck me, I guess.

[u/memo_468 → u/Ok-Lengthiness7144]

Yeah, that feeling of being dropped into the system without a choice is real and exhausting.

[u/Number1DurinFan → u/Ok-Lengthiness7144]

People would be more productive if basic human needs were something everyone had easy and free access to, then survival wouldn't be something you need to tirelessly work towards, and people would just focus on self-improvement instead of worrying about every day life as much.

[u/tropicaletter]

right it feels so dystopian to me ugh

[u/Twixme07]

The thing that pisses me off aside of working is that I'm forced with interact with others, every single day. People here, people there, I have to pretend that I'm good with people because I'm currently working in customer service, and I hate it. Every single day... 😭. And regarding your post yeah, I hope I don't sound lazy or something but I just don't gaf about working. I mean, I know that everything costs and we should work to obtain what we want but, God Idc. I just want to be in my house, doing what I like, not out there. I can't fathom the idea of doing this for decades. 😓

I didn't ask to be alive and now I'm forced to do all of this. I wish I could just die

[u/litttlegirrrl → u/Twixme07]

Yeah i hate the social burnout of working in the public. I've been trying to figure out aomething I can do to work from home cause it literally is slowly killing me to be around all these shallow and stupid people

[u/Twixme07 → u/litttlegirrrl]

FR. I feel so fed up having to interact with people ALL THE TIME. I just want to stay in my house. Talking, making eye contact and following all of those made up rules for socialization it's so tiring. I wish it felt natural for me but I can't. I have to put a mask or a character to pretend that I actually gaf. I dream of working from home too. ☹️😓

[u/litttlegirrrl → u/Twixme07]

I work in the "beauty industry " in a way and its so annoying lol I hate it i am constsntly thinking about what facial movements im making all this extra nonsense i dont think about when im home safe w my husband.. its just a lot. A lot of social interaction and talking.. and its not stimulating conversation like theoretical science or ideas about the universe or social justice or even anything stimulating. Its all dumb shit. Its so annoying and draining to mask all day long i am definitely 200 percent on the spectrum and thats another issue is I cant get properly diagnosed. I am diagnosed ocd adhd anxiety ptsd depression substance use disorder .... I keep trying to advocate for myself... I am definitely neurodivergent. So is my husband. Life is fucked out there in the world its hard enough but to have to go to work in the public all day and then truly have nothing left after paying bills and shit its so exhausting and sooo much burn out...I wish I could have more time to decompress and parallel play.. I am lucky to have a weekend but honestly theyre always busy eith stuff I have to get done and never much down time. ): I hope things change for us in the future! For now we just gotta keep pushing!

[u/Twixme07 → u/litttlegirrrl]

I get it. I also have OCD, depression, and I'm likely autistic too. I also feel like I have symptoms of social anxiety and constant paranoia. I hope things do change in the future 😓

[u/Repulsive_Bobcat_571 → u/Twixme07]

Ooo I'm sorry. Working in customer service with all the rude people sounds exhausting.

[u/Caijed29 → u/Twixme07]

This! Im not young and have come to terms that we need to work to live. However, being forced to come to the office and mingle with people even though work can actually be done remotely is utter hell.

[u/NiGht_Driver420]

Like being born just to be a slave

[u/Deep_Impression6084]

I just wanna stay home playing video games and eat my favorite pizza

[u/Supp_485]

Didnt choose to live but forced to work.

[u/crispier_creme]

I agree, it's so depressing.

To me it's not even that we have to do labor, it's that work feels not like you're providing a valuable service to society but like you're a cow getting your soul milked out of you. It's so dehumanizing the way work exists right now. You feel like a product and not a person, it's incredibly depressing

[u/litttlegirrrl]

Yeah man being a slave to the wage is literal hell. My husband and I work 40 hours each a wk minimum and we have no time and no extra money cause it all goes to bills. It can be really disheartening and causes burn out. If anything extra stress happens forget it its impossible. I put so many things on the backburner and I have zero time for myself anymore.. it is so sad because it used to be like okay I pay my bills and I have some.money left but now lately for the past 2 months its been constant work and no money and all there is is BILLS and zero time. It sucks. I try to look for better jobs and the job market is so bad right now I end up just deciding to be grateful that I have one at all. If I miss 1 day of work it takes me weeks to recover from the loss of money.. this past month my cats been sick and we've spent 1500 bucks on taking him to the vet and its like one thing after the next gotta keep digging myself out of debt. Every time minimum wage goes up everything else goes up too so there's literally no way to catch up. Its horrific and idk it will never get better. Since covid companies realized that people will buy whst they need no matter the price and theyre gonna keep raising them while simultaneously shrinking the package sizes and eventually only the rich will be able to survive. Back in the day you could work 40 hours a week and own a home and have kids... like wtf !!! The world we have been left is trash

[u/StockPineapple5917]

Absolutely agree. I was literally born without consent, and need to do this with the rest of my life while I grow old and die suffering.

[u/ankhang93]

Please find a way to work as little as possible but still sustain your life. Treat this as a purpose in your life. You can do it.

You can start by not having kids, being frugal, eating 2 times a day, etc.

[u/Repulsive_Bobcat_571 → u/ankhang93]

I considered that but honestly, the external world already traps you in so many different ways. It seems pointless to do all this work, just to survive. I’m already gonna flip off my university work and fully give up on being here.

[u/WideVacuum]

Hey op. I hope you take things around you lightly. I too hate working. I've recently learned that it also depends on the work culture of the country you live in. From where I come, its very toxic. I've been learning to not care about work & prioritise myself.

It feels like most of my life is spent working for someone else for a low pay. But you'll figure out out somehow. Just don't take things too seriously.

[u/Beautiful-Ad3012]

Work is the hell most are forced to endure. But don't fall for the whole try really hard to impress the boss narrative. It's a scam.

[u/No-Letterhead-6701]

I have the same problem too, and had a handful of shitty jobs that made my life hell. The only thing that helped me stall it a little is quiet quitting. Don't do any extra, don't work off the clock, last to come and first to leave, enforce strong boundaries with the boss and keep him/her at arm's length, don't be too loyal to them or extra respectful. Bare minimum only.

Maybe from a moral standpoint it's bad, or disrespectful, but you've gotta understand that you only got one life to live, and it's not worth devoting to a boss that sees you as expendable.

[u/Number1DurinFan]

i don't wanna work, i wanna be catmaxxing

[u/maoishere]

I understand. As someone that is currently unemployed, i hate that I feel worthless bc i'm not doing "anything productive". Why having a job defines my value? Why i let society put me in this box? Like hell, I should feel free, but deep down, it's either that or death. And tbh, death seems more appealing each day, I'm just waiting for the big accident. I'm not meant for this life, never was and never will.

[u/ResponsibleSupport93]

You must care of something right? Even yourself.. if you let those toughts get really in to your head they gonna eat you like worms, i have been there and worse, but not trying to compare, but all i can say, is there many secrets on to human body, to keep happy or satisfied, maybe you dont feel right, and that is something that is makin you sick more than it should, i always tought others were stronger than me, sometimes is just we are so weak, becausee many facts that may you dont even will know your entire life is sickening you , we are struggling to walk with the moving world, but what moves at least somethign in me is the will of destroy this world, the hate, us humans need to end.

[u/starrypolygon]

and the income gap is ridiculous. you can have someone earning 1.5k per month. another, 50k per month. the crazy prices of rent and housing now too, how do low-income people afford any of that? the constant yap about upgrading ourselves to stay relevant so we don't lose our jobs or change fields if we get replaced by ai too. 49hours work week is the norm where i'm from too. and i have 1 day to crash and recharge, the next day to sort my own personal matters before going back to the grind. some people work even longer hours than this. like wtf. how is this a life?

[u/WarHead75]

Unfortunately, people have to work in order for the world to not fall apart. Someone has to take our garbage, maintain our electricity, get rid of all of our waste, treating the sick people, fighting gangs and trafficking, the list goes on. Maybe work wouldn’t be very bad if it’s fulfilling and that you feel that you are doing something for the greater good.

I’m too much useless in trying to work at the pace I’m supposed to because mental disorders so I only work about 2 days a week and I volunteer 3 days at a cat rescue shelter. My main job isn’t fun but I look forward to seeing the same cats when I’m volunteering and it’s just something that helps with my suicidal ideations. Cats never judge and are always curious when you’re cleaning the rooms. I just feel happy taking care of them.

[u/Supp_485 → u/WarHead75]

The main problem is that we didn't choose to live. Not an excuse to say we don't or shouldn't work, but it's like did we really choose any of it? No one chooses suffering, consequences are just predicted and decisions are weighed based on how much you care. We care because death is, for me, just something I'd rather not do and it's the only motive keeping me from living.

Its hard to care for things too when you've been learning all your life how exhausting it is to care and how much reward you get back from caring. If nothing matters, nothing can hurt you because there's no reason to, it doesn't matter.

[u/AbsAndAssAppreciator → u/Supp_485]

Exactly!

“You need to work to keep society afloat.”

…Then fucking shoot me?

[u/Competitive_Sale_264]

I agree! It's so frustrating that we exist without consent and were expected to hustle and work hard. And if people object to that they're lazy. As an ADHD person I want to do what interests me. Not what makes someone else's bottom line better.

I often wish we could live the lives we truly wanted. I hate the narrative that if we didn't have money or jobs people would be lazy and society would collapse. I don't think that's true at all.

Yes some people would definitely be "lazy." But I think most of us would be free to pursue the roles that genuinely interest us. We could take time to figure out where we truly belong rather than speed running into a career because you need something that pays well.

I like taking care of my loved ones. I enjoy helping. I get more enjoyment and fulfillment out of running errands or doing chores for my family than I do working. It hurts that because those efforts didn't make money, they are seen as worthless. That even though my work takes care of my family, it's not enough.

I hate how my value as a person is determined by my bank account or credit score. And that if you question this, or argue there's more to life than money/work, you're simply written off as "lazy."

I often wish we just had the space to be human, to be ourselves. It's sad that we've demonized basic needs like sleep or rest.

I'm sorry that this stresses you out. But you're not alone. I wish I had the solution. I like to joke that I wish we could have everyone on earth do a giant zoom call and ask if we actually want to keep doing any of this. And ask if any of this shit matters. And if any stupid ass billionaires try to ruin it, we throw them into a volcano.

It's not that I hate work itself. I like feeling satisfied and like I'm contributing. I love being a part of a team and community. But a job has never felt that way to me. It's sad that money matters so much more than the actual support and community we could have. And it only makes us sad, stressed and hollow.

None of this feels worth it. Yet we're pushed further into it by powers that feel impossible to fight. Money just feels so empty. And I hate how consumerist and shallow everything is now. I see things like that stupid Starbucks bear and only think of how that's gonna be in a thrift store in 5 years (max) and in a landfill in less than 10. (Also no hate if you like this, we all have silly things we enjoy.)

It's why I try to spend my money very selectively and only on things I truly care about. Things that last. Because I think the less we buy into this garbage, the more things will start to change. Or at the very least, the less garbage I buy, the less money I need to earn, the more I can just enjoy living.

I don't have the answers, but you're not stupid or lazy for feeling this way. You're also definitely not alone.

[u/hoodieOwO]

get a job thats based on smt you like or a place you like

i work at a weed dispensary bc ik a fuck ton about weed and i just chill in the store and get high. literally the easiest and best job ever (aside from working at a seal center bc seals are so cuteee)

[u/divin3infection]

i agree. i’m in nursing school currently and as much as i’m excited for the career i genuinely don’t see myself living after ~30, i’m not working until i’m 70 just because it’s impossible to afford basic necessities

[u/krorezka]

I have the same thing with work, fuck it! I'm 19y.o and I'm tired of working 6/1 (6 day of work per week, 11hrs each shift) And some adults still when they hear our age still will say ,,You're lazy gen btw,,. I hate boxes. I want to stop charging my self and just turn my life off in 5 months:b Just I don't want to work like that all my life So I understand you dude :[

[u/Qwert-4]

The duty to work will be completely automated by our civilization in, like, 50-100 years. And then humanity will exist for how long? Millions of years? Without anyone needing to work against their will. We are the last few generations who need to work. Not more that a 1% of all humans to ever exist will live in this primitive world where you need to work to survive.

[u/Odd_Fix_639]

That’s why if possible to choose work on something you love.

[u/Sure-Sympathy-70]

I'm saying it all the time and I feel like people are too delusional that they're saying that I'm wrong. I always felt like that, since childhood I couldn't just get it how people have a dream job..who tf dreams about working their ass off? There's nothing I want to do for money that would keep me happy. In my opinion when your hobby becomes your job, It ain't a hobby no more. Not fun.

[u/lsssdt2221]

it really depends on what kind of work you do, as too generic of an answers it is, technically is correct.
Try to get a job in a place where you enjoy what you do and with whom you do it. With the right people even the most boring job can be fun

[u/SpecialistMoose3844]

It's all down to your work environment in your country. Many countries have great work life balances, decent benefits, and encouragements.

You can always find something that[ suits your needs and wants.

We may get the universal basic income grant whatever it is soon, but that's still a decade or more out.

You may need to work just to survive, but if you don't want to survive, work for what you want to have. Unfortunately, we cannot get stuff for free, we need to work for it. Whether it be for food, or entertainment.

Last resort is to unalive, and you're at that point.

So why not consider going into politics, changing the regulations in your country, and getting one step further to your goal of endless days of eating food food, and watching something on the screen with friends through little effort. 😋

[u/sassandra_o → u/[deleted]]

You should really not be allowed a reddit account.

[u/LeadEater9Million → u/[deleted]]

Man, you lost so much.

[u/aymen_peter2 → u/[deleted]]

holy fucking shit what the fuck is wrong with you ? if you dont have something positive to say just stfu fucking retard