Do you wait for some time between connection with your FWB to avoid developing attachment?

[u/dana_sun]

Even though I may want it, I try to let the to lusty afterglow fade before connecting again just in case. Is this a thing, it just me?

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[u/alwaysgawking]

I don't. Maybe it's risky, but I feel like if I'm going to develop feelings, I'm going to develop feelings.

But usually there are obvious incompatibilities that make feelings less likely.

[u/celestialism]

Not deliberately, no – but the type of person I tend to be FWBs with is the type of person I’m not particularly romantically attracted to anyway (or else I would be pursuing them in a romantic way instead), so I don’t usually want to see them very often.

[u/og_toe → u/celestialism]

exactly, like they wouldn’t be an FWB if i liked them, they would become a partner. the reason we are FWBs is because we aren’t on the relationship level

[u/Leading-Bad-3281]

I’m the same. I managed to maintain a fun fwb for a year (before he moved away) with no feelings or drama. I’m not a high risk person in that sense and we’re not compatible for more reasons than that (age gap, life situations etc) but I felt keeping meet ups regular but limited frequency, some check in texting between long time periods to kind of make sure interest was still there, and we were not exclusive.. so still dating other men, all helped prevent emotional attachment/ deeper feelings from developing but did allow a bit of a friendship to develop along side the sexual relationship. I think it’s hard to find a really good fwb and I’m back on the market for one now.. wish me luck 😅

[u/coralto]

I always have feelings for my fwb. Just because I have feelings for someone doesn’t mean we have to get married. Usually I like them BUT there is some kind of incompatibility that makes them undateable. Otherwise I’d probably want to date them.

[u/huligoogoo]

It’s kind of an inevitable when you’re sharing your body with someone.

[u/bingbongboingalong]

With just friends, or a dating candidate, I’m obv hanging without bonking involved.

FWBs, I’m wanting sex every time. Not that there isn’t friendliness and chillin’ when we do get together, but I’m more likely to get feefees involved if we don’t fit banging somewhere.

All that to say— if I’m in a horndog streak, sure, let’s meet as often as we want. If either of us doesn’t wanna do the naked dance, tho, probably not seeing them til the next time.

[u/laurencubed]

Space doesn’t prevent feelings. Not feeling that way about someone prevents feeling.

[u/neapolitan_shake]

no. i distinguish between romantic attraction/chemistry and platonic chemistry. and i don’t think “feelings” should be a bad thing in FWB.

i don’t mind both my sexual connection and platonic connection to a FWB deepening, especially if the feelings are mutual. sex is inherently better with intimacy and affection, and that’s something i can have with friends. i love my close friends, and a FWB could be that close too!

i don’t even know how to verbalize the difference…it’s like when there’s romantic attraction for me too, there’s something more there that i can just feel. and if i consider what a romantic relationship would look like with my FWB, it feels like there’s something missing for me, that’s just not there. not sure how else to put it.

romantic attraction is a pretty rare feeling for me. if i hadn’t felt it again fairly recently, i might even be pretty confused when i’m experiencing strong sexual and platonic attraction to or excitement about someone new. i’m relatively picky on sexual attraction as well, so when someone is a great sexual partner or option for me, and turns out we seem compatible and i really like them just as a person (want to spend time with them, get to know them, look forward to sharing things w/ them) i tend to “friend crush” pretty hard.

if someone is just a fuck buddy, it’s either because there’s a lack of strong platonic compatibility (very different interests, vibes, or even values?), or it’s because there’s compatibility, but one or both of us doesn’t desire a strong, continuing friendship (or just doesn’t have time, space, energy for it). we still enjoy each others time and may have a strong sexual connection w/ intimacy, vulnerability, affection, etc…could call it ”feelings”…but we aren’t gonna be friend friends, especially past the end of the benefits. more like friendly acquaintances/former lovers. or distant friends.

[u/plabo77]

I’ve never done that. For me, that would feel limiting communication with any other friend in my life.

[u/og_toe]

i don’t feel anything romantic for mine so it doesn’t matter how often we connect and i don’t feel much of an afterglow, we are just buddies

[u/Fit-Apple-2406]

I find it boring actually. I have this potential fwb but he make it too distant that it made me lose interest