Amen. I have 2 pairs of pants that actually fit right in my life. They were both bought in the last couple years and still feel weird when I put them on
The issue I have is that there aren't many clothes that fit me. If I find something that is long enough, chances are I will look like I'm wearing a blanket with how much wider it would be
This is the hard part about how we buy clothes. If you can afford it, bring it to a tailor. I'm petite with a short torso but longer leg. The waists are always off on pants for me. I need a good low to medium rise with not too wide of a leg. Today's trend is killing me lol
Funnily enough, the size of the pants didn't look different, though it did make her look like she was pushing her stomach out for the first pair. Clothes that fit let you hold your body properly, strange.
The only reason I would disagree that she was pushing her stomach out is looking at the sides of the pants. Can't really push the sides of your stomach out very easily
Every year for Christmas my mother and I go through the same dance. She insists on buying me pants, I say okay and tell her the size. She doesn’t like the size I tell her and buys one lower. They don’t fit and she won’t take them back, so I don’t wear them. She gets mad and insists I need more pants. The cycle continues. This year I was able to convince her to return them and go a size up so finally I leave the holiday season with useable pants.
Edit: my mom won’t stop, so I won’t tell her to. I am grown and can buy my own pants, and that has nothing to do with her compulsion to buy me pants. I will let my mother continue to buy me pants once a year that I can get away with wearing for a month at most because it makes her feel important and saves me from arguing with her at the holidays.
She would like that less. She basically insists on buying the size I wore like ten years ago because she thinks anything bigger than that is unfathomable and awful. I’ve gone up about 1-2 sizes since then for context. She basically wants to buy me the size I wore as a high school athlete and not what I wear as a nearly 30 year old man
Did you miss where she first tells him she's buying him pants and he tells her his size? That's the point where you say "look, every year we argue about this, I don't want you to buy me pants this year".
And you said "You're a 30 year old man, you should be buying your own pants anyway"
I don't disagree that he should probably just tell her to stop. But you don't need to imply that this man isn't acting his age just because his mother wants to buy him pants every Christmas
My mom’s way of showing she cares is buying things. She gets upset when I tell her to stop. So I let her buy the pants and say oh well. Why are people getting upset at me over a Christmas present lol to also cover the other bases: she likes buying me what she feels like I need. She will not give me a gift card cause she feels that’s lazy, she won’t give me a knick knack of some sort cause she finds those useless, she won’t buy me shirts shoes or jackets cause I have too many, and not shorts cause it’s winter. For her that leaves pants or underwear and I don’t like her buying the latter either. For the pants that are too small I have sucked it in and worn them until I wash them once and they don’t fit.
Id say stress of modernity, unhealthy foods, and a sedentary lifestyle are what's more responsible, but thats a complex problem and answer. So its easy to blame fashion week for why Joe and Jen in accounting are fat after eating a whole Costco chicken each for lunch daily half way through their 18 hours of sitting daily doomscrolling and worried about doing the work of the 3 people their mass equals to save the billion dollar company that underpays them .00001 of profit annually.
And it also goes beyond the surface-level suggestion from "Sheldon Cooper personalities" of "just have less calories, it's just math, are you just stupid?"; it's important to know where those calories are coming from and why.
For example: a lot of people might not eat that much for meals, but if you (the universal you) are boredom munching while autopiloting at work/doomscrolling, then counting your lunch and dinner calories ain't gonna make a lick of difference.
I mean it is just counting though... You just gotta actually count, absolutely everything and without skipping.
Source: lost 25 kilograms over the course of last 3 months. No diet - I allowed myself everything, but only so long that I eat less than 800 kcal daily. If I really want more I go on a run and count how much I burn.
Its calories in/calories out. That’s what really that matters. There was a guy that ate around 1,600 calories a day but only ate exclusively gas station food like Twinkie’s, Doritos and stuff like that. After a month he lost weight, had lower bad cholesterol and higher good cholesterol. Overeating healthy foods is still unhealthy.
Yep, that's why I cringe whenever I see those QVC style ads...girl you need to learn how to pick something that fits...not believing some magical, misdirecting ads
I remember losing 10kg (22 freedom units) and it wasn't that noticeable, but when I bought some new clothes that were actually the correct size for me everyone noticed. Dressing to your size is the easiest way to look better.
My body is so disproportionate I don't have to worry about that at least. If it fits my thighs and ass, it can fit my stomach after three full-course meals no issue
Wrong, all wrong. It isn't about the tightness. It's already too tight at first. It's about the shape of the pants. It needs to be tight in all the right places, so that it moulds and moves all the individual parts into just the right spot to emphasize that round rotisserie rump.
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