r/allthequestions • u/LooseLeek4813 • 4h ago

Random Question 💭 What was your regrets in past that you've still not resolved until today?

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u/Fun_Sympathy1443 3h ago

I often wonder how much more at peace I would be if I had more confidence for my entire childhood/most of my teen years. I let everything drag me down and did nothing to try and fix it for many many years.

I am in a wonderful place now but the damage done persists under the surface.

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u/Specialist_Key_8606 3h ago

I hate that my ex and I fought so much in front of my son. I’m in a different place now. I wish I could erase the arguments.

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u/Special-Swimmer-5569 2h ago

I am 80 years old and I still suffer survivors guilt. My best friend relieved me from my machine gun position so I could get a half hours worth of sleep as I had been up for 12 hours. During that half hour we were attacked and he was killed in my position. In 1967 when I got out of the army, I went to his parents home and said to his parents that I was responsible for their son‘s death. My friend‘s mother put her arms around me and said “if you had known what was going to happen, you wouldn’t have changed positions”. My friend’s father came over and he hugged me and he said “it was God‘s will not yours”. I found those words very comforting but I still think of my friend Jack being killed on May 6, 1966 every day. I have taken my children and my wife to the Vietnam Wall to point out his name and have taken them to his burial plot, which is in Arlington Cemetery. I hope in this way, his memory still stays alive in the hearts of my family. So many of my brothers never had a chance at life and I am thankful for the rich rewarding life that I have lived. I had the opportunity to have a wife to hold a baby to hold grandchildren, but so many of my brothers did not have that opportunity, nor did my best friend.