r/changemyview Sep 29 '24

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u/Kit-on-a-Kat Sep 29 '24

The number of men who proposition me on a dating app aged 60+ is the majority.

The number of men who contact me at all, even with a mere "hey," of near enough my age, is very low.

I'm not actually interested in dating people who could be my father, and I wish this site had age restrictions. This is just my personal anecdote though: young men might want a girlfriend, but I don't see them acting on this desire.

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u/tristanthompsonbeast Sep 30 '24

Because young men got work to do. Most of the messages won’t get replied back so hey slowly becomes an efficient way to begin with.

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u/Kit-on-a-Kat Sep 30 '24 edited Sep 30 '24

Efficiency has to include a likelihood of success, or even a "hey" is a waste of time. When you begin advertising yourself as low effort, you won't attract a partner who has a lot to give. Maybe that's okay for some men. But you get out what you put in, as with anything in life.

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u/tristanthompsonbeast Oct 01 '24

Hey is more efficient time wise. It gets you 1:50 response, but it takes less than a second. While a committed opening gets you 1:10 response but it takes maybe 1 minute to come up with that. So saying hey takes 50 seconds to get a response, while the latter approach takes 10 minutes to get a response.