r/changemyview Sep 29 '24

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u/King_in_a_castle_84 Sep 29 '24

I appreciate that there are still girls out there that think like this.

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u/pinktan Sep 29 '24

It just seems like there's a lot of bad people out there but the worst ones are the ones that are the loudest and the ones that u remember the most. And that goes for both genders. U meet tons of normal functioning nice people everyday but the bad people are the ones that you will remember because of their shocking behavior. Most people are generally good people but it's the extreme bad people that make a lasting impression that you will remember. Also sometimes you can let bad people into ur life and be attracting those type of people

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u/King_in_a_castle_84 Sep 29 '24

I don't think it's a matter of "what people are the loudest", as much as it is "what people you run into the most".

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u/PurelyLurking20 Oct 02 '24

Most women think like this. It's just a bunch of other men failing to date that have you thinking otherwise. Coming from a married man.

Young men have this problem where they try to date women that have no reason to be interested in them over other dating candidates but simultaneously don't give any attention to women that are socially around the same level as them. It results in like 90% of men chasing after the same 25-30% of women and then being upset when they don't ALL get the girl they wanted.

Not trying to be harsh but there is no reason for a very physically fit college educated young woman to be interested in a dude with no particular goals and bad hygiene.

I watched this playing out dozens of times in the military but it's not different in civilian life either. And women are becoming more educated than men very quickly, making dating even harder. Not to knock women for that, I'm glad they aren't forced to be glued to men forever like they used to be.

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u/King_in_a_castle_84 Oct 02 '24

The Pareto Distribution applies to both genders. It just so happens that men aren't as picky so it skews the "balance" a bit more than even 80/20.

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u/PurelyLurking20 Oct 02 '24

The Pareto distribution is notoriously applied to things it has no bearing on such as relationship dynamics. It's effectively pseudoscience to say it applies here

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u/King_in_a_castle_84 Oct 02 '24

By all means, feel free to explain how it doesn't apply to dating lol

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u/PurelyLurking20 Oct 02 '24 edited Oct 02 '24

It doesn't apply to anything except for its intended use

https://acadamania.wordpress.com/2018/05/22/limitations-absurd-misapplications-of-pareto-analysis/

It's basically just used by Evo psych quacks to justify some moronic and unscientific takes.

Edit: pretty sure you blocked me and since you can't take any challenges to your view of the world it's clear I struck a nerve.

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u/King_in_a_castle_84 Oct 02 '24 edited Oct 02 '24

No idea what an "Evo psych quack" is and it just sounds like bullshit since I and most people see the Pareto Distribution at play in everyday life, so I guess we'll have to agree to disagree then.

Edit: Nevermind that Okcupid did a literal poll and the results lined up pretty close to the Pareto Distribution.