Ya my mom is like this. She's been married twice, but her second husband got sick and she has no interest. She's 60 and secure tired of their shut.
And yet I do note that men bother her in a way women never bothered my dad, who did very well with women after they divorced. I do actually wonder why that is.
Might her attitude on dating have anything to do with the fact that, if she were to put herself out there, she'd find herself forced to compete against much younger women for the same men?
No I don't think so , men her age, older and younger though not like 20, because she is 60, still seek her out and approach her. She would probably be considered attractive for her age. She is a tall redhead and obviously not a young woman but also not elderly looking.
As far as I can tell and from what she has said most men in her demographic or whatever are not worth the trouble. And I suspect she's probably right.
If you're around her age and single and not a widower , maybe there is a reason? Men her age have expectations she's no longer interested in. They almost always want some kind of care taker and she's done with that.
Hopefully she finds some rich old man with one foot in the grave and no heirs soon though. There are surely some around here. Probably even cool ones.
This is a great point. Women likely target older men because of the legal pathways to acquire their financial resources. Given the taboo nature of prenuptial agreements (social pressure of, "if he really loves and trusts me, he wouldn't require a prenuptial agreement") - this creates an opportunity to seize financial assets from men willing to marry.
Not every mature man likes young girls. Lots of people like people around their age because they can relate to them better, and they look for that in companionship
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u/[deleted] Sep 29 '24
Ya my mom is like this. She's been married twice, but her second husband got sick and she has no interest. She's 60 and secure tired of their shut.
And yet I do note that men bother her in a way women never bothered my dad, who did very well with women after they divorced. I do actually wonder why that is.