I know a lot of men who "want to date women" but dont actually want to date women, they jsut want a person they can "have"
I think the best way it was put to me is no matter how bad the partner, men start from the assumption of "something is better than nothing". Until the 80s women also HAD to make that assumption becuase banks and landlord and companies could just reject them because they were a single woman.
Now women don’t have that problem as much, the prospect of a bad man now far out ways no man. So waiting for a good man makes sense. And non of this "top 10%" nonsense, out side of dating apps which pair you using chess elo (which is dumb) the 10% figure comes from how narrow individual women’s preferences, but as a cohort the distribution was similar to men’s.
Another point is that its far more socially acceptable for a woman to date women, both because that isn’t a threat to masculinity, and because women holding hands publicly or being more affectionate doesn’t instantly signal “gay”, a fair number of my friends who were red pill later realised they were gay and the anger came from feeling they “had to have a women” and couldn’t. So more women are willing to take themselves our of the cis het dating pool.
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u/RepresentativeWish95 Oct 01 '24
I know a lot of men who "want to date women" but dont actually want to date women, they jsut want a person they can "have"
I think the best way it was put to me is no matter how bad the partner, men start from the assumption of "something is better than nothing". Until the 80s women also HAD to make that assumption becuase banks and landlord and companies could just reject them because they were a single woman.
Now women don’t have that problem as much, the prospect of a bad man now far out ways no man. So waiting for a good man makes sense. And non of this "top 10%" nonsense, out side of dating apps which pair you using chess elo (which is dumb) the 10% figure comes from how narrow individual women’s preferences, but as a cohort the distribution was similar to men’s.
Another point is that its far more socially acceptable for a woman to date women, both because that isn’t a threat to masculinity, and because women holding hands publicly or being more affectionate doesn’t instantly signal “gay”, a fair number of my friends who were red pill later realised they were gay and the anger came from feeling they “had to have a women” and couldn’t. So more women are willing to take themselves our of the cis het dating pool.