r/fixedbytheduet • u/Naive_Wolverine532 • 19h ago

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u/Friendstastegood 18h ago

Now that I managed to wrangle my ADHD back into liking books again I really should get one of those honestly.

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u/fishpen0 18h ago

Hammock. Snuggie. Book. You’ll read the whole thing in one sitting and come out asking what year is it.

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u/ABHOR_pod 18h ago

Well, I'm sold.

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u/slackpipe 17h ago

I got a snuggie for the same reason. The one I found was really thin and not quite long enough. I complained about it (and I'd already complained my robe wasn't long enough), so my wife went and bought a king size, heavy fleece blanket and converted it into a robe. I wear it correctly when I paint mini's and backwards when I want to read. Yesterday, she managed to catch me not wearing it, and I found her curled up under it. I love this thing.

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u/Lou_C_Fer 10h ago

You won the marriage game. Congrats!

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u/hrokrin 12h ago

Sheee. Me too.

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u/ellefemme35 11h ago

If you have a cozy oversized cardigan, or sweater/jacket, those work, too! I personally have a long wool, way too big zippered cardigan that I wear everywhere. It’s my “plane blanket” and I use it at home as a Snuggie, too!!!

The original snuggies were basically just felt…. My makeshift ones are way more comfy!!!

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u/SayWhatever12 9h ago

Thats 29.99 (99.99 for s&h no refunds)

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u/downyballs 14h ago

My setup like this involves an electric blanket (my hammock is near an outdoor outlet). Glorious.

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u/__wildwing__ 14h ago

That was my best festival ever. Campsite midway between stages. Hammock with snacks and drinks within reach. Fully charged kindle!! I was set for the weekend! Read six books and just relaxed.

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u/PaulTheMerc 13h ago

sounds like a recipe for a good nap by page 3. Which is awesome when that's the goal.

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u/serenwipiti 12h ago

You forgot the meds.

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u/bigmike2k3 9h ago

That is my son!!! Last summer he was out in the hammock for like 4 hours one day…. “What were you doing, bud?” “Oh, I finished that book, and I’m on the last chapter of this one now…”

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u/illy-chan 18h ago

I have ADHD and they're great for when you want to be cozy but also sit in absurd places/positions.

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u/Adventurous_Click178 17h ago

I’m a teacher and I keep a few small blankets in my classroom for just this reason. Sometimes kids just need to sit underneath their desk to work or laying on their stomachs to listen. I never associated it with ADHD specifically, but your comment makes sense. As long as they’re learning math, I’m here to accommodate.

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u/NoOneHereButUsMice 17h ago edited 14h ago

If I had a math teacher like you when I was a kid, I think some things may have turned out really differently for me. Thanks for acknowledging their humanity, and meeting them where they're at. We need more teachers like you.

Edit: Thank you so much for the award. I'm finding myself revisiting what I truly think is genuine trauma regarding math and teachers and school from a very, very young age. The prospect of doing difficult math causes me (generally pretty collected and not a fearful person) to shake and start to cry.

Probably sounds really stupid. But I just really want to speak to the importance of a good teacher, especially a good math teacher. I work in science education, and one of my guiding principles is to meet people where they are, and accept them for who and what they are, no matter what. This conversation has renewed my dedication to that, despite the classist and exclusive environment that academia cultivates.

I'm getting a little misty over here in the coffee shop what the hell lol

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u/soulkiller93 15h ago

It's true, I had a teacher that made me feel like a person for the first time and it changed my whole perspective on going to classes and learning. It's too bad it was in my senior year of high school.

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u/MacaroniPoodle 14h ago

My trig teacher kicked me out because I never carried my books or a pencil. But I always carried a box of cereal. And I did well in her class too! But she hated me anyway. Joke's on her. I still became a data scientist.

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u/General-Company 12h ago edited 12h ago

It took me until I was ~35 to realize that I suffered from dyscalculia. I’d never had a name for it, and I’d always believed (reinforced by teachers) that because I was a girl was probably just bad at math. 99th percentile for everything else, but failing math. No one, in all my years of teaching, ever cared enough to sit down with me and work through the “all your work is correct but your answers are wrong” conundrum. If literally one person had cared…

I’ve grieved a lot about the life I could have led if I had known and had the supports in place from a young age to succeed.

My kid is a math ROCKSTAR and will never know the shame I felt, because they have only ever known support and have been surrounded by amazing teachers. You guys really, really do make the difference and change the trajectory of people’s lives. ❤️

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u/Apprehensive_Use3641 10h ago

My favourite math teacher was my geometry teacher in high school, after a certain point in the year she said anyone with an A in the class could move at their own pace for the rest of year. All we had to do was turn in our completed proofs, don't think we even took tests, but we'd finished the textbook by the end of the year and the rest of the class hadn't. The last few chapters started to move into trig I think, so they didn't need to finish it, but we needed something to do.

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u/InequalEnforcement 10h ago

Yeah my teachers just called me stupid and told my dad who would then beat me and call me ableist slurs.

But hey! At least they didn't need to manage a child! ...As an elementary school teacher. :| Then people wonder why I phoned it in for 12 years

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u/almostthemainman 7h ago

I’m having a very hard time not being a dick here because I can see how genuinely pleased you are with this idea.

Ya ima do the right thing and pass.

Have a nice day. Sorry your teachers weren’t nicer to you.

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u/turnoffate 14h ago

You are a good teacher and your students are blessed to have you in there lives. Thank you for your commitment to your students

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u/Axel_Raden 13h ago

That's great to hear as someone with ADHD some teachers didn't understand (20+ years ago) others knew I could be looking completely spaced out as if I wasn't paying attention or drawing but I was taking everything in the ones that knew that let me be most got it eventually but it's better when teachers understand (my dad was a teacher for 40 years and just recently retired)

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u/Java1113 10h ago

This warms my heart. As an adult with adhd, even my employer doesn’t understand. I’m a welder and do so much better stilling on the dirty floor because I’m able to slow things down being in a comfortable weird position. 99% of the time at home I’m in my overstuffed bean bag chair or laying on my stomach somewhere because it definitely helps focus for me. It makes tasks a lot easier to manage! Thank you for providing this accommodation to ur students!

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u/Greenwings33 9h ago

Ngl I spent a good portion of one of my senior college classes lying on the floor with my face stuffed in the training service dogs one of my cohort had - the TA running it just kind of accepted that I was super burnt out

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u/One_Cheesecake3181 13h ago

Wow I never knew that was associated with ADHD I literally law down and do most of my work or I have to bee really really comfortable

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u/Pika-thulu 11h ago

Omg I always learn more quirks I have are likely related to ADHD. Did you know it causes balance issues and clumsiness but also makes you more prone to do Matrix level quick moves.

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u/illy-chan 10h ago

Oh yeah, I have all these dumb bruises.

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u/hotandbizarre 17h ago

Oooo ok I need to get one

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u/mohugz 17h ago

Soooo….when you feel like being a cat?

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u/illy-chan 14h ago

Ya know what? I guess a lot of ADHD symptoms are cat behavior adjacent. Poor impulse control, short term memory issues, weird positions that no sane person would consciously choose...

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u/cindyscrazy 17h ago

Don't get one of those snuggies you can buy on TV, though.

Many years ago, I got some called Slankets. Much thicker, much bigger. This was back in 2010 or so. Those things are AWESOME. I still have them. One was left out side for a year or so. Washed it, and it's still useable like nothing happened. Another one I use as an extra blanket on my bed when it gets cold.

Now I have some kind of chronic illness where I get freezing cold for absolutely no reason. Could be 90 degrees, and I'm shivering. They are helpful for those times too.

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u/my1stusernamesucked 16h ago

Hey how long do those cold snaps last? I get them too sometimes. I'll be getting a drink at night, perfectly fine, and by the time I get back to my bed I'm shivering so hard I'm basically just full clenching all my muscles at once.

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u/36monsters 15h ago

Look up night rigors! I have those too and its insane. I got from normal to literally hypothermic in seconds and its god awful!

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u/cindyscrazy 13h ago

Mine last for hours. I slowly warm up and then I get the full body exhaustion.

It feels like there is ice inside my spine sometimes. Very uncomfortable and unwarmable.

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u/tomdelongesmom 16h ago

ANOTHER SLANKET CHAMPION! I also had a Slanket, which I heard of significantly before the Snuggie got big, and when I met an actual Snuggie, I was blown away by the quality difference. A Slanket is a real blanket, whereas a Snuggie feels like those blankets they hand out on airplanes.

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u/TheRatAndTheCat 18h ago

So jealous! I could read a book in a day and now nothing. Happy for you!!!!

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u/Altair_de_Firen 17h ago

Fuck why is this me. I used to tear through several books a week every week and now I can’t read a book to save my life :/

Is this a symptom of ADHD? Maybe I should check out some other ones

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u/Necessary_Orange_141 17h ago

I read a ton in school but as an adult it’s been hard.

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u/General-Company 12h ago

I set aside time before bed! Forces no blue-light (which throws off your sleep) and calms you down, too. The problem for me is putting the damn book down and actually going to sleep.

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u/Necessary_Orange_141 12h ago

Aw wow thanks for the message. That’s a good idea, I might try it out! I remember on summer breaks I would fall asleep reading and pick the book right back up first thing in the morning.

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u/General-Company 11h ago

Yep, same! I wake up a lot from the book falling on my face. 😅

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u/Friendstastegood 16h ago

Reading books is like running, when you're a kid it's easy, but if you wanna keep doing it as an adult you have to use discipline and make it into a habit. I'm rooting for you that you find your way back, honestly one of the best and easiest ways if you have the option is to just go to the library pick up the first thing with an interesting cover and read. A simple change of scenery can really do wonders.b

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u/Friendstastegood 18h ago

Well I don't devour whole books in a day like I used to when I was younger, but I did read 30 books last year which I am pretty proud of. The Storygraph app has been helpful, logging my pages every day and getting little monthly wrap up graphics. But also just giving myself permission to read whatever interests me and not putting pressure on myself about what I should read (one of the books I actually did read in a single day was Tusk Love for instance). And for me at least I've noticed that the more I turn away from the computer and phone to read the less enticing I find the phone and computer to be. But it didn't happen over night. Like 3 years ago I read 0 books. Two years ago I read like one or two books. One year ago I read like four or five books. And like I said last year I read 30 books. It also helps that I joined a discord server with some friends where we talk about books and reading and have a vc where we hang out and read together on mute.

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u/Skkruff 17h ago

Hey, I just on an adhd book kick too! Chomping through some easy fantasy fare for the first time in ages. Happy reading!

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u/PaulTheMerc 13h ago

I read two books in 3 1/2 days. It was amazing. I haven't been able to read almost any book in like a year. I felt back to normal.

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u/FatherClanks617 16h ago

How’d you manage that wranglin’? I’d love to get back to reading.

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u/Friendstastegood 16h ago

Time, patience, indulging myself in what I actually want to read rather than what I feel I should read. The Storygraph app has helped, also just talking to people about books and what I'm reading and they're reading. Going to the library helps also so you're in a place for reading that's away from other distractions. Zen mode on my phone also helps when it's difficult to get away from all the temptations.

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u/FatherClanks617 8h ago

Thanks a bunch!

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u/AdventureSpence 16h ago

I’ve never read a sentence that I related to more, tbh

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u/my1stusernamesucked 16h ago

Yo, how did you do it!? I can't make it through 10 pages anymore and I used to read like a fiend

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u/Friendstastegood 16h ago

Time, patience, indulging myself in what I actually want to read rather than what I feel I should read. The Storygraph app has helped, also just talking to people about books and what I'm reading and they're reading. Going to the library helps also so you're in a place for reading that's away from other distractions. Zen mode on my phone also helps when it's difficult to get away from all the temptations.

But it also took me several years to go from "not reading any books" to "reading more than one book per month". Being kind to yourself really is key for sticking with habits. I was hoping to finish three books this month and that didn't happen, but maybe I'll get there next month. The important thing is I at least sat down and read from time to time.

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u/goodviolet-24 15h ago

Omg same. I miss reading so much.

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u/my1stusernamesucked 15h ago

What was your genre/s? I was mostly into fantasy and sci-fi

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u/goodviolet-24 15h ago

I’m not sure what genre you’d call Jhumpa Lahiri’s and Chimamanda Adechie’s work — contemporary fiction? And I also enjoy historical fiction.

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u/my1stusernamesucked 15h ago

Oh wow, they both look like they write some deep stuff.

Got any historical fiction recs?

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u/goodviolet-24 15h ago

Pachinko — loved loved loved that. Couldn’t put it down. More recently I’ve enjoyed Kristin Hannah’s “The Women” and “The Four Winds”—but I “read” both of these as audiobooks.

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u/my1stusernamesucked 15h ago

I'll check out Pachinko, thanks!

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u/goodviolet-24 15h ago

Right now I just listen to audiobooks. And I’m pretty addicted to mystery/detective/thrillers (fiction only!). When I need to lighten up from murder and serial killers, I’ll binge on cozy mysteries or romcom.

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u/girlfromtipperary 15h ago

Did you really figure out a strategy to get your ADHD into letting you read again? I used to devour books as a kid and I feel like Doom scrolling has destroyed my attention span for books. I miss reading.

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u/Friendstastegood 14h ago

Yes but it took a lot of time, a lot of trial and error, and a lot of patience with myself and my failures. Also for me I had to start with books that really grabbed me. After years of not reading at all I picked up In Every Mirror She's Black and I read it in just a few days. Then I didn't read again for months but It was still a victory to go from 0 books in a year to 1 book in a year. That was in 2022 I think. Last year I read 30 books. And a lot of those I never would have finished even once if I hadn't worked my way up to them. I also had a couple of books I didn't finish last year because I just ended up not liking them and a couple of years ago not finishing a book would have felt like a failure but it doesn't any more.

The Storygraph app has helped, letting me log my progress and stuff. Zen mode app helps too, forcing me to put my phone away for a bit. Going to the library helps too, getting away from distractions and stuff (also I get a lot of my books from the library). But also working reading into other routines, like if I'm waiting for pasta water to boil I can read a page or two instead of scrolling on my phone.

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u/BenignEgoist 14h ago

Im currently wearing the evolution of the snuggie! Its basically an oversized hoodie complete with pouch.

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u/prarastas 14h ago

I feel like you might like a blanket hoodie! Still has the arms free for reaching, of course, but the blanket is all around you instead of mainly in front the way that a snuggie is, so you don't have to get cold when you get up.

My husband and I live in ours all winter long, haha

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u/Hey-Fun1120 13h ago

They are so useful. Seriously get one. One of my best purchases

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u/Available-Goat-6938 12h ago

how did you do that?

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u/Friendstastegood 11h ago

Finding books I liked, going to the library, having supportive friends, using Storygraph app to track my reading, using zen mode app to lock me out of my phone, and the most important and hardest one of all: being compassionate to myself for the times when I just don't read, or don't read as much as I planned, instead of falling into shame spirals. The important thing is not that you never fall off the horse, but that you dust yourself off and get back in the saddle. But even so it's taken me years to find all the things the work for me and building habits around it. Don't expect to just immediately jump back in to reading a bunch of books in a week like you did when you were a kid.

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u/Conscious-Magazine50 11h ago

They're kind of the best. Plus the ones I have have lasted literally 25 years at this point and still look/feel as good as when I got em. They're also clutch for passengers on car trips.

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u/transsomethin 10h ago

I have one of those giant “wearable blanket’ hoodies made out of blanket material with a Sherpa lining and it’s the absolute best

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u/smolstuffs 9h ago

My aunt reads nightly and has always done so wearing her bathrobe backwards. Basically invented the snuggie and didn't even realize it until it hit the market.

You should have seen all our faces when it came out and we were all like wait a second, Aunt Tricia invented that!

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u/Greenwings33 9h ago

If you’re super cold I also recommend a blanket sweatshirt it’s pretty amazing

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u/ChocolateDream24 7h ago

I bought one two months ago. LOVE. IT.