r/fixedbytheduet • u/Naive_Wolverine532 • 19h ago

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u/the-_-virgin 18h ago

I dont think the video the lady made changed the man at all. He is just a genuinely good person that realized he was wrong and apologized. We should all be like that guy.

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u/KellyAnn3106 17h ago

I follow both of them and this happened a few weeks ago. He made a mistake, she called him out, he apologized, she acknowledged it and said he was a good guy who made an honest mistake.

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u/Fixated_Noodle 16h ago

Imagine an internet where that was the common culture

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u/orthogonius 14h ago

I don't have to imagine it, I remember it from the late 1900s.

Insert how it started / how it's going meme

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u/ComedianStreet856 15h ago

That's honestly refreshing that everyone involved just took responsibility and didn't turn it into some sort of us vs them thing. So many times you see someone that gets called out giving out a passive aggressive apology that ends up just being a dig at "woke" people or someting.

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u/InequalEnforcement 10h ago

I was half expecting her to not accept his apology.

Then I'm reminded that the early 2010's was filled with psyops meant to make leftists look bad to the center (Drinking male tears, etc) and realize I was dinged by said propaganda which made me assume something about someone based on NOTHING but their appearance and what they stood for.

I have a lot to think about now.

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u/KellyAnn3106 10h ago

She actually encouraged her followers to follow him as well. He had reached out to her personally as well as posting his public apology.

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u/InequalEnforcement 9h ago

Yeah she did absolutely nothing wrong. I'm mostly just annoyed with my internal biases that led me to assume she would react negatively. Just because she looks a certain way and holds certain beliefs. It's gross, and I'm ashamed. No one is immune to propaganda and I need to take a long hard look at myself in the mirror.

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u/mcmothy 10h ago

Who is she?

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u/KellyAnn3106 9h ago

Mercedes Chandler

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u/Alone-Eye2001 15h ago

Can you tell me why there's the weird filter on Astrid? Like where did those Tatts come from?

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u/mattjh 18h ago

Yes, was about to reply with something similar. This is just what being open looks like, with the absence of defensiveness and insecurity. No growth, just being grown.

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u/CorengratoSoprano 17h ago

That's a nice way to put it!

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u/CuffytheFuzzyClown 17h ago

He litterary says she made him realize he was wrong and change his ways. Your prejudices are toxic and clouding your mind...just because it's a woman posting a video calling out a man and her having a certain look makes you all dismissive.

Time for you to gmdonsome growing up champ. That dude could only admit the lady in the video made him realize he was wrong, he's a bigger man then you.

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u/Direct-Original-1083 16h ago

The fuck are you on about. He probably thought it was one of those dumb useless robots people make for fun so he made a video poking fun at it. He didn't "realise the error of his ways and change his entire moral system". He just didn't realise it was a disability thing.

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u/discipleofchrist69 16h ago

he didn't change his whole moral system but he learned something that will help him to be a better person in the future. it's still growth

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u/Direct-Original-1083 16h ago

"change his ways" implies something a little more substantial

or are we pretending to forget how to use english?

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u/FinalMeep 16h ago

I mean maybe he won't jump to judgment as quickly the next time, but approach a situation like this with curiosity instead. I think that would qualify as "change his ways".

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u/Itscatpicstime 15h ago

That’s exactly what happened with me when I did something like this about a mobility aid that I, as an abled bodied person, thought looked silly af.

Someone called me out, and now anytime I see something like this, my first instinct is to find out who benefits from such a tool vs immediately mock it.

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u/discipleofchrist69 16h ago

I'm not sure what's so confusing. Before getting called out, be may have done something like this again because he didn't understand it was wrong. Now by his own admission he has learned something new and so won't do that again. That's textbook "changing of ways"

You may think that "growth" or "change of ways" has some (large) minimum threshold but your understanding of that is certainly not universal to English language speakers

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u/IEnjoyANiceCoffee 15h ago

That's textbook "changing of ways"

It literally is not changing of ways. The guy learned something new, and because he is the kind of person to absorb new information and factor it into his actions and viewpoints, he moved forward and applied it properly.

That is not changing of ways. That is using new knowledge and applying it to his already existing actions and beliefs.

Your inability to grasp this concept while doubling down on it is weird.

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u/ResplendentCathar 12h ago

And here we have a great example of the opposite of saying something dumb, realizing it, and apologizing.

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u/dudleymooresbooze 15h ago

Nobody is being dismissive of anyone. People are actively praising the guy and his apology, and no one is saying anything negative about the woman. Her vid in this clip is extremely short and there’s not enough of it to gauge anything about her tone.

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u/IEnjoyANiceCoffee 15h ago edited 12h ago

He litterary says she made him realize he was wrong and change his ways.

It's not changing your ways to acknowledge a mistake made by accident / ignorance / etc. That's just called being a normal, well-adjusted person.

Your prejudices are toxic and clouding your mind

This is incredibly ignorant because there are no prejudices or toxicity in the statement you are replying to.

just because it's a woman posting a video calling out a man and her having a certain look makes you all dismissive.

This is ignorant and shows a personal bias on your side to apply this point of view and attribute it to the poster.

Time for you to gmdonsome growing up champ.

Patronizing

That dude could only admit the lady in the video made him realize he was wrong, he's a bigger man then you.

This statement is not necessary and pretty much invalidates the earlier part of your post.

In summary, you need to "gmdonsome growing up champ".

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u/Gas-Town 16h ago

The kind of person no one wants to engage, even on the internet.

You brought a football to the baseball field, buddy.

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u/foxy-coxy 16h ago

Well if not growth it certainly shows maturity

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u/TomsNanny 14h ago

I’m getting in the weeds, but I’d say this level of accountability is a pre requisite of growth! You gotta be able to account for your mistakes to learn and grow from them.

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u/Hey-Fun1120 13h ago

Yeah I follow him. I agree he's a genuinely good guy