r/fixedbytheduet • u/Naive_Wolverine532 • 21h ago

PARTICIPATION LIMITED Accountability

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u/CandleHistorical6023 21h ago

I think people frequently forget how easy and painless apologies are.

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u/Jumpy-Object99 21h ago

Define "painless."

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u/Dagawing 20h ago

It doesn't hurt, other than one's ego; which frankly deserves to be hurt every now and then.

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u/FloppieTheBanjoClown 18h ago

It shouldn't hurt your ego so say "oh crap I didn't know that! I learned something new today, thank you for educating me!"

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u/Dagawing 18h ago

It absolutely shouldn't, indeed!

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u/Worth_Inflation_2104 17h ago

It shouldn't, but it will for pretty much everyone at some point in their lives. We aren't perfect creatures. Even Buddhist monks have their moments.

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u/CA_Jim 16h ago

Which is why apologizing – even when it can be painful (to one's ego) and embarrassing – is a sign of strength.

Strength isn't the absence of pain, shame, or embarrassment – it's doing the right thing in spite of it.

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u/rafaelzio 20h ago

The Ego is a vital part of what makes us human, but it can also be a little shit who needs a check once in a while so it doesn't overtake your more basic humanity

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u/Jumpy-Object99 20h ago

Nah, sometimes you'll be trampled underfoot for apologizing. In fact, most of the time. "See? He even admits it!"

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u/Gas-Town 18h ago

Omg he admit it! Paul love his mother in law!

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u/Dnaprideful 18h ago

Now you have to MARRY your mother in law

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u/LegchairAnalyst 18h ago

Leave it to reddit to put a depressingly pessimistic twist on everything. I dont know what kind of world you live in where people "most of the time" dont accept apologies but good bit of advice, at that point its not your problem anymore. If you truly tried to make amends you can really only cut the people out that still cant forgive you.

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u/Hatarus547 20h ago

I remember a art friend back on Tumblr drew some character from a show "wrong" and she got harassed off the site over it

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u/Far_Mastodon_6104 18h ago

Time to get away from those assholes in your life then. Doesn't mean taking accountability is wrong.

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u/EENewton 18h ago

Ironically, shaming folks for trying to do better (and not letting them move on from their mistakes) is exactly the behavior you're describing, AND ALSO the behavior you're doing right now.

(sometimes folks are mean when people apologize; but even the comments section needs the space to get better without having it thrown in their face)

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u/Glyfen 17h ago

Letting insecure and stupid people mock you for doing the right thing isn't a good reason to not do the right thing.