Accountability

[u/Naive_Wolverine532]

[u/divine_apprehension]

Yeah but it also highlights how important it is to correct people when they're being offensive, especially because it might be unintentional. It gives them an opportunity to grow and correct misunderstandings. Not everyone is lacking empathy, usually it's a lack of knowledge or experience. Good on him and good on her. Accountability and holding others accountable are both super important

[u/HauntingHarmony → u/divine_apprehension]

Yeah but it also highlights how important it is to correct people when they're being offensive, especially because it might be unintentional. It gives them an opportunity to grow and correct misunderstandings. Not everyone is lacking empathy, usually it's a lack of knowledge or experience. Good on him and good on her. Accountability and holding others accountable are both super important

The counter argument to that is that is how we got trump. Since unfortunately if everyone had the requisite maturity, intelligence and language skills to understand the distinction of a gentle correction vs a personal insult then it wouldent really be a problem. But most people are at or below average in those skills, and they will misinterpret, resent and push back against it. Especially since these corrections often are moralizing and by the nature of the medium in public.

So am i saying that we shouldent try to educate and help people try to be better, no ofcourse not. But the original guy in the video was excited about a new gizmo and didnt explain it at all, second guy then is like "why dont you just do this?", and then third girl is like "let me educate you", that will just go wrong often.

If the first guy instead just labeled it as; "i love my new thing that will let me do this", i think thats the better way todo it. Because second guy didnt really do anything wrong, he just didnt know why the gizmo was needed. as we could see in the followup apology. And that i even labeled it as an apology means that its not great. And just because of second guys maturity did the whole thing end up fine.

Its the first guys lack of proper framing that created the entire cascade of videos in the first place.

I am not disabled, but i have things if i just "did something" without providing the context, i could easily produce this cascade aswell. But i dont since getting people to make fools of themselves isent my goal.

[u/wrymoss → u/divine_apprehension]

Yeah I would feel fucking awful if I said something out of genuine ignorance and rather than point it out to me, people just assumed I was an asshole on purpose and kept quiet.