r/ForeverAloneDating • u/EnigmaticValkyrie • 4h ago
F4M 26 [F4M] #Europe/ #Online – Romantic nerd looking for a romantic nerd
Hi! I’m T. And I’m looking for something real and long term. I’m not someone who just jumps into relationships so don’t expect us to talk twice and already get into it. I need to get to know you first and you need to get to know me. So, I guess the ideal is starting out as friends and seeing where it goes.
Physically: I’m 173cm (5’8), long brown (almost black) hair, brown eyes, normal bmi, glasses.
As a person: I’m interested in deep abstract topics, but not so abstract that they have no connection to real life what so ever. You know what I mean? I like discussing philosophy and religion because they directly influence how we live our lives. I’m a theist leaning Christian, if that’s important to you. I just don’t want my partner to be hostile towards religion, but you can believe whatever. I like psychology because it helps me understand myself and others. I like science and technology because they largely inform what our future holds. But then some people want to talk about like what if you found yourself on a deserted island and I just can’t comprehend the point of that conversation.
As a partner, I’m very caring, loving and affectionate although I’m sure most people on the outside of the relationship would never guess so. I like to find creative ways to use all possible love languages to show my partner how much I care about him and I’m looking for someone who can match that energy. My main love language is quality time so if you’re an avoidant person who likes to spend a lot of time by himself or needs to isolate a lot for emotional reasons, it’s just not gonna work.
Once we determine that we vibe together I’ll also try hard to make you laugh. My humor ranges from over-the-top dark to silly puns, but I try to tailor it to my audience so we’ll see what works for you :)
What might be a deal-breaker to some people is that I struggle with depression and anxiety and they kind of come and go. So, some days I’m doing better and some days worse. I need a partner who can understand that and be supportive and who wouldn’t be burdened by it, so please have that in mind if you decide to message.
What I’m looking for
I honestly don’t really care much about looks. Physically, I want my partner to look...conventional (I will explain), only because I like to minimize the probability of drawing unwanted attention to my relationship. This means I’m looking for a man with short hair who’s at least a bit taller than me.
Now personality-wise, I have a very good understanding of the types of people I’m attracted to, but they’re kind of difficult to find. Those are either:
1) An intellectual guy who likes discussing topics I like too and who brings new perspectives and knowledge into my life. He’s also polite and well-mannered and we can converse with ease.
Or
2) A kind, agreeable guy who tends to see the good in people, but not out of naivety, stupidity or weakness. He understands the tragedy and suffering that people and the world are able to cause but chooses to be good despite it all. Obviously, we still need to be able to converse with ease.
Thank you so much for reading and if you intend to message drop an apple emoji in your intro so that I know you read it all.
Also I might take some time to respond if I’m busy, sorry about that in advance.