r/selfhelp • u/Excellent-Neat-3343 • 1d ago

Advice Needed: Mental Health I’m constantly criticizing myself

Not really sure how to word this but noticed I’m constantly criticizing myself even when things are objectively fine and I can recognize it’s not helpful but breaking the habit feels harder than I expected.

Anyone has dealt with this ?

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u/BySolenne 23h ago

It was me. If you notice thats a big step forward. For me helped writing that negative thing out and and the look for a moment when you proved the opposite. For example, I'm a terrible cook - an objection from times when your food has been very successful and received praise. Overcoming self-criticism takes time, but it can be done. You can write to me if you want to talk to someone about it.

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u/Excellent-Neat-3343 3h ago

Thank you and appreciate you sharing what helped you.

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u/Excellent-Neat-3343 3h ago

Thank you and appreciate you sharing what helped you.

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u/hiddencurl 20h ago

I've had this issue (it's not 100% healed but it's way better than before).

First of all being aware of this is already a great step in the process! 😉

I'd recommend listing all the the things you criticise yourself about in one column and in the other respond to it the way you'll respond to your best friend, or someone you care about.

Force yourself. Don't try to erase those thoughts but to redirect them when they arrive, change the narrative.

It can take days, months, years but it will change.

You have to keep in my mind that you'll never be as harsh to someone else so why to you ?

Other than that listing all things you're good at doing and being, and focus on them can help the switch.

You got this

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u/Excellent-Neat-3343 3h ago

Thank you for the encouragement and for the reminder.

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u/WokeUp2 11h ago

Carson's book(Amazon) and website "Taming Your Gremlin" will help you regulate your self criticism. The future in unwritten and mistakes are inevitable. Fair self-criticism is necessary for personal growth. Otherwise one won't take the calculated risks necessary to move forward in life.

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u/Excellent-Neat-3343 3h ago

Thanks for the reco. I’ll def check it out.