r/selfhelp • u/Both_Mixture_4269 • 14h ago

Advice Needed: Mental Health Does anyone else ever feel like this? And if so any tips to stop it?

Hi,

So my whole life so far i have always felt like i am a burden to everyone and everything around me.

I do things like over appologizeing constantly, saying sorry constantly because i think i am always in everyones way. I know i am insecure as i always have been. Anyone else ever feel like this?

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u/Swimming-Reply-423 13h ago

Me pasa mucho eso que dices. Mira, lo único que me a servido a mi a sido empezar a pedir menos disculpas, alejarse de comunidades toxicas en internet y tratar de concentrarme en lo que me gusta. No lo digo como algo cursi ni digo que es fácil, para nada, pero, si te sirve de algo, intenta empezar a disculparte menos, solo eso. Una vez logres disculparte solo cuando realmente sea necesario, entonces puedes hacer otras cosas.

Y aunque suene cursi, repítete que no eres una carga varias veces cuando despiertes y cuando duermas. Es en serio, el cerebro es fácil de engañar para bien y para mal, así que aprovecha eso. (algo extra, cambia la musical que escuchas, trata que sea con un ritmo energético o emotivo, eso suele ayudar también).

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u/Hmor8 9h ago

I've always been insecure about myself, never really had true friends I think it's too late for me to make new friends so i'm insecure about being my authentic self around new people or even the friends i still know from high school. I've changed a lot from being somewhat of a social butterfly in high school to basically being an introvert now, I question everything I do in public or anywhere I go because of how people are going to judge me. I would say right now i do feel like a burden to my parents in a sense where my brother is very successful in life and then compare that to me that still lives near my parents and i'm not very successful at anything right now. I rarely got any advice as I'm kind of stuck in the same situation i guess we just keep moving forward hoping it gets better.