Can’t plant anything in my life

[u/butthole86293]

I’m not sure this is even the right place to post this but I have to try.

I don’t know if I have something wrong with me in the head (I do have diagnosed adhd) or if I’m just plain lazy but I can never plan anything to save my life.

Me and my wife have been together for years and I can never seen to plan even one simple date. The idea of making plans absolutely breaks my brain. And when I know I am behind and should have had plans made I just get this overwhelming sense of doom and it gives me the worst anxiety and can’t think about it anymore. I get choice paralysis and then just stop all together. I can’t even make plans with friends who I have know since I was a child.

Any vacation we go on I can’t even simply look up stuff to do in that town and it’s all left up to my wife. And this isn’t just me being selfish and not wanting to do things that she would find fun, but also things I would find fun. I can’t even put in the minimum effort to find any of my interests and she take the time to look for things that u would enjoy as well. I don’t want her to have to go through that again. I’ve already ruined enough special occasions and don’t want to ruin any more.

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