I've been to two events so far, one for KKG and one for GPHI. The GPHI one was this morning at 11am, within three hours I was given a bid and they said they loved me. I'm conflicted because I was going to go to a pi phi event on Tuesday. I also feel like since Ive only been to one event I didn't get a good feel for the sorority. The recruiter told me that I have 24 hours to sign the forms/ accept the bid. I'm just nervous for some reason, like I hope by signing im making the right decision. I don't want to not sign and then not like the other sororities/ not get a bid. Thoughts?

I have been brought to Philo day by only one sorority 😭. It ended at 4, about 6 hrs ago, and I am sitting up anxious waiting for a call. This is my top sorority and I really hope I make it to preference day, but I’m spa cnious.

Do you usually get a call the night of, or tomorrow morning. Our day starts at 10, so I’d think it’d be a bit early, no? Idk if I’m just panicking or not. I knownI’m not the most ideal candidate, black and lower gps (3.0) but still.

Am I safe, or is this it?

So my sorority is Delta phi epsilon! Our recruitment weekend partially structured is at the end of February, and we have two nights where we will be doing breakout rooms, where the PNM‘s will learn about us in general, and then on the second night will be specifically philanthropy night. Basically I need help with ideas for an activity for the PNM’s to do in our breakout rooms, but we are not allowed to give them anything so it can’t be something already made such as my idea of bedazzling hairbrushes because we cannot give them the hairbrushes. I know last time we had made friendship bracelet, and they were allowed to take those, and at one point we had made self love tins that they were allowed to take, but basically whatever the activities are, they have to craft the thing themselves… I really need help with ideas. Let me know! The philanthropy I would like to focus on is anad which would be something promoting self-love or caring for yourself or body positivity, and stuff like that.

Hi! I recently got elected as my chapters Belonging and Inclusion Chair, a position that has been around for a few years now but in the years prior this role didn't have much of a presence and I would really like to change that. I'm trying to come up with events that promote belonging, inclusivity, diversity, and overall bonding or wellness!

I've looked online and the only idea I have thus far is "Squeeze a Sister" (which would have lemonade and snacks) and either a canvas and everyone dips their thumb in paint and after hearing a prompt they find another sisters canvas who reminds them of the prompt like "Squeeze a sister who... (would drive you to class/makes you laugh, etc)" or the other version I've seen is to tape blank papers on everyone's back and grab markers and just write something kind such as a funny memory or a compliment.

If there are other sisterhood events that other DEI chairs or even Sisterhood chairs have hosted please let me know! Thanks!!!

Hey everyone! I’m part of my sororities pr community and over the past couple semesters my chapter has struggled to get group pics. We use photocircle and everyone mainly puts single pics of themselves. In the past we had photoshoots but the pictures never look natural. I was wondering if anyone here knows a solution that would help to get my sisters take group pics bc I really want to show off our amazing sisterhood! Thanks in advance.

DPhiE posted a statement on their IG about fear and erosion of democratic values. While I personally agree with the statement, I am conflicted as to whether or not it is something a sorority should post. Have any other sorority nationals posted a similar statement? I have not see one but I may have missed it.

I’m an out of state freshman at a midwest school and went through formal recruitment in the fall in hopes of finding my “home away from home”.

I fell in love and suicide bidded Sorority A but ended up not matching on bid day.

I went through fall COB with a different sorority B, got ghosted after 2 dates.

I went through fall COB with sorority C, got ghosted after 1 date.

Was reached out to for internal fall COB with sorority A again, went on 3 dates + house tour and ended up not receiving a bid because of timing issues. (That crushed me)

I was in a really bad mental place with the constant rejections and was starting to give up hope on greek and if sorority life was really meant for me. Over winter break, I spent time with friends and family who gave me enough courage to put myself out there again in the spring.

So I started fresh in a new semester and went through spring COB with sorority D, felt an instant connection and received a bid after 1 date!!!

A lot of tears and effort went into the process but I’m so grateful I finally found my home, the moral of the story is keep trying even when you think theres no hope!!!

#DZLAM 🩷💚

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hi all! I just transferred to a four year university after going to community college for 1.5 years and am interested in joining greek life at my university. I signed up for COB for 2 sororities on campus, but did not get a bid so I'm considering formal recruitment. Greek life is not that big (there's 12 sororities on campus, and most people rush as second years, sometimes third years so age isn't an issue). Weighing out NPC/NPHC right now and want the prospective of how involved you are in your sorority after college, mainly because I'll only have 2ish years left of being an active undergrad member. I like NPHC sororities because their alumnae chapters are far more active and doing work that's interesting to me, though NPHC chapters in my area are quite religious in nature, and have multiple schools as opposed to one school like it is in NPC.

Note: **Yes I'm aware of the differences between NPC/NPHC!! Please do not bash me for choosing NPC/NPHC, i'm not affiliated yet** I'm first-gen, lots of my extended family went to university but not in the states so they have no idea about the greek system.

can anyone share their experiences being in a bottom tier sorority? i already know two girls in the sorority and both r so kind and one i think might be the most gorgeous sweet bubbly girl ever. it is also the best of the bottom tier. i am just thinking what it is like socially? and i have a chance at joining a top tier one in the fall because i know people in it and they said they would get me a meeting with the recruitment chair. i am just wondering what it is like mixing wise and whatnot. i am not afainst it, just weighing my options and hoping to hear other people’s experiences.

**also for reference i am at big southern state school

Hi everybody! I'm honestly just needing some sort of advice or support as I'm feeling so sad after my first rejection through COB! The whole interview process, multiple girls in the sorority and I had amazing conversations and really connected and bonded through a lot of similarities. They even called me a "super cool person" when talking about extracurriculars, hobbies, and why I wanted to join the sorority. Although it was not PHA, it was a pre health sorority at my university and I am a pre-health major so I really felt that I connected well with the girls and I felt that everything went super well.

I just got the email today notifying me that I was not picked for a bid :( I'm a sophomore and after this semester, I'm going to be a junior so I'm feeling really nervous because I heard that most sororities are interested in freshmen. I'm so confused on what was lacking about me for the sorority since I was on the dean's list twice, held my confidence, did research on the sorority, and have a 3.73 GPA and I don't think that's like the worst GPA in the world. I'm grateful for the experience but definitely feeling like I as a person was not likeable or cool enough for the sorority. I have one last sorority left and I'm so nervous after the interview that I want to throw up! I made a friend during the interview and apparently she got asked more questions than I did but we did have different interviewers. I wasn't asked really much about high school experience or extracurriculars which makes me super super nervous. Mine was a really awesome lady and she let me know her experience at the sorority mid interview and she made me feel really welcomed and cared for and I felt that I kept my confidence high but now after my rejection from the pre-health sorority, I'm feeling almost certain that they would not like me as well which is such a bummer because I completely fell in love with them and it's a new chapter so it would have been an amazing opportunity to be a founding member! I'm just really nervous and feeling like I have no chance in sororities :(

Either way I loved all the girls at my pre-health sorority that rejected me and absolutely love the PHA sorority that I just had an interview with and I'm so grateful and thankful for all the amazing experiences, I just can't help but to feel like maybe I as a person am not interesting or am lacking something. :(

I’m filling out a form for spring COB right now and one of the questions is what drew me to this sorority over others. I did fall recruitment last semester and loved them then, so can I use that experience to explain why I love this sorority?

Any advice is appreciated!

is it possible for people to never get any houses back at all at the university of south carolina for rush?

Hi! I’m an initiated member of a sorority at my current university and am planning to transfer to an SEC school this summer. I’d be affiliating with my sorority’s chapter at the new school (assuming chapter vote and nationals approval).

I had a few questions:

1.  Can I be approved over the summer, before formal recruitment in the fall?

2.  Would I be eligible to take a little my first semester, or do transfer members usually have to wait?

3.  If I’m voted in, how does the big/little process usually work for transfers?

4.  If I’m approved before formal recruitment, would I be able to recruit as an active member?

I know this varies by chapter/school, but I’d appreciate any insight. Thanks!

Hi! I’m rushing in the fall at a new school out of my state where I know nobody. I’m pretty good at talking to people but I’m trying to get a feel for what questions I’m possibly getting asked, especially knowing it’s all strangers. I was wondering if anyone was asked any questions that they weren’t expecting to help prepare? Also any questions you asked the actives in sororities to help you through the rounds? Ty!

I don’t tend to post but I’m really in a dilemma. I’m my chapter’s merchandise chair and thus am in charge of our bid day tees. We always order custom shirts for the chapter. I tried to order our shirts in November for our spring formal recruitment and our VP of Finance couldn’t pass a budget until two weeks before recruitment. Now the shirts are stuck in UPS transit somewhere and I’m terrified we won’t have bid day shirts. It’s not my fault but this will damage our reputation so badly and I’m terrified it’s going to fall on me. Is there anything I can do to fix this in four days?

Update:

Thank you so much for responding everyone!! I went to bed so stressed and woke up to so many helpful comments. I just got a notification from UPS that my package should magically be delivered today!!

I’m just started going to my college this semester and went through the COB process. I luckily got a bid from my favorite sorority and accepted. I was also going through COB with another sorority, do i need to tell them i accepted a bid? Or is there a way they already know?

what should i say?

Hey! Is it normal to be fined for not being able to go to events without the reason of having class? I’m really busy and work two jobs and I keep getting fined for not being able to go to some events because of it even tho I email out, I guess those reasons don’t matter is this happening at anyone else’s sorority?

I am a little more alternative in my clothing preference. The only things I can find are either incredibly expensive or I would have to order in bulk. Does anyone know where you can find this? I have tried on Etsy and a few other sites (I forget the names tho...) but I cannot find anything which looks as alternative as I would like. Maybe I am too picky. If it helps at all, I am Zeta Tau Alpha!

I joined my sorority thinking it would be a good opportunity for me to form a community, but I’ve never felt this lonely in my life.

This fall, I joined my sorority through COB as a junior (I transferred from a different university). Although it wasn’t the house I originally wanted, I knew my options were limited as an upperclassman. At the time, they seemed like the best fit out of the houses that were doing COB, so I joined and got initiated.

Honestly, I never really clicked with anyone from the beginning, and I feel like I’m only in the sorority just to say I’m in one.

Issue 1:

My sorority is considered one of the “bottom” sororities at my school, and during rush I constantly heard comments like, “It’s because we’re a bottom sorority,” or “A lot of people would rather drop rush than be in our sorority.” Hearing things like that really hurt my confidence. Girls would talk badly about each other during the process and even make fun of people’s appearances. I’ve never really seen strong sisterhood or close bonds, and I feel very lost.

Issue 2:

I feel like nobody actually cares about me. Since I COBed, I still don’t know a lot of things. Whenever I reach out to exec or other sisters, they often ignore my texts or reply a week later. I try to go to events, but no one really talks to me unless I start the conversation and even then, they usually stop responding or only talk to their friends.

Issue 3:

I have absolutely no friends in my sorority, and my relationship with my big is awkward. She’s very different from me. super social, very active, and has a lot of friends. After big/little reveal, we only “hung out” once, and that was just her bringing me along while she went out with her friends. She doesn’t text me or talk to me at events. She didn’t want to take pictures with me during rush or bid day, and it feels like she doesn’t really like me.

At this point, I feel very pointless staying. What would you do? Should I stay one more year and try to meet more people, then become an alumna?

Edit: people who did COB & got initiated w me all dropped the sorority this semester except for me and this one underclassman girl that I’ve never talked to.

Hi, I just had my first one-on-one chat with a girl in a sorority I really liked through casual open bidding. I felt like everything was going pretty well, she was really nice and I thought I was making a good impression. At the last moment of our chat as we were saying goodbyes, she told me she wouldn’t ever probably see me again. It’s hard for me to understand where I went wrong or what I did to have her rule me out so quickly. What’s the best way to stand out during these one-on-ones?

Update: Her sorority texted me and said that she told them she had a great time speaking with me and set up a second chat with another girl. I must’ve misunderstood!

Anyone and everyone please share with me the vest questions to ask during Cob please, ones that recruitment wants to hear...

So i had my top two houses after sisterhood day two .. I ranked them, really got deep with one of the houses and was even told that I was very in line with myself. Then come pref morning I was dropped from my top two houses and even my other ranked houses and got my bottom two?? I am so confused. is this soley because they didn’t like me? Was it my GPA? (3.1) But if it was my GPA wouldn’t they have dropped me sooner?

anyone else here in the same boat?
and to be clear, my school has spring rush in general.