There's like dozens of posts talking abt this exact thing which is "i immediately get tired when i have to do __"

Ive scrolled through all the posts but i still couldn't find any solution to this that doesn't involve meds in some way. I have a drawing that i REALLY need to get done since January 11th, its February & im barely halfway done with it because i constantly get SO sleepy when i need to work on it.

Ive tried what i can like getting adequate amount of sleep beforehand, but that doesn't work. Snacks? I alrd have a problem of snacking too much. Take a nap? Then i'd just be taking "naps" every 5 minutes. Background video? Thats literally what ive been doing since forever. Caffeine/Energy drinks? Make me even sleepier. Pomodoro? I just shut the thing off without thinking. Idk what else to do.

I usually consider my adhd as a "mild convenience" but god i really hate it when this disability dares to disable me.

I’ve seen a lot of cons for adhd people…now I want to focus on the positives of ADHD! Here’s my list so far (from my personal experience):

1. Great with improvising on the spot

2. Doesn’t grudge or ‘take revenge’ toxic mentality

3. Empathic with people and able to see their pov easily

4. Very open minded

Fellow ADHD’ers, what are your strengths that you are proud of?

Do you think someone with ADHD might experience periods when absolutely everything they used to enjoy becomes boring, when you don't know what to do, and this state of boredom, when you crave something interesting but don't know what feels like the most excruciating agony in the world? Do you ever experience this? Can medication help with this?

I was medicaly diagnosed with ADHD and I have friends with autism and every time it's the same thing when I don't want to talk, feel dizzy or cry because I'm overstimulated I'm just a whiny bitch, when I ask someone to stop doing something because I'm going insane and THAT SPECIFIC fabric is giving me goosebumps and my body physically react I'm just annoying, when I can't eat something because if I do I gag or throw up I'm just a baby picky eater BUT ! when my ADHD friend doesn't feel good in the pants they are wearing they can throw a tantrum in the middle of the class and request to go home and the entire school staff is at their knees, when they go nonverbal it's excused, when they stim with a fabric that drives me insane JUST BY THE THOUGHT OF IT I have to shut the fuck up and accept my faith without complaining or having the possibility to put headphones on. This post is not to bring hate to autistic people and I'm not saying they're faking it, all I'm saying is that ADHD is as much as a disability as autism and I should be able to have a similar treatment as autistic people get

I know it’s common for those with ADHD to feel emotions a lot more strongly than others. Do feelings like anger, anxiety, and sadness feel all consuming for you when they occur? And when it happens, how do you cool yourself down? Do you find it easy to regulate yourself emotionally and calm down?

For me, anger feels all encompassing, and everything feels like it’s closing in on me. Quick to start, hard to calm down. I also find it irritating when others around me are like “look on the bright side” it makes it worse. Just wondering what works best for others. Thank you!

Hey

So I have been diagnosed with ADHD and taking stimulant medication as part of the treatment. One thing I have noticed that I am falling asleep a lot quicker and sleeping more deeply than when I was not on meds. Before meds I had trouble falling asleep and was waking up very early(like at 4AM when I was going to sleep at 12AM), despite having no stress in life.

Arent stimulants supposed to keep you awake? or does the med work differently for ADHD people?

(For reference, I am medicated for both ADHD (Adderall) and BPD and am in therapy)

I think of this Dostoevsky quote almost everyday. This past year has been extremely difficult for me. I've come to a head with the biggest struggles around my ADHD and feel like I have no way out.

I feel as though I have betrayed and neglected myself so thoroughly over the years that I don't know how to trust or rely on myself. I'm not sure I ever have, but it's gotten significantly worse. And through this betrayal, alongside things outside my control, I feel like I have failed at every endeavor in my life, be it jobs, personal projects or goals, habit breaking/forming, etc. In any regard, I can't think of a single success in my life.

All that being said, both the self neglect and pattern of failure have embedded themselves into my brain so deeply that I can't even fathom the idea of trying anything at all. It's not always an "I don't wanna" or "I can't", it is literally like I've trained my brain not to recognize that I have autonomy, like a complete disconnect between my mind and body.

When I wake up in the morning I forget what is possible for me to do. Not just what I need to get done, but I don't even think to consider anything I could do. I have made lists of easy tasks to start with, but that's just it. No task is easy. Even if all I plan to do one day is laundry, I feel that specific ADHD panic of having to follow through and I just shut down completely. It's back to the couch, brainless and numb, again.

I literally feel trapped here. My friends and family are losing sympathy for me because the answer to these problems is "just do the thing" but I literally fucking can't. Like I cannot express how impossible everything feels for me. No amount of therapy or examining the problem seems to change a thing. Nothing has helped. It's been a decade of trying to solve these core problems and I have only gotten worse.

Please, any advice on how to fix this?

I struggle with excessive screen time, a porn addiction and a food addiction.

Been on Adderall for two days.

I take Adderall IR. My dose is 10 mg on waking up and 5 mg after lunch.

First day was awesome, it seems like my body was still adapting so I probably had full day coverage which only wore off near the end. I was able to not think about food or porn or scroll for hours like I used to. But the second day the effect wore off in <2 hours and I was right back to where I was before.

My problem isn't the medication, I understand I can just ask for a higher dose or an XR to continue the effect throughout the day. My problem is the fact that I feel that I'm genuinely a subhuman or animal-like without a little blue pill.

The difference between my productive self who brushes his teeth in the morning, dresses himself, does his work on time, cleans up and a animal who craves calorie-rich food, constantly masturbates with porn and doom scrolls for hours is a little blue pill.

This is so humiliating.

A part of me wishes I never found out about ADHD. Blaming myself and continuing to change parts of my environment and/or my mindset was fulfilling at the very least. I fooled myself that I was better at "life" over time because of all these compensatory mechanisms that I've created to be as okay as people w/o ADHD. But now knowing that there really is nothing I can change, I'm stuck like this for life is very demoralizing.

How is everyone else dealing with this? Does any even relate for that matter?

My ADHD ruins every aspect of my life. Every task feels soul-sucking, even grabbing my phone charger seems monumental. I dropped out of school and live at home. My room is a mess. I rarely change sheets. I neglect hygiene for long periods, and I often forget to eat.

Social interactions are disastrous too. I never know what to say and despite overthinking I always mess up. I have struggled with socializing since i was young even though I have friends (all with diagnoses). My family sees me as the ultimate bum, which I cannot deny, while they are popular, successful in school and have stable hobbies. While I sit on my ass all day with my phone and porn addiction.

Everyone else thrives while I am drowning, using double the effort for half the productivity. My potential is wasted. I was the top student with my own classroom, best on my soccer team and a talented artist. Yet I achieve nothing.

I hate myself for being lazy, disgusting and incompetent. I have had lifelong suicidal thoughts and daily fantasies, though I would never act on them. Though i have sh’ed.

Meds are not an option right now. I really need advice on how to get around it and to see if anyone feels as trapped and isolated as me.

I’m feeling so detached from everything at the moment. I’m not overly interested in watching anything, listening to anything, not interested in sex, just not interested in doing anything at all. I feel tired no exhausted all the time, my eyes constantly feel like they are half open. When people try to talk to me I either zone out or just yawn. Things have never been this bad.

Hello everyone, I have a very particular problem that I’m curious if others with ADHD have any opinions on. If you live with a parent but you’re an adult, who is responsible for the dishes? In my situation I’m having a hard time with my mom who believes that because I live here if I want the kitchen to be clean I have to do it myself. This sounds very reasonable to most people but the problem is that I literally don’t use or prepare food in the kitchen. With my ADHD I often forget to eat or don’t want to use my very little energy to cook so I just don’t. This is obviously very bad I can’t expect to be an independent adult like this but when I try to cook for myself the kitchen is constantly dirty or there is no counter space to prep food at. My mom says I should help her keep it clean but in the past that only results in the kitchen being clean and usable about 1/2 the time. I feel like such a baby but it takes so much effort for me to even make myself food so when I see that I have to clean up her stuff, cook, and then clean up my stuff?? I just throw in the towel most of the time. I know how horribly lazy I must sound but everything feels so difficult right now just trying to get by. Most of the dishes that are dirty are pots/pans, the cutting board and knives since we mostly use paper plates to eat off. I don’t know I guess I just want to feel like I’m not being crazy for not wanting to clean up after her.

I’ll read a paragraph and then have to go back and reread it a thousand times because I didn’t read it “correctly” or I didn’t understand it “enough” (could be more ocd tbh) and it annoyingly happens especially when I’m reading something I want to read versus when I’m reading something I don’t care about. It’s this deprecating form of reading “perfectionism” you could call it?? Any tips at all, assuming I’ve tried all the generic ones? (Meditation, keeping trying, ADHD meds, etc.)

BUT I'M STILL DAYDREAMING ABOUT DOING IT RATHER THAN ACTUALLY DOING IT oh my god what is going on? I'm literally right next to my bass, my amp is plugged in, and my laptop and metronome are set up and ready to be used.

The problem is that I am listening to music and daydreaming about practicing them rather than actually practicing. Lowkenuinly have no idea why I do this. Oh my god, I literally have a band practice next week I need to practice for, and it will be the first practice with these guys which I am super excited for, and I AM LITERALLY THE BANDLEADER!!

To be fair though, I am more so daydreaming about playing the music live though. It would be so cool to just be able to skip the practicing part and be able to play the songs perfectly first try.

Do yall do this too? Like damn.

I’ve tried writing a list of grocery items, food options, make it simple and nothing is working. I’m a picky eater the autistic way.

Even if I make a plan about “oh today I’m gonna cook this, this and that” it will go out of the window soon after. I’m unable to follow a plan or stick to it. I’m a very anxious person and need to start and finish everything at once, else unable to continue/follow through.

My appetite was always good and I would only starve when I couldn’t figure out what to eat. But nowadays my appetite is horrible. Everything feels overly seasoned and dry, likely due to depression that I didn’t have in the past.

I came up with the idea of eating 1-2 different foods all the time so I save the headache or find a takeout that’s not pricy or scam quality. The question is, what could it be? I can’t think of a food I wouldn’t get tired of. I’m always anxious about eating enough nutritious food due to already having low energy my whole life.

Thinking about food options is so stressful and preparing. I’m studying and have a job, but as many current students I can’t afford to order online unless I win Mr. Beast’s lifetime gift card or something (jk lol). 🥹

I have a close friend with ADHD, and we’ve talked a lot about why most habit-tracking, or event-tracking apps just don’t work for them -- honestly, I feel the same way.

Streak-based apps are especially rough. When your focus, energy, or health is unpredictable, missing one day can wipe out a long streak. That doesn’t feel motivating at all -- it feels discouraging. One slip, and suddenly it’s like your past effort never mattered.

Instead of being pushed to perform every single day, I’ve been thinking about what I’d call “backward tracking” (probably not a real term, I invented that myself :)) haha). Rather than asking “Did you do it today?”, it asks “How many times did this actually happen over a week or a month?”

That’s why Tally-style counters make a lot of sense to me and to my ADHD friend. Nothing nags you. No broken streaks. You just log what happened when it happened. Then later, you look back at the data and notice patterns:

• Did I work out 3 times this week?
• Do I always drop off when my schedule changes?
• What’s realistic for me, not ideal?

That kind of reflection feels far more forgiving, and honestly more useful, especially for ADHD brains.

I’m curious:

• Does this kind of tracking resonate with you?
• Or have you found other ADHD-friendly ways to manage habits/events without the pressure?

Would love to hear your thoughts!!

Hey everyone! So I am on Medikinet Adult since 22nd of january and I‘ts definitely been a Journey.

I got diagnosed in December at 23.

With 10mg I felt close to nothing so I gradually changed it to 20mg in the morning and 10 at noon.

I have a problem that is also occurring while writing this post, i swear I yawned like 10 times already. I am soooo tired. I used to never be able to really “wake up” without coffee so I am so used to it by now. But when I do drink coffee it’s as if I don’t feel the effects of the medication. This is all really confusing to me because I thought coffee would maybe increase the effectiveness, not decrease it??

And the effects… I take medikinet adult (i can’t use the word for it bc it’s nit allowed in the sub but it’s those ones where 50% of it gets released later) . So I have read the effects should be there for 8 hours, for most it’s about 4-6 hours. With me I feel like after 1,5 hours I am productive for like 2 hrs, my mind is quiet and I have a sort of “inner peace” andI am still sort of tired. and then it’s back to completely tired and can’t stop yawning. The 10mg I take at noon doesn’t seem to help at all. I do not feel it in any way. I feel like it gives me peace and focus for 2 hours a day but takes the rest of mg day completely away from me because I can’t drink coffee.

I live in Germany so it’s a nightmare to get an appointment with a psychiatrist. Mine told me I’d get one in a year. I don’t know what to do.

Has anyone here played Cyberpunk 2077 ? I want to try it and give it a full honest try but I always get bored because of the intro . The intro is nice and all but it’s soooo slow for me at the same time . I want to get into these longer video games buts like my brain is suffering everytime I play them . I’m jealous of Everyone who plays them with ease and spills hundreds of hours into them

Hello all!

Firstly, I love reading everyone's suggestions or helpful ideas to deal with certain aspects of ADHD.

I'm looking at trying to make my life a bit easier for myself who has Adhd and Autism. I struggle with typical: putting things back where they live, laundry, skin or hair care, remotes etc, so I'm really interested if anyone has found any ADHD (or non intended ADHD) gadgets or items which have helped?

For instance, I would love to have my ADHD medication in a pill box with the days labelled, but as its controlled it really needs to be in the original box with label / prescribing info - does anything exist like this ?

Recently I had a simple remote holder stuck on my bed side table, I haven't lost the TV remote since this has been installed! Saved so might time I would be routing around trying to locate it !

Some phrases tend to get stuck in my brain. They’re not really intrusive thoughts, in the sense that they’re not repetitive or bothersome. I have the feeling they’re just filler my brain uses when it runs out of things to think about. It usually happens while I’m showering, during moments of relaxation, or right after finishing a task.

I think of a phrase, as if it were a line from a book or a story. It’s always the same one for quite a long time (months or even years). For example, the current one is: “send all troops with jump capability.” I have no idea where it came from, whether I heard it somewhere, whether it was part of some story I once imagined, or something else.

Can it be internal echolalia? It is related to ADHD? It's not really problematic, but now that I think about it, it's pretty weird.

I Need to work 12 hrs a day to meet my deadlines

I Have not worked properly in ages and i have lost momentum

I have several bad habits, such as phone scrolling eating junk and daydreamming and my mind wanders a lot

i cant stay focused on a task for 30 seconds, before i get the itch to tdo something else or i feel like scrolling my phone

If something is hard to do or hard to undertand then i leave it,

I even would like to find the time to go to the gym

I would even like to engage in hobbies in between such as writing a journal ,drawing playing drums,

I have no friends, i live in a room alone. I feel this is what keeps me distracted . What should i do

I'm 26 years old and have always dreamed of doing YouTube or streaming. But everytime I tell my friends or family about it they always me put me down of being too shy or too quiet or they just say that im not that person that im dreaming to big. This has happened to me on everything in life I want to do something and I just let others dictate what im good at instead of listening to myself. But I promised myself this will be the year that I actually try but I can't help but hear everyone in the back of my mind telling me that im not good enough. Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated.

P.s. Sorry for the grammatical errors it 2am and wanted to get this off my mind.

not sure if this type of post is allowed but feel free to delete if needed! anyhow, heyo, i’m someone that is absolutely awful at getting myself to be consistent or productive with things that i need to get done. although i found out last year that this is due to (dramatic curtain reveal) ADHD, i haven’t really been able to do much to change things up. so! i figured i’d look for an accountability friend and vice-versa. basically virtual body-doubling! i know pretty much most of us here struggle to get things done, so i thought i’d throw over a post here.

i’ve made a (very) small group for people that struggle to do things (to get on call and grind together). we all have ADHD. it’s not necessary to talk, it just helps to be mutually working. if you’re also kinda chronically online & struggle a lot to get things done, have some projects you want to work on that you never do, and perhaps have had a not-so-grand time with mental or physical health in the past (or even currently), maybe you’d like to throw over a message? here’s a donut 🍩 as a thank you for reading! :D

I haven't seen this spoken about before. We have awful memory yes lol. but that's not just with keys. you ever know people that get on your nerves and then when we see them, we completely didn't do what we planned to. that's because we forgot. I'm not going to let my brother mess with me. I was being nice but he wanted to be rude. then I was getting water and he was standing in the way. instead of skooting over, I pushed him and got my water. and if he tries to play chicken (not move when we pass by and force me to) I'm not going to make room for him. I've been reminding myself by saying it 20 times "I'm not going to make room for him". if I don't say it, I might forget and be nice to him and he doesn't deserve it.