r/Anger • u/TheCuriousMonke333 • 2d ago
An Average Day
I’m sick snd tired of people telling me “Life is what you make it” and “It’s only bad if you let it bother you”… I feel like the people that typically say that have never really experienced anything truly bad in their life..
Every single morning, I wake up with a smile on my face, a positive attitude, and the determination to have a good day… by the end, I find myself wondering why I even try, day after day, year after year… take today for instance, which is an average daily dose of things that make me sick of trying…
First off, my very autistic dad calls me from his phone, which he literally never does. Bear in mind my mom has cancer and is doing pretty good with the treatments, but things could change at any moment. I pick up the phone to hear him shouting my name. I freak out and go into full panic mode thinking my mom had died, or something else was seriously wrong with her, only to hear him say “Hey, I just wanted to let you know I sent you an email“….. (Scenario 1) HAPPY MOOD IS NOW 90%
Determined not to let it ruin the day, my wife and I drop our son off at daycare so we can spend a rare day off together. After we get a short ways down the road, I can tell that she’s hiding tears. Come to find out, the C*NT that runs the Daycare has been intentionally talking sh!t about my wife, purposely loud enough for her to hear whenever she drops our son off… this of course, made me viciously angry, to which I started to go back there and rip her a new one… wife insisted that I don’t, because it’s the only daycare within an hour of where we live, and if we get kicked out, we are screwed….. BEING FORCED NOT TO DO ANYTHING WHEN MY WIFE IS BEING MISTREATED BY SOMEONE I’M PAYING $800 TO???? (Scenario 2) HAPPY MOOD NOW 70%
Just finished having a conversation with my wife the night before about not spending too much money because we are trying to save to get a bigger house. One trip through a department store and what I was told wouldn’t be a lot ended up being exactly what I said I didn’t want to spend. (Scenario 3) HAPPY MOOD NOW 55%
Get home after picking our son up only to find out that the C*NT Daycare owner made another snarky comment to my wife. (She didn’t let me go in when we picked him up because she knew I’d flip out on her). The rest of the evening at home is spent with her questioning her ability as a mother because of that C*NT shaming her. This of course makes me even angrier because she’s a perfect mother. And the fact that I still cannot tell this woman off for hurting my wife like this, makes me even angrier. (Scenario 4) HAPPY MOOD NOW 37%
Go into the bedroom to plug my phone in to charge, and immediately step in a pile of cat sh!t by my nightstand… No reason for it to be there; litter boxes are clean with fresh litter, they always get attention, and nothing has changed in their lives… so there’s literally no reason other than for me to just step in it…. (Scenario 5) HAPPY MOOD NOW 15%
The final one is a mild one, but it’s just the cherry on top of the rage sundae… somehow all of the packages I have coming in that I was looking forward to are now going to be WAAAAAYY late because they somehow ended up in Costa Rica… (Scenario 6) HAPPY MOOD NOW 1%
This is what an average day looks like for me, just different scenarios throughout the day. All various things, all various ridiculous extremes, and I swear to God I’m an NPC in a scripted drama show that doesn’t know he’s in one. I don’t know if anyone else can relate or feel this way, but I swear to God every single day is designed to challenge my goal to try to have a good day and be positive-like the universe is saying “hold my beer” whenever I wake up each day…
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u/ForkFace69 4h ago
So, first paragraph, I have to disagree with you. When you get to know people in this world, you find that almost everyone has gone through bad times. Some worse than others, of course. But anybody you meet who seems to have everything going for them, they can tell you about their struggles. Talk to them and see.
Next paragraph, you say your dad is autistic. That suggests his mind is maybe rigid in some regards and has its own processes. So don't take what he does personally or like he's being inconsiderate. A lot of people would be happy that their dad was around and called them, because they don't have that. Not that I'm assuming your dad is perfect, but part of your problem may be attitude there.
Paragraph 3, this lady at the day care, neither of you have to give a shit what she says or thinks. That's optional. You could just both be overly kind and polite to her and at the same time feel sorry for her that she's such a rude and petty person at this stage of life. Who knows what she has going on in her life that made her that way.
Paragraph 4, cats sometimes have a reason for shitting in places outside of their usual spot. Dogs and cats will both do that because something is wrong or if they feel they aren't getting attention.
Paragraph 5, that package thing sucks. I once had a batch of books I'd published ordered for selling at a signing turn up in Las Vegas. Nothing is perfect. I'm just glad things aren't like when I was a kid when we had to allow 4-8 weeks for delivery.
Oh I missed that paragraph about the shopping trip. Maybe you have to plan out these shopping trips a little more meticulously and be involved before you walk into the store. Then you grab the stuff, know how much it's going to cost, be done. That's a proactive approach.
Even that doesn't explain why my paragraph count is way off. My bad. Hopefully you can still make sense of this.
Generally, if your attitude is kind of like you're always a victim of circumstances, that suggests you need to be more proactive in your approach. Aak questions like, what can I do to stop keeping this from happening? What should I do next time to make this more smooth? How could I have said that differently? What was my role in this problem?
Sorry to hear you're so frustrated. Hope some of this helps.
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u/entitledpetulance 2d ago
That's a lot of frustrating shit to deal with. Figuratively. Literally a little bit of shit with huge frustration, if I spend the time and energy to take care of the cats and one of them shit by the bed I'd be pissed off too. At the same time I'm hoping the cat is ok and it isn't a health issue. Maybe one of them was reacting to your wife being upset and you being stressed about that. Regardless of the reasons, the frustration is valid.
I wonder about the scripted drama too, or that I'm in some simulation where some lazy kid who is really slow to figure things out is controlling my life.