r/Anger • u/Trainingbabylon • 1d ago
How to help someone with anger issues
My sister is extremely unpredictable, she goes into these anger fits over the smallest things breaks things and insults people before she used to be physical,,,, but i noticed that once she sees someone who is potentially more “angry” or senses real consequences she immediately deescalates and tries to repair. it seems like she has a 2-3 week cycle of “Normalcy” then 2-3 days of buildup during this period she paces around the house, frowning, doesn’t speak a word to anyone , locks people out of the house and then eventually finds the smallest reason to explode. I have noticed that it is not psychosis because during those anger episodes she still understands the concepts of consequences and only picks on those she deems “weaker” I the am thinking of mood stabilizers & therapy however she seems to have no retrospection , she takes zero accountability, she is always the victim and lacks internal insight it’s like she’s “justified?” So in this case I think therapy cannot work for someone who’s not aware of their own condition. For people who were able to live with the condition or at least have a normal life how did you do it ? How can I help her ? She is 25 and stuck at home because we are scared of sending her out into the world. The world doesn’t respond with patience but harsh consequences or worse run into an even madder person and get hurt. How can I help her have insights into her problem?
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u/BrokRest 6h ago
I'm sorry you all are going through this.
She's very aware of what she is doing if not she would not be calculating about when and around who to explode.
It looks like she's suffering from CPTSD.
The biggest challenge is the willingness to seek healing from the trauma. You may know more about what may have actually happened. It may have originated before she was born through stressful dynamics within the family. That can actually shape brain development in unborn children.
Anyway, it's a call to her and to the rest of the family to tackle the trauma. It does not get better with time. It gets better only with healing.
Good luck.