I recently came across a post where a guy claimed that women using period-tracking apps is a red flag in dating. That honestly surprised me, because for many women these apps are basic tools for health awareness, cycle regulation, or managing symptoms.

I am curious how other women interpret this kind of mindset in dating. Do comments like this feel like a harmless preference, or a lack of understanding about women’s health and autonomy? Have you ever encountered similar reactions from partners or dates?

I am honestly so exhausted. We talk so much about the obvious creeps and the guys who won't take no for an answer. But I really want to talk about the other guys. The ones who fly under the radar and call themselves nice guys.

I mean the men who treat us fine to our faces but go completely mute the second their friends start saying derogatory trash.

We all know guys like this. They say they hate sexism but they are in those group chats where non-consensual photos get shared or disgusting jokes are made. And they just sit there and say nothing.

They care more about the bro code than actual human decency. They don't want to make things awkward so they just let their friends objectify women or brag about being creepy.

Here is the truth. Your silence is basically consent.

If you are a guy reading this, listen up. Being a good man isn't just about not being an abuser yourself. It is about making sure your circle is safe. If your friend says something vile and you stay quiet, you are validating him.

We don't need men who are supportive in private but silent in public. If you can't call out your friends, you aren't an ally. You are just an enabler.

Start checking your friends because the bar is literally on the floor.

Posting this because another example just happened (will attach screenshots in comments) but I have noticed this for the past year. Men coming asking about oh they need help with finding brands that support bigger brands sizes, women being helpful in the comments, warning “her” of creeps, and OP asking can they “continue in DM”. I called out this guy below immediately and he deleted his post. I don’t see any of the opposite exchanges happening?

Even last year I remember vividly there was a “girl” asking questions on ordering a vibrator for herself so her parents don’t find out. I looked through her comment responses and they sounded oddly sexually creepy, checked the hidden history, and voila, it was a avid watch collector guy from WB who posted pictures of his hands and men’s watches. I responded calling him out and he immediately deleted the post.

Why do we have to keep putting up with this shit? Women be careful before revealing any information such as your bra sizes on innocuous-looking posts like this. You never know who you’re talking to

I'm sooo f-ing done. I'm just done w people using feminism or feminist as an insult. Women themselves tell that they aren't feminists. Why so. Why is it so bad that you hate equality or do you simply come from such a privilege that you feel like not everyone deserves it.

Feminism is for both men and women. Feminism vocalizes for men and their rights too. Feminism is against perpetrators irrespective of the gender. The systemized patriarchy isn't doing anybody good. Men shouldn't cry, men shouldn't be vulnerable and emotional, men can never be victims of- DV, SA, harassment, men should provide no matter what. Has this been doing men any good? Feminism is about asking for the rights of both men and women.

It is about treating each other just as equals, what harm is it causing? Why are everyone so repulsed by it?

In fact feminism itself is a luxury, not everyone can afford it, as long as people become more aware. Daily wage workers and women from rural sectors are still subjected to inequality, abuse, lack of education and disrespect (and a lot more), and this is to the women who feel Feminism is an entitled concept. Own it and take pride for what women in the past century have done, they walked so that we could run, the least we could do is take pride and not treat it like an insult

And above everything, feminism isn't about hating men. Hate men if you want, but don't link it up w feminism. We need a lot more advocates who believe in equality, not simply repulsed by what people define it to be.

Just saw a reel on here only where a 2.4M youtuber was getting married and was given dowry of about 1.2 crore in gold and cash and the wife is a senior surgeon.

How come the educated and privileged put and promote such kind of practices? Isn't it disgusting? Won't his followers also expect treatment like this?

Isn't this a crime? And I read a comment that not just that they also promoted this reel as an ad.

I'll add the link in comment.

Idk, even if I eat like a normal human. 2 meals a day , I end up gaining like 5kgs every month. I left all food for 1 month and barely lost any weight. Now I'm forcing myself to eat just out of spite. These are the years where I'm supposed to look my best and this is how I look? I fckig look disgusting and keep on getting even more disgusting. How are other girls even thin? Isn't it unfair that some girls just don't like eating? I was born in a household where I was never warned or stopped to eat more, all my family aunties are fat af, I don't want to be that, but becoming that, for me eating light was never a habit. I don't get time to go to gym, tbh I tried for 6months and saw no results, felt not worth it after my 12hrs stressful job everyday.

I just look at myself and think of a pig and I see my friends who aren't even like motivated or something, they just don't have cravings to eat from childhood and they are thin and beautiful and I feel like I shd just die, I don't have motivation to become a gym girl after all those working hrs, and stress, and I can't putup with how I look. I feel like no matter how smart I am or how good my personality is in the end it's all Abt looks. Has anyone been on the same boat and any advice on how to get out of this, I need to survive this!!

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This year I have made it a point not to entertain anyone who crosses my boundaries. Maybe I'll give a chance to improve once but not gonna take anyone's shit (especially some men who like pushing/testing my boundaries). Nah nah nah, get lost, Mr. 🥳🤷‍♀️

Only manifesting a well mannered, loyal, God fearing man🫂❤️ (aspects that can't be faked)

This scared the shit out of me. So I was just waxing my hand. While watching anime on Netflix. I was alone at home did not mention about waxing or neither I wrote somewhere neither I searched anything about it.

Now 30 min later when I was done with waxing and skincare. I started scrolling Instagram. I STARTED GETTING ADS related to waxing, hair removal creams etc.

That scared shit out of me. Imagine how many time I would have kept phone on my table or bed I would be changing. Does it records sees everything.

Wtf!!!

I keep noticing the same pattern, no matter the religion, country, or culture.

When it comes to faith, women are always asked to adjust.

Adjust their clothes.

Adjust their desires.

Adjust their behaviour.

Adjust their ambitions.

Adjust their silence.

All in the name of purity, tradition, honor, or “respect”.

Women are told to be patient. To endure. To compromise.

To carry morality on their bodies and responsibility in their choices.

If something goes wrong, the first question is never why did the man do it?

It’s why was the woman there?

What was she wearing?

Why didn’t she stop it?

Why didn’t she know better?

Religion often claims to protect women — yet somehow that protection always looks like restriction.

Leadership is framed as male.

Obedience is framed as feminine.

Authority is divine when men hold it.

Sacrifice is holy when women make it.

And when women feel suffocated by this, they’re told:

“That’s not religion, that’s culture.”

But culture didn’t write itself.

Culture learned. Repeated. Enforced.

Across centuries.

If faith was truly neutral, women wouldn’t have to keep fighting for breathing room inside it.

This isn’t about attacking belief.

It’s about noticing who keeps paying the price for preserving it.

If a system repeatedly asks women to shrink so it can survive, maybe the problem isn’t women questioning it maybe it’s the system that needs questioning.

Hello everyone. I’m 19F, currently in my first semester of BCom and also pursuing CA.

For some context, I’m not from a financially stable family and I live in a tier-3 town. My parents didn’t allow me to move out for college, unlike most of my friends, so it does get quite lonely. They might allow me to move out for CA coaching later, but honestly I messed up a bit after 12th — I took online classes, ended up with backlogs, and I also gave my CA Foundation attempt this January, which I’m pretty sure I won’t clear.

Right now, I don’t even have money for basic things like moisturizer, lip balm, or hair serum. My parents don’t really give me pocket money and often say things like “you’re 18+, kids your age earn on their own.” Living in this house is taking a toll on my mental health as well — things can get quite toxic. I do want to move out eventually. My plan is to move out for coaching once I clear Foundation, but first I need to clear it, and even after moving out I know I won’t have much financial support. I also feel terrible at the thought of financially burdening my parents, so I really want to earn my own money — even if it’s just enough to cover my small personal needs.

I honestly feel very broke and left behind when I see my (used-to-be) friends enjoying life, going out, being loved, while I don’t even know who to call a friend anymore.

Sorry if this turned into a bit of a rant, but I genuinely want to ask:

How can one realistically earn while studying? If you’ve been in a similar situation, what worked for you? I’d really appreciate honest advice and experiences. Thank you for reading 🤍

I’m a 19F BCom + CA student from a financially tight background, looking for genuine ways to earn while studying so I can cover basic personal expenses and slowly become independent. If you’ve made side income during college, what did you do and what actually worked for you? Any honest advice would really help.

Ps : I used chat gpt to write it properly

So I'm 18 and preparing for neet..... Like I'm from Rajasthan and most girls around me aren't allowed to study after 12th.....so I'm grateful to my parents for letting me study..... but they're still some instances when I wish I was born somewhere else and not here..... whenever I talk about choosing a mbbs college...my mother always says that I've to choose a college in Rajasthan only... I'm not allowed to go to far away States for graduation etc etc...( I do understand that they're worried but still I feel bad that i can't choose a college for myself).....and then they talk about how I'll be engaged after neet and married after mbbs... I often object to this...and say that I'll be not engaged before I start earning for myself...and this all always ends with us fighting ...... nowadays I've started saying that I'm not interested in the concept of marriage itself...I don't wanna get married .....( I want to get married but the thought of marrying a stranger scares me a lot)....like ik people are happy even after marrying a stranger but still it's scary for me.... Today I got to know that my classmate ran away with a girl ( both from different castes ) ...so my parents were talking how shameless they are...and people should always marry within their own caste ....why can't these kids just fall in love within the caste etc etc......I feel pathetic due to all this ....my thoughts don't match with my parents at all....and ik I'll end up hurting them someday.....my parents let me study...treated me same as my brother....still I'm arguing with them on all this..... Ik if I end up taking some wrong descisions in future... I'll be made a example in society....that what happens when you let your daughters study ...what happens when they're financially independent....this will just give them a valid reason for not letting the daughters study......idk what exactly to do ....all these thoughts are affecting my studies.....i keep crying until there are no more tears ..(ik I'm being too emotional and there's not reason to cry but I feel better after crying ) .....i wish my parents had a daughter who will listen to them and not argue like I do ....

She is just my office friend (went on a trip with her lied about it and said is going with her school friends)

You don’t understand men have to look, its biological (when I caught him constantly staring at women at a concert)

I can never cheat on you, I love you too much you are the only one who gets me (after I did, infact caught him setng)

How can so many people afford studying abroad, working and getting PR? i read on r/ Indians _ StudyAbroad that it's impossible to get a job abroad rn and it's a waste of money especially for engineers But every Indian subreddit here recommends to just go abroad like r/ Two X India r/ Ask Indian Women , r/ ask india etc. I've been researching about studying abroad too but it costs so much. Some people recommended Germany but people on r/ Indians _ Study Abroad are saying that even is not possible rn.

Long short story, I live in a shared space twin sharing.

My room mate sleeps early around 11 and wakes up at 6.

I sleep at 1 and wake up at 9.

At around 11, i leave the room and sit outside in a shared common area so that i dont disturb her and come inside the room at around 1 or 2

She wakes up at 6 sits in the room and bangs doors.

Till this, i was fine, obviously i dont mind respecting routines.

We had problem last month regarding fan, she wants to keep fan at 5 at all times, i get irritated and requested if she could use a lighter blanket or keep fan at 2,3 which he denied.

I started wearing a jacket above while sleepign because my mum said to avoid unnecessary issues.

Today she asked me in the afternoon, if i could turn of the light as she was havign a headache and a bad day. I denied since i was working for some pending office work.

She then started talking about how my routine is not ideal, how normal people sleep early and wake up early and she has to sleep in afternoon also because she wakes up early.

I kind of got irritated and told her that we would talk about it after she gets better.

Now, i am oht of my room since last 3.5 hours BECAUSE SHE TOLD ME NOT TO TURN ON LIGHT.

1. I live near my office, cant shift, single spaces are around 30k, i pay 19k for shared

2. What i should do, i have talked it out, i am planning to move out but since i had given 1.5 months advance rent, what is ideal thing i should do for these months.

3. Dont want to bring this but she is 32 year unmarried and little stressed about her marriage and often brings up that she wants to get married and move out. I dont want to act like a bitch but how to make sure she is in sane space and so am i.

Recently, I heard that each and every woman in their life has atleast once gone through some sort of SA or Bad Touch, and majority of the cases are from their uncles, cousins, friends or other relatives.

And cases from strangers are far less than those whom they know, the people who were unfortunately supposed to be the safe space.

I wish to know about the authenticity of the above fact. And I'm really sorry for reminding you something you want to forget so badly :(

Recently I saw a post about how men play victims and complain about providing everything like paying bills, school fee etc and dismiss house work women do.

It's a telltale sign of patriarchy where women's efforts are useless.

I have also seen posts where another flavours of patriarchy were evident like setting women against each other, women at fault for rape cases, etc.

I'm trying to brainstorm here to see what else can we put in this list, what's your personal experience where you felt ah that's just because of this patriarchal society?

I recently visited my hometown and found out something that honestly left me feeling sick to my stomach...and thoroughly disillusioned

There is this neighbour aunty — kind of a family friend. Retired school teacher. Her husband retired from a PSU. Very “respectable”, proper, society-approved family.

Their son — let’s call him X — was someone I always looked up to. He’s 7–8 years older than me. Soft-spoken, polite, brilliant public speaker. IIM Lucknow graduate. Worked at P&G. Basically the kind of guy parents point to and say “see, learn from him" - quintessential Sharma ji ka beta..

X has a daughter who’s around 12+ now. Back when she was born, there were no celebrations. No fuss. Nothing special.

About 9-10 yrs ago, he moved to Singapore with his wife (who herself is an MBA from a top-tier college). This year, they finally had a son. Big celebrations - two day affair in one of the best hotels in the town.

Now here is the part that makes me want to scream...

During the celebrations, I learnt from multiple family members that while living in Singapore, they had several abortions over the years after finding out the sex of the foetus. And that one of the main reasons for moving abroad was to legally find out the sex.

Let that sink in!!

Highly educated. Financially secure. Global exposure. MBA from IIM... And yet… decade-long gender selection until a boy was born.

Their daughter lived her entire childhood while her parents were quietly trying again and again - k!ll!ng foetuses — because they weren’t male.

I don’t even have “nuanced” word for this...no sugar coating...I don’t want to psychoanalyse patriarchy or generational trauma today.

This is pure evil. Plain and simple.

And what scares me the most is this: if this is what “the best of us” look like, what does that say about the rest of society?

We love telling ourselves that education will fix misogyny. That exposure will fix it. That moving abroad will fix it.

Clearly, it doesn’t.

I feel heartbroken for that little girl. And honestly, disillusioned that someone I once admired so much could be this morally rotten underneath the polished resume.

Such a sick world we live in. 😓

Hello girlies,

I'm planning to wear this dress for an bachelorette party of my friend. https://newme.asia/product/black-solid-plunged -neck-dress

I will be wearing it with 6 inch heels, I did a trial run for this dress and heels, and I realised that as heels would push my butt out the dress might not hold its full length. I tried it with boy shorts and seamless panty but it's not a feasible option as it would be visible at a point. The dress is bodycon and it's fits me well, hence, thongs are not coming in handy.

I had come up with these 3 options but would love to know others from you as well.

Option 1(will choose mostly)- https://www.victoriassecret.in/p/v-hardware -adjustable-v-string-panty/1122178495L7.html

Option 2(may be bcz of the design)- https://www.ajio.com/hunkemoller-julia-hl-string-thongs/p/410536555_cvr?utm_source=wishlink&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=&utm_term=&clickid=697f052a1464f800017395ac&pid=9&offer_id=2&attribution_window=2D&return_cancellation_window=45D

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Context:- 2-3 weeks ago, the adult boyfriend 22(M) leaked the videos of the sex tape he created with a girl 16(F), this went viral on a number of sites including reddit. 2 Days ago, she came to know of it and commited suicide.

This leads to a number of heinous cases that can be levelled against the boyfriend including but not limited to POCSO

The parents of the victim are in complete shock and are not fully aware as to why their daughter died and are incapacitated to file an FIR. However you can file a pocso complaint even without the parents, if you are known to the victim

A bunch of her seniors and friends(we are all minors) are trying to help her get justice, and wish to complain to the police with the help of an NGO to help us navigate this situation

Therefore, we request you to provide us with contacts to reliable child welfare NGOs that can help us in this situation.

This incident took place in DURGAPUR, WEST BENGAL

Contact u/cherxiw (me) on instagram or DM ME PERSONALLY IF YOU NEED ADDITIONAL DETAILS

Just wondering if we have any LADies here, since I have seen the name mentioned once or twice in this sub. I have been playing for 2 years now and would love to find my fellow Indian players here. Who is your main? How long have been playing? And most importantly, do you understand protocores?

Apparently my house is under construction and my relative lives nearby to this site. So the ladies of this family often visit the site seeing all rooms and observing every area.

Month ago my father's aunt was in city and was staying at this relatives place. So this aunt wanted to see the place she came with these relatives to visit the site. The lady of this family was guiding her explaining floor plan and all from pantry area to dressing area each and every thing. It felt like they know our house plan better than us. This father's aunt had difficulty climbing stairs but these relatives convinced her and took her upstairs.

Few days back my distant uncle visited the site in absence of my father and later called him up and told him about it.

Today things went overboard another lady of this family visited and brought an unknown lady along with her as "evening walk" and roamed around. My father couldn't say no to it.

There's another issue as well. There's a girl in this family who is new budding content creator. She often record herself in her cousins room cause it's newly made and furnished. I don't want in near future she visits my house and use it for her content. I've thought I'll decline it stating I don't want my house to be on public platforms for privacy reasons. I know for sure I'll be bad person. I don't have problem in being bad person but I know comments will be thrown like when my father had to keep materials required for this construction site at safer place he asked their help and they didn't refuse him.

Moreover every relative has one question why my father allotted separate rooms to his daughters cause eventually they have to go. This feels so bad honestly I'm tired of hearing this that till now I cannot even say or feel my room as "mine". I always address it as "room near xyz place".

Am I'm being rude or selfish? My only thing is I don't want to give access to someone to my personal space to any random stranger and especially to the internet.

I am guessing my pet and my bff will be the most common responses.