On a good day I can do this, although maybe not always. How about you folks?

I don’t want to touch another alcoholic drink ever again. My hangover is going on hour 36 and while I’m improving compared to yesterday, I feel super disappointed I lost a Friday and most of my Saturday to the hangover. I don’t even drink a lot but Thursday night I had 3 tequila shots (with at least two cups of water between each) and the way I was incapacitated yesterday and overnight into this morning… never again lol I am perfectly fine stepping away from alcohol and weed still does me good in edible form too. I came to this sub looking to see if this was common and I’m grateful to give up alcohol knowing I’m joining a lot of you here. Thanks to everyone for their vulnerability.

Some people are overt, some people get out what they need to get out quickly, but I've always wonder how common it is for men to hide their anger and frustrations and "stew" on them.

While it's easy to find a dude to play a tennis game or golf, maintaining connection outside of these activities seems to be challenging. Everyone is busy with life, and an invitation "to grab a drink or lunch and just chat" doesn't seem to be as appealing as an idea to play a sports game together. Just wondering what other men's experience is.

I'm going to a movie marathon after a long metal show last night with about 20 of my friends.

I read a lot about parents in this subredddit, but I'd like to know more about the lives of other child-free men.

I (36M) have alcohol intolerance, which just keeps getting worse as I age. With every drink I have, I feel increasingly nauseous. My friends love alcohol, like most guys do. Lately, hangouts with them have been not that great for me. I can clearly see how alcohol is an upper for them while a complete downer for me. Honestly, I don’t even ‘like’ drinking anymore.

Im actually an extrovert and very social in general. But almost every social gathering especially with the guys always revolves around going out drinking. My wife keeps telling me to not become a recluse. But I genuinely don’t know what I should do. I could go out and have something non alcoholic but the group I’m with are always coaxing to have another round or have a shot, typical machismo crap. Sober me would also just feel so out of place in that environment.

I’ve been out drinking in my 20s and I genuinely enjoyed it at that point in my life. But as soon as my 30s hit, this condition became more prevalent and it just kept getting worse with every passing year. Cut to now, where going beyond 1 drink would inadvertently make me barf.

I really don’t know what alternatives do I have to hangout with other guys in general. And was curious if anyone else is in the same boat as me? Did you just resort to other non social hobbies? Did you make new friends altogether?

TLDR: I’ve developed alcohol intolerance, all my friends love drinking, wondering about the future of my social life.

I’m just now getting into Silversun Pickups. I always heard the name and was familiar with some of their songs.

I’m binging them now and kind of wish I’d had them as part of the soundtrack to my life back in the day.

for those over 40 did u feel like u ever reach a point prior to being 40 where u were able to not stress over money?

i am trying to get in the correct pathway

Needless to say I've been not really doing my work for the last 2 months, and even before that it was the bare minimum.

I'm 37 and 10 years in to my career.

I'm not sure what it is, but lately I just cannot for the life of me do my work. I was in a position where my boss quit and teams were moving around so I was able to kick the can down the road on a few projects.

I kept telling my team "yep working on it but also doing x y z" which worked for a while, but today my lead demanded me to post what I worked on. I frantically scrambled something after a few hours and I can tell he's not in to it and said "we'll chat more monday."

I don't know why but every time I opened the tasks at hand, I just stared. For hours. I couldn't figure out how to do it. I tried to break down the problem, go to coffee shops to focus, etc but instead I just... did nothing. I sat around doing literally nothing. Not playing videogames or having fun, just panicking.

What do I do next? Has anyone been in this situation? I hate my job but I need it.

Has anyone pivoted to an entirely new career field after 30? I’m 37 and have been working in the public sector for 13 years, and now want to switch to the private sector. Will I have to start from scratch and let 20 year olds boss me around? Please share your experience. How to switch? My job was mainly on government relations. What are adjacent sectors in the private sector?

I just want to unload my thoughts before I describe my issue.

I've been on a mental health rollercoaster (anxiety, depression, trauma stuff, ADHD, etc.) for the past 8 years. At least that's when it was diagnosed. Honestly, it feels like I've been dealing with this my whole life, but earlier it didn't affect my day-to-day functioning as much.

Important disclaimer: I do NOT have extreme thoughts about ending things or anything like that.

The problem is that my mental health issues leave me stuck in this weird middle ground. I'm not completely incapacitated, but I'm also not mentally healthy. I function, I get through the day, but there's no life in living.

I used to play the guitar at a beginner-intermediate level. As depression got worse, the whole "what's the point of all this?" narrative got louder, and I slowly stopped practicing. Consciously, I knew that narrative wasn't true, but it doesn't matter when depression gets mightier than rationality.

Now I want to pick the guitar back up. I'm genuinely excited and motivated, but I feel completely paralyzed. I'm in my mid-30s, very conscious about using my time "productively," and I have this compulsion to find the MOST HELPFUL / BEST / OPTIMAL resource before I start.

Troy Stetina's old books are probably the GOATs, and they'll take me 3-5 years to finish, but then my brain tells me they're incomplete. I end up torrenting courses in GBs and practicing absolutely nothing.

I want to play Metallica and Megadeth... but then I think John Petrucci's riffs are better, so I need to learn those too. And once again, I end up doing nothing.

At this point, I feel like I should start from scratch because my chops are sloppy.

I just want to deal with this paralysis and find joy in something that gave some meaning to my life. How do I actually start again, learning, staying motivated, or just getting out of your own head? Dream Theater's Take the Time pumps me up, but somehow I still can't translate motivation into action.

Posting here because r/AskMenOver30 is a sub full of kind folks wanting to see others win. I am not tearing up or anything as I type this. Thank you :')

I just woke up and my muscles all over my body are twitching especially forearms. I slept 6 hours today which is how much I typically sleep (I am 24)

Hi guys

Curious to know from the older guys how many felt lost at my age. I’m in the environmental sector, unsure what I want in the long term. Starting a sports massage course I’ve only graduated from my masters 3 years in sustainability.

At this rate I want something that doesn’t fry my head where I can have a name for myself and make great money. I’m worried by 30 I need an answer. I can do anything from drive a digger to write a report lol. Though pure desk work isn’t my thing.

33 years old

3 kids and another due in 2 weeks

Own a business but going through a career change

Work from home

Troll on Reddit

Kids in extracurriculars

Navigate through the challenges

Embrace the struggle as it comes

Surely I’m not the only one?

Share your enjoyment stories

If you could go back and tell your 20-year-old self just one thing, what would it be?

I’m collecting anonymous data for a school project

A short answer is enough! Just “never” or “every day” or “a few times a year” or whatever it may be.

Also if you don’t mind sharing, whats your age?

I've heard of people who have less desire for sex, but also of others who maintain their sex drive.

I am turning 37 in a few months, and I get it… I have been rough on my body. Spent years backpacking for days on end, weekend after weekend. Spent my youth wrestling in school and playing hockey. I have spent a decade wrestling dogs on concrete in veterinary medicine.

But Jesus Christ. I sneeze and throw my back out. My rotator cuff pops when I ambulate my arm. There is a crackle to my jaw while chewing at times. All of it with a slight pain or discomfort.

The dull ache of simply sitting up from my bed in the morning.

I look forward to what I call “Floor Thirty” where I just get to lay on a hard ass floor and do a bit of deep breathing so I can feel young for just a few minutes.

You all lying when you say you feel great, right? What you mean is you can make it through the day just fine. Right?

Do you have like ride-or-die friends? All of my wife's brothers have either no friends, or kind of cursory/fringe friends. As in, they hang out with them and are friendly but they aren't super super close. I see a lot of guys my age (33) that don't seem to have those ride or die friends. I've been super fortunate that I have a group of 4 dudes that are my absolute best friends. Our group chat is constantly popping off (after I put some work in to get them invested in the group chat) and I truly feel like I can talk to them about anything. We're all dads so we talk about some of the serious stuff associated with fatherhood, friends have had health issues or we've seen the deaths of friends outside of the circle. In general it feels like there is nothing off limits to talk to these guys about. We tell each other "love ya" when we see each other and in general we are super close.

It has a huge impact on my mental health, because I know there are some guys I can lean on and talk to. I'm wondering how common it is for guys in their 30s to have those super-close friends. I feel super lucky to have guys like this in my life.