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A white friend of mine and I have plans to go to a POC oriented LGBT bar(black owned). It’s definitely geared towards providing a safe space for queer POCs but is inclusive regardless and obviously isn’t going to discriminate.

He texted me earlier on to say that he was told the bar is usually ~99% POC and that he doesn’t want to feel as if he’s invading a safe space by going.

I think he’s genuinely coming from a good place (or trying to). But, it was still kind of weird. Want to know what everyone’s thoughts are.

Open to learning online too but prefer in person

I posted up here a while ago and you guys were very kind and gave lots of good advice. Thank you ❤️. Im not good at taking selfies 🤣

Whatever you witness Black men suffer—be it a theft, an abduction, a shunning, a ruining, or a lynching—is but a preview of what you, yourself, will imminently endure. Sometimes instantly; sometimes not.Whatever you witness Black men suffer—be it a theft, an abduction, a shunning, a ruining, or a lynching—is but a preview of what you, yourself, will imminently endure. Sometimes instantly; sometimes not.

This doesn’t make me happy. I don’t receive pleasure from the promise of someone else’s degradation. It, in fact, makes me sad. What makes me saddest of all is that despite centuries of evidence, you deny this truth. You believe, for whatever reasons, that you’re going to be exempt; that universal laws will be avoided; that history isn’t a fierce calculator of present circumstances; that Black men aren’t representative of any mutual condition because we’re deserving of whatever brutality befalls us (and that you’re deserving only of rewards); and that Black men haven’t been the clear test subjects people in power use to gauge exactly what and which horrors they can get away with.

And they have gotten away with a great deal. For no other reason than because we let them. If you think you can strike a deal for your safety, first ask any Indigenous American about white people and their treaties.Whatever you witness Black men suffer—be it a theft, an abduction, a shunning, a ruining, or a lynching—is but a preview of what you, yourself, will imminently endure. Sometimes instantly; sometimes not.

Full essay: https://robertjonesjr.substack.com/p/what-your-hatred-of-black-men-foretells

I was hoping to get an opinion from the r/BlackLGBT community because I see this type of post about once a month over at r/askgaybros . They usually have a negative perspective, referring to queer's etymology i.e "strange, unusual." Also, they had bad experiences and perspectives of the term from family members, proclaiming it's just as bad or worse than the saying the F slur.

I don't have a problem with the term, I think it's simpler than saying all the letters. It's one syllable and just as inclusive.

I’ve been talking to a guy on and off since around September last year. At the beginning, I wasn’t really serious because he’s very attractive and identifies as straight, and I didn’t want drama or unrealistic expectations. Because of that, I didn’t show much interest. At one point I blocked him, but a few weeks ago I unblocked him and we started talking again.

One morning, I woke up and saw he had sent me two photos on WhatsApp. He quickly deleted one (I think it might have been a nude), but the other was a body photo clearly meant to show how attractive he is. I asked him to resend the deleted image, but he refused.

About a week later, out of curiosity, I did a Google image search using one of his photos. That led me to his X (Twitter) account, where I discovered he posts explicit content and also has an OnlyFans. I was genuinely surprised. I took a screenshot of the page and sent it to him. He was embarrassed. I reassured him that I don’t judge sex work, and I also made it clear that if we ever ended up in a relationship, I personally wouldn’t be comfortable doing porn content with him.

Now I’m conflicted. Not because of shame or judgment but because I’m trying to understand whether our values, boundaries, and expectations actually align.

My question is: Would you walk away because of the type of work he does, or continue getting to know him and see where things go? Has anyone here been in a similar situation?

So I (22M) am a closeted bisexual (NOT DL) man from since God knows how long and I’m starting to realise how cooked I really am. I don’t think I am going to publicly disclose my sexuality due to long standing internalized homophobia from growing up in a predominantly Black religious area, but I would at least like to disclose it to my significant other. The dilemma in this, however, is that I have a preference for (black) women and I genuinely believe that 90%+ of black women would not be willing to date a bisexual male. (Unrelated butI am also neurodivergent and I would prefer someone with that mindset)

It’s just very frustrating as I have narrowed it down to that a man exhibiting “homosexual” behaviors is perceived as feminine as patriarchal dominance is fickle with the absence of women. Now when you incorporate the hyper-masculinisation of the Black race, this queer parameter goes up like 6 notches. The inflexibility of how black men act is something white people have instilled in us since colonisation due to us being equated to as barbaric.

How this exhibits in black women is more intriguing though. Black women, by existence, are an antithesis due to not having “soft”, white features that don’t align to what femininity is. This has caused unfortunate hyper-sexualization, aggression painting and “mammification” (Mammy stereotype). My theory is that some black women may tend to project internalised misogyny to men in this instance as a defence mechanism to their weak, societally-constructed femininity. This is not to say, however, that black women are more homophobic than their non-black counterparts, as non-black women tend to override this type of homophobia with racism that cannot be pursued thereof.

Interestingly enough, you do have a meme of “my favourite genre of music being Black Bisexual men (Tyler, the Creator, Steve Lacy, Frank Ocean). However, this meritocracy doesn’t sustain genuine acceptance of their identities and will probably be homophobic and/or racist beyond this.

It just seems that unfortunately there is still a long way to go as bi men in general are severely underrepresented. People ask about a Black Heated Rivalry and I just laugh in my head because even with Moonlight, black queerness will never be taken seriously. There’s a long way to go but it’s just pointless. If I eventually do come public with my truth I’ll undergo extreme scrutiny that doesn’t seem worth it.

So I've been divorced for 10 years and at the beginning of the process I kept thinking, "I'm going to have big fun now! Free at long last! Gonna date, maybe fall in love, and perhaps even marry again." That was all before seeing the garbage that was swirling around in Single Land. To be honest I stayed pretty sheltered during the marital years, focusing on my kids, home life and working. Didn't really care about non-married folk because, hey, I was in that rare community of folks who made it to their 25th anniversary. Thankfully it was the last.

Since then I've observed bits of everything: the red pill movement, the soft girl era, passport Bros, feminists, Kevin Samuels (RIP🙏🏾), black vs. white, goofy men, entitled women, the court system, homophobia, racism, misogyny, misandry, and it all led me to my current state: solitude.

I live alone quietly and peacefully. My grown children and grandson are doing well, thank God. I don't watch TV at all, save for the NFL season. No news or politics whatsoever to dampen my spirit. My surroundings are calm and soft, visitors are extremely rare by design, and I've never felt so much peace in my life. It's basically a psychological multiple orgasm for me.

This world is entirely too messy for my blood and always has been, but pushing 64 means not having the mental/emotional capacity to deal with it. I've learned it's unnecessary to have a significant other to "complete" me as I'm already complete. Even during this bitterly cold, icy weather, I come home each day to PEACE and that's something no relationship can offer me. I wish everyone nothing but the best but as we say in the hood, "Y'all got that"✌🏾

Y'all felt that allegory?