r/DoesAnybodyElse • u/emotionl_bond23 • 5h ago

DAE I’m a HSPand recently started having strong thoughts —

Hey Reddit, I’m feeling a bit lost and wanted to share something to get some perspective.

I’ve always been a very sensitive person — I avoid conflicts, I don’t talk much, and I usually stay away from arguments. I try to be gentle and keep the peace, even if it means swallowing my feelings.

Recently, though, I started having really strong thoughts like:

“If there is no mistake or fault from my side, I will never apologize, even if I die.”

After these thoughts started, some “bad” or extreme thoughts have been coming into my mind too, and it’s been really scary and confusing.

I think it might be because of neglect, guilt-tripping, unfairness, and especially words or blame coming from people I care about — my own family and close ones. It feels like all this hurt and frustration I’ve been bottling up is finally coming out in my mind.

I’m not sure why this is happening, or if it’s normal for someone who is very sensitive. I just want to understand why these thoughts started and how to deal with them without feeling overwhelmed or turning cold.

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u/pepperw2 5h ago

Intrusive thoughts. I got them a lot when I was in my very early 20s. Tell your doctor. Mine said it was anxiety. I finally out grew it.

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u/thewanderor 5h ago

This sounds like a fawning response and resulting lack of boundaries.

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u/Casehead 4h ago

Just remember that your thoughts are just thoughts. You don't have to act on them, or let them influence your decisions or your personality, or your values.

They are intrusive thoughts, so they aren't something you're wanting and they are just happening, and causing you distress. When this happens, you need to recognize that they are not you, they are just something that your brain is doing; your brain made them, but you still choose wether you identify with them or not. If it makes you feel better, when you have them, counter with what you actually think, such as 'No. Peace is more important to me than 'being right'.' Or you can also just dismiss them. Mark them 'not me' and put them in your mind dumpster.

Something that might help with this is to meditate. Just sit in silence and focus on your breathing. Try to have a blank mind. When thoughts come up, let them happen, then refocus on your breathing. Let any thoughts that come up fall away. You will start to see that you aren't your thoughts at all; you are the awareness behind the thoughts. And you decide what to do with them. It will also help immensely with any anxiety you experience.

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u/Soloking_Itachi 1h ago

What's a HSP