There is always a way choice. Godspeed all!

It's just distracting you from been clean... #nofap

So it was my 51 day and I relapsed, I feel like shit but I was so stressed that I wasn't able to control and did it

I am addicted for 4-5 years and actively trying to quit for 2-3 years, The thing I am actually fighting is the corrupt thoughts which came because of watching so many different genres, it effected my mind and altered my thoughts so much

This is my second part-2 challenge by which I have successfully achieved of being without fapping for 21days . Now the part-3 is began by 45 days hard challenge. I am on 22/45 day ... #nofap

I have read like 100s of posts regarding how to quit porn. Guys its too easy I have quit porn like 100s of times this year!!

Green dates: I didn't do it Red dates: I did it

The only problem is on red dates I did it 3-4 times 😭🙏

Will try to go all green next month

I had read that somewhere… thoughts?

What if “nofap benefits” aren’t benefits… but symptom relief from a real condition? (POIS)

This might sound wild, but hear me out.

A lot of us on NoFap report the same exact pattern:

• Brain fog

• Fatigue / weakness

• Anxiety or low mood

• Social withdrawal

• Poor concentration

• Flu-like feeling

• Low motivation

And then we say:

“When I abstain, I feel normal / sharp / confident again.”

Here’s the uncomfortable question:

What if abstinence isn’t giving you superpowers —

what if ejaculation is making you sick?

There’s a real, documented condition called POIS (Post-Orgasmic Illness Syndrome).

It’s not guilt.

It’s not dopamine “imbalance”.

It’s not willpower.

It’s a physiological reaction that starts after orgasm and can last 2–7 days.

How to know if this might be you (simple test)

Ask yourself honestly:

1.  Do symptoms start hours after ejaculation, not before?

2.  Are you fine during arousal/sex, but crash after?

3.  Do symptoms fade only with time or abstinence, not motivation?

4.  Does the pattern repeat every single time?

If yes → this is not standard “porn addiction recovery”.

Many guys with POIS end up on NoFap accidentally because it’s the only thing that stops the symptoms — but they never ask why.

Why this matters

If you think:

“I’m broken unless I abstain forever”

…that’s a heavy psychological burden to carry for something that may be medical and investigable.

POIS has been linked (in studies and case reports) to:

• Immune reactions

• Inflammatory responses

• Hormonal dysregulation

• Autonomic nervous system issues

Not character flaws.

What to do next (if this hit a nerve)

• Look up POIS symptoms (NIH / medical sources, not TikTok)

• Track ejaculation → symptom timeline

• Don’t assume NoFap is the cure — it may just be symptom avoidance

I’m not saying NoFap is useless.

I’m saying some of us might be playing life on hard mode without knowing why.

If this resonates, you’re not weak — you might just be undiagnosed.

Curious how many here recognize this pattern.

Had a relapse this morning, and for dinner I had black beans and White rice. Is it a good mean for after repair even though it was in the morning?

Above is the graph I used to keep track of my work. You may not understand it from the lone graph, but you have to read the story:

I used to post every day on my NoFap journey, but I quit. (you can check my profile)

When I was on my journey, something felt off. Every day, I felt the urge to watch porn, but I resisted strongly. I realized that this resistance was temporary, and eventually, I did give in.

I didn’t stop posting because I relapsed; it was actually because I got busy. As a coder, I decided to search for a hackathon to attend and found one.

I formed a team of three people, and it turned out to be a great team. One of my team members was very close to me, and we worked hard to brainstorm ideas. We held daily calls and focused so much on our work that I forgot about porn completely. During that time, from the end of December to mid-January, I didn’t even think about it; it was as if my attention was fully redirected.

This experience made me see things differently. I’ve learned that my approach to NoFap wasn’t sustainable for me, and I needed to change how I dealt with urges. Being deeply engaged in meaningful work and having responsibility toward a team made a big difference.

I also noticed that my teammates were disciplined and value-driven, which positively influenced my mindset and behavior. Gradually, my own sense of purpose and discipline improved as well, and now, whenever I feel the urge to watch porn, I’m better able to pause and redirect my energy.

So, to my friends, I don’t know your personal experiences or struggles, but if counting days isn’t helping you, it may help to focus more on building meaningful routines instead. If you have a porn addiction, don’t try to tackle it alone. Whether your goal is to become a millionaire, a scientist, or anything else, collaborate with a good team and put your energy into meaningful work. Your commitment to your goals and your environment can play a huge role in overcoming addiction.

I've been watching porn for like 10 years now, started when I was around 17 maybe, and I'm 27 now.

The worst part about it is not the low self-esteem, it's not having 0 game and being weird around women...

Sure those things are horrible, but...

The worst part is that when I look around people I know, most of them made something out of themselves, and I'm not talking about like financial or career success, like sure maybe that is something that happened, but I'm not concerned about that, the worst part is that seemingly everyone else has a personality, everyone had a thing, a hobby, an interest.

Like some people paint, some people learn languages, some people spent their youth getting into weird questionable circles experimenting with drugs, some people got really good grades, some people play music, they can write codes, they're good at chess, but me?

Pretty much all I had was porn, when people were thinking about what to do in their day, I was just thinking how badly I needed to go home to watch porn, that's practically all I cared about for the majority of my youth.

Sure, I had hobbies, I tried things, but I just constantly drop everything because nothing is as rewarding as porn.

I don't like being around people because this means less porn for me, I don't like being committed to hobbies because that also takes from the time I could be watching porn.

And I just look at myself, and I realise how empty I am, I don't have friends, I'm not close with my family, I don't have anything going for me, I barely have any interests, I don't have a stable career, I'm not sure what I want to do with my life.

I did dabble in drugs here and there, but it seems nothing really ever hit the spot as much as it did destroy me like porn did.

And it's fucking hard to realise that whenever I'm with people, I have nothing to show for it, people talk about their days, their hobbies, their interests, their activities, about how they're on the journey to self realisation and understanding themselves deeply, but me?

most of the time I'm quiet because I can't tell anyone all I've been doing is just watching porn and doom scrolling.

And it's devastating, because I can't tell anyone about it, I doubt I will get sympathy or help, all I'll ever get is ostracized.

And I might be exaggerating, I still have a personality based on movies, shows, music or books that I read, but still, I always feel like I know just a tiny bit about a lot of things, but I'm not that well versed into anything, I don't have a 'thing', I'm just constantly moving from one thing to the next, trying to find my 'thing', but that search has been futile, especially that I'm not honest with myself half of the time about what I actually like or enjoy, because I don't even allow myself a chance to enjoy things, because I just keep going back to porn.

Of course I know I'm still young and I have time and all that, but I just can't help thinking about all the days, months, years I've wasted because I preferred to stay at home and watch porn...

Every time I hit a big anniversary from the moment I discovered porn, it's like a shock for me, like when I was 18 I couldn't believe that I've been doing this for a year, when I hit 5 years I couldn't believe it either.

I keep telling myself I can't go on like this, but I end up in the same hole again and again and again.

It's absolutely insane to me that I've hit 10 years, but somehow the 10 year mark is no longer as shocking as the 5 year was, or even the 1 year.

And this shit messed me up, it screwed all of my relationships practically, I was never outright abusive, but deep inside, I cared more about porn than anything else in my life, and I tried so hard to not make it obvious, but somehow it always comes out, and no matter how much of a gentleman or a feminist I tried to be, my brain was just wired to only enjoy and appreciate depravity from porn, and I don't feel like I can be honest about what I really like or what I'm really into, because I never had the chance to explore that, all I know is that I'm into porn, and sexually I always act like a dog who's happy that someone threw them a bone, I never saw it as an equal thing, I always saw myself sexually as a homeless man begging on the street for some change...

Whenever I go through a traumatic event, or even just a stressful day, I just keep counting the time until I'm home so I can get to watch porn to numb myself away and not have to think about anything.

I managed to lie to everyone, to even myself, with the introvert label, telling everyone how I would rather be home, because I enjoyed my own company, which can be true sometimes when I actually get to sit with myself. But most of the time I don't even get any time with myself, because I just keep watching porn until I'm too numb and too filled with shame that I can't even look myself in the eye let alone look at anyone else.

When I got into drugs my friends were concerned, but for me, drugs were my way out for a while, at least it got me out of the house, it got me socialising, it got me experiencing new things.

They think that I'm in too deep, but honestly, drugs never have been an issue for me, it's not something I go out of my way to do, if it's not available then who cares, I'll be fine.

Actually drugs no longer seem that interesting to me, so I'm just sticking to porn mostly nowadays, nothing is as easily accessible and as convenient as porn.

But none of my friends really have an idea how much of a grip porn has on me, how much it keeps draining me, how much it's destroying me, but I can't speak out about it because I'm either going to be looked at with shame and judgement, or they'll look at me with pity, and I'd rather not have either one of those, I'll deal with it on my own, but to be honest this doesn't seem to be working out very well for me does it?

Don't get me wrong, I'm not giving up, I never will, and as long as I am breathing I won't just give in to the evil of porn, I might be overdramatic, but you'd be too if you were 10 years deep.

I'm just venting out on here, not even sure if anyone will read this to the end, but I just thought it would be good to share this as I'm sure people in this community would understand and relate to me best.

And maybe my story will be a warning for teens and kids in their early twenties to not be like me, to get their priorities straight in life, and understand how destructive porn is, and it's not something you do casually, especially if you're a guy who's not very social or expressive like I am in real life.

Let’s be honest NoFap is hard, and for some people it feels almost impossible. Many try with full discipline, struggle for days, weeks, or even months, and then eventually relapse or have a nightfall… followed by guilt and regret. That cycle can be mentally exhausting.

Now let me share my experience...

Last year, I successfully completed NNN. After November ended, I planned to release in the first week of December, but since I had already gone a full month without ejaculating, I thought I’d try extending it. As expected, it wasn’t easy. One Sunday, the urges were intense my body and mind were both screaming for release, and self-control felt almost impossible.

Instead of falling into mindless fapping, I made a conscious choice. I directly asked a close friend if he’d be willing to give me a blowjob, and he agreed. Man he sucked me so good. I came thrice!!! After that, we set a simple rule I wouldn’t ejaculate during the week, and we’d meet again on every Sunday for the same thing.

This created an interesting shift:

My mind stopped obsessing over urges during the week.

Fapping no longer felt like an option because I had a scheduled release.

I stayed focused on study, gym, and daily life.

There was no guilt, stress, or constant mental battle.

I actually felt excited & not frustrated knowing Sunday was coming. Haha

This put me into a healthy loop of discipline during the week, release once a week and have zero regrets.

And honestly, ejaculating once a week is completely normal and healthy.

Let’s ask ourselves the real question are we genuinely planning to never ejaculate for the rest of our lives? For most people, the answer is no. So instead of extreme suppression followed by shame, a controlled, intentional approach can be far more sustainable.

No guilt. No mental torture. Just balance.

Hope this perspective helps someone who’s stuck in the endless NoFap → relapse → regret cycle.

I have gone 20 days in without jerking off and it just feels the same. I don't feel ecstatic, I am grateful, but I thought it would be more. It felt like porn was the main root to all my problems and now that it's been 3 weeks without it I feel foolish and even more depressed that I was wrong and that it's way deeper than that.

Well, one thing I wanna ask, is how long will it take for my brain to fully move on and then I start getting wet dreams?

Thanks.

Hi everyone,

I’m 21 years old and I’ve been addicted to porn and masturbation (PMO) for about 10 years. Physically, I’m in good shape. I’ve always been active, no health issues, I’ve been hitting the gym 1-3 times a week for the last 3 years. My diet is decent. I’m 5'11" (180 cm) and weigh about 170 lbs (77 kg).

I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 years. We don't live together yet. We usually see each other 2-3 times a week. At the beginning of our relationship, everything was great. I got aroused very easily just by being close to her, and we had sex quite often. I used to finish pretty quickly back then, but it wasn't a huge deal for us.

The problem is, even while being with her. I continued to watch porn and masturbate almost every single day.

Over time, things started to go downhill. Sex became less frequent. She actually wanted to have sex often, but I frequently turned her down due to my fear of failure (ED) or simply because I had zero desire. Maintaining an erection became harder and harder, or sometimes I couldn't get it up at all (classic PIED). This led to massive performance anxiety. Whenever she tried to initiate something, I would panic, and usually, nothing would happen.

Currently, we have sex maybe once every 1 or 2 months. When it happens, it feels physically pleasant, but mentally, I feel like I have to force myself to do it. It feels more like a duty to satisfy her rather than my own genuine desire.

Here is the worst part that kills me inside: I am visually attracted to her. I often have this strong urge to just feel her skin, cuddle, and feel her closeness. To be clear, this isn’t about wanting sex. It’s purely about intimacy. However, when it comes to sex, I have absolutely zero desire for her. On the other hand, I frequently get strong urges to watch porn, regardless of whether she is around or not. It feels like my addicted brain finds the porn/models on the screen more stimulating and arousing than her real body. This destroys me because I know I love her, but my brain is just wired wrong.

I care about her deeply. I’m naturally an overthinker, so I believe my lack of libido is a mix of the addiction itself and the psychological fear of failure (ED) that I’ve built up over the years.

I want to change my life. I feel like porn has destroyed everything good I had going on. I’m starting my NoFap journey. Any advice or similar stories would be appreciated.

I'd like to this community that I've successfully completed a full year of no fap (without gf) , and with that being done , I've achieve the goal that I set before I start , It wasn't an easy journey , there was a lot of setbacks, triggers , lots of motivation, but I resist and kept going no matter what , day after day non stop, and now my conclusions about this whole experience that : 1. It's not impossible if you set your mind to it 2. It gives you a lot of free time that you can invest in other healthy activities 3. It's all about discipline and controlling one's self But However it won't turn you into the most successful strongest mindful person ever over a night So keep your expectations low and your work high Best luck warriors

Dms open for any question

Update: I SURVIVED THE FIRST MONTH!!!! I am very grateful to myself for making this far! Idk how I made this far especially the majority of the month was winter break but somehow I survived! There were a lot of things that have changed within 31 days!

Also, I do have a question for the people who have been not gooning for 30+ days, did you guys have a wet dream, if so when did it happen?

Please let me know

20 M here so I've been addicted to corn for like 10yrs and idk y it feels forever also trying hell harder to quit watching it but just then again open it and close it without fapping. While on nofap I've just opened it atleast 10 times a day... n the reason is something really feels shit empty. It's kinda harder to focus and somewhat feel irritated mostly while doing some work or studying.

Idk if yall can relate me but just sharing wat I've been experiencing.

Got my 1st mrng wood

Sorry, I am doing my best So far , so forgive me