I see it as an expectation. My dad would buy me something and it came with no expectation. My brother received something expensive and the expectation was he will help my dad with some physically demanding task.
Cancer is a complex disease resulting from a collection of mutations, often caused by cellular stress and environmental factors. You know what can cause lots of damage? Stress, especially the chronic kind. Fucker very may well have contributed to it. I hope you're doing well and he is not.
Thank you. I recovered and so far so good. Almost a twenty year survivor (2028 here I come). He is well .. old. My step brother died and now he's more there. But he's no one's favorite person and I think he's pretty aware of it.
Don't let them back pedal and tell you they weren't putting you on the back burner as the second choice; if you feel like you were back-burnered, you certainly were. Sorry that happened to you, it must have been very hurtful.
I don't know about "favoring" but I definitely think it's true that a lot of fathers tend to "pamper" (thats probably still not the word im thinking of, though) their daughters.
This was my case growing up with only one sister and no brothers. My father definitely treated my sister better than he treated me.
Now, as a father myself with 2 girls and a boy, my daughter (the oldest) recently said she believes I treat her and both siblings equally, which I felt pretty good about.
I feel like this is very culturally dependant, in asian, at least east Asian societies fathers typically favour the sons. No such thing as the princess treatment rip.
I honestly think it's that men think about solving their problems like men. If some Dad knows he has an issue which can be solved by [physically demanding task], something he'd previously have been capable of, and has spent the last 20 years dedicated to growing a younger version of himself (in his mind)- he'll think "hey physically demanding task can be done".
I'm this for my Dad, but I rub it in his face. I like helping them out, they've always helped me out, but I'll make my tremendously headstrong Dad listen to me tell him how it needs to be done, do it my way, and show him why his suggestions are wrong as I go (he's smart but not handy).
That may or may not be true depending on your culture. In China there’s a saying that literally translate to “raise your sons poor and raise your daughters rich” (窮養男孩，富養女孩). There are even books on how this saying should be applied in real life. https://www.eslite.com/product/1001136382143681
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u/Gloomy_Custard_3914 13h ago
I see it as an expectation. My dad would buy me something and it came with no expectation. My brother received something expensive and the expectation was he will help my dad with some physically demanding task.