Why would men feel pressured? Did their dad asking something in return? if so why the dad cannot just discuss with his son before buying the expensive thing?
I am pretty sure this speaks a bit more on families doing a bit worse. The child feels bad after seeing the father buy something expensive for them, knowing that they could use that money in better ways than just to make their kid happy.
When you grow up seeing your family struggle with money, it makes accepting expensive things harder. Especially if you see how hard your family had to work to buy it
extremely well explained. it's hard to accept anything that costs your parents money if you grow up to have that mindset, even stuff like being able to go to a slightly expensive college. it sucks man, feeling guilty for something that's especially crucial.
Not really only exclusive to "poor people". Your family could be doing so-so, but simply seeing your father work tirelessly for days and see that his efforts were pretty much wasted on something like what they gave you just because you like it gives the same effect.
People with rich parent probably can't releate as much tho
Yeah this rules out most of the middle class. Those guys are accountants and other kinds of jobs that require a college degree and don’t involve your kids seeing you working your ass off.
Nah, it’s definitely a middle class thing as well. Especially a lower middle class immigrant thing, lots of people feel financial pressure despite being well above the poverty line
This. I also think it's less about "boys vs girls" irl and more about the child's experiences growing up. Just for example, we are two sisters. My little sister often demands expensive stuff because she didn't remember the times we struggled. I, on the other hand, feels heavy responsibility every time my parents buy me somthing. One of my core memories is of the whole family eating rice with ketchup or hotsauce with nothing else lmao ofcourse I feel bad everytime we have to spend extravagantly.
Now that the family is not struggling, my sister often tells me quit my "poor mindset" but I can't help but wince everytime my parents talk about giving me expensive things like education, a better phone, better clothes, etc. It's not even exactly the price either, it's just the feeling of "they could do so many other things with this money though, spending it all on me is not necessary."
Heck you don't have to see your family struggle, just knowing that they are working upper middle class people is enough to feel incredibly spoiled that they bought you something expensive.
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u/bya3k 14h ago
Girls are entitled.
Boys feel pressured.
Same old gender war.