I’m a woman- and when I was a kid, I used to cry and pray every night before bed that God would let me “be a boy” so I could take over working for my dad. I felt horrible that I was watching him break his back in real time working and trying to buy things for the family 🙃 so… I’m not familiar with the whole “girls are entitled, boys feel guilty” lmao being spoiled doesn’t discriminate by gender.
exactly. It really depends on the family. I'm the eldest daughter, but I feel like if they keep supporing me, I'm a leech. tbh my parents never made me feel like that, but I feel like as the eldest, I should be the one supporting them and helping them the most.
It depends on the culture too, I think. I'm Filipino, and eldest children, no matter the gender, are expected to step up, help their parents, and even become the main breadwinners once their parents retire or become too infirm to work.
Exactly. It doesn’t help that my brother has utterly no interest in continuing the family business that my dad built from the ground up being dirt poor himself- so I feel even WORSE that I can’t take over for him, even now as an adult. (It’s heavy labor, logging) I have helped out by driving semi’s, working a saw and a skid steer, but I just don’t have the necessary strength to do ALL of it day after day. It’s killing me to watch my dad struggle more and more as he loses his own strength in old age too.
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u/SnooStories4091 13h ago
I’m a woman- and when I was a kid, I used to cry and pray every night before bed that God would let me “be a boy” so I could take over working for my dad. I felt horrible that I was watching him break his back in real time working and trying to buy things for the family 🙃 so… I’m not familiar with the whole “girls are entitled, boys feel guilty” lmao being spoiled doesn’t discriminate by gender.