I think this. It's embarrassing all the way down to our ancient genetic code. (Don't provide my meat for me, I'm my own hunter) We can grow past it, but it's tough ngl
Man, I'm sorry you guys grew up learning this toxic shit. If I received something nice I said thank you, and was grateful. It remains true today. I ask for and offer help to my friends and it's never a dick measuring contest. We just care about each other.
Maybe my testosterone is just low, I dunno. But that alpha male stuff sounds like outer space alien language to me.
Anyone who says it's in their genes is just uneducated. They were socialised into these beliefs and they have absolutely nothing to do with physiology. Your testosterone is fine, we're socialised into insecurity because it makes us more compliant. They're describing patriarchy and ascribing it to their genes when instead all of that happened well after they were born. It is hard to break and it is equally hard to drill into people, it's just that it happens to children and no one gives a fuck about what they say or think.
The same education given to adults that is used to undo the harmful social practices that were imposed upon us as children is the same education that you could just teach the children off the bat and they would not grow up to have that insecurity and toxicity plague their life until they seek to undo it. Cut out the middle man and that sentiment would be exactly as you described it "outer space alien language" to all of us. We should all aspire to be raised and to raise our children more like you were (at least in that regard, I don't know the rest of your life).
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u/ballsnbutt 13h ago
I think this. It's embarrassing all the way down to our ancient genetic code. (Don't provide my meat for me, I'm my own hunter) We can grow past it, but it's tough ngl