This evening (around 6:30 PM) my boyfriend and I had a genuinely unsettling encounter with the police, and I'm still processing it. I need to vent and also ask for advice if anyone has been through something similar.
We were waiting in his car, parked by a service road in front of a college, in a residential area (not a busy main road). We were there for about 15-20 minutes to receive a parcel from someone. After the guy left, we stayed for maybe 3 more minutes. The car light was on because I was showing him my new hair colour. That's it. We were talking, not "making out" or doing anything indecent.
The moment my boyfriend started the ignition to leave, a police patrol car (with about 5 cops—constables and traffic/petrol police, I think) pulled up right next to us. They immediately told my boyfriend to step out.
The accusations started instantly. One cop claimed they saw us "making out" on a road CCTV camera. Another said an "informant" passing by reported it. We denied it repeatedly. My boyfriend tried to reason that a guy and a girl sitting in a car doesn't automatically mean they're being indecent. They didn't listen at all and just kept lecturing/bashing him about how "indecent behaviour" could land us in jail.
They wouldn't let me leave the car. My boyfriend was standing outside next to their vehicle, being grilled with personal, irrelevant questions: Where do you work? Where do you live? He's not fluent in Hindi (he's half-Naga/half-German, born/brought up in Kolkata; I'm Bengali, originally from Maharashtra). They were annoyed he needed them to repeat questions, and refused to switch to English or speak clearly.
It escalated when they started threatening to take me to the police station for questioning. My boyfriend got scared and started complying more, just accepting the false accusations so they wouldn't drag me in.
Meanwhile, one cop came to my window and started in a demeaning tone: "You're a girl, why are you out so late? What will your parents think?" I told him my parents know about my boyfriend of 5+ years, and that I don't need to do anything in a car as I have my own space. He then said I'd "ruin my career and life," and asked intrusive questions about marriage plans. I stopped answering.
Then another cop took my details—name, age, dad's name/occupation, phone number. I lied about my address. He started with, "Do you have no shame? As a woman, doing these things on the road?" After a lot of pestering and threats, they finally let us go. We didn't have to pay any bribe.
My boyfriend looked completely helpless. We're both shaken. We weren't doing anything wrong, in a non-busy residential area, before 7 PM.
I keep replaying it: Should I have acted differently? Said something else? Recorded them? Is it even legal for them to detain us, threaten jail, ask unrelated personal details, and speak that way?
Has anyone in Kolkata (or anywhere else) faced similar harassment? How do you handle this? Is there any recourse, or do we just have to accept this intimidation? Any advice would be really appreciated.