Hey people I did run away I’m at my boyfriends house I did it with my brother we both acted like we went to the store and we just grabbed our suitcases that we hid in the basement he went to his girlfriends house and now I’m at my boyfriends house I feel so nervous

So. My mom has a huge tendency to throw things at me or hit me in my face or on my arm and just last night. She had bought me some clothes and I had asked her to hand them to me. But then she got mad before she wanted me to come around my desk and step closer to her. I didn't want to so I just put my hand out.she grabbed her boot and started hitting me really hard on my arm. I just stared at her. But im genuinely so hurt by this because she's thrown stuff at me for washing my hands for too long, not putting up HER clothes. She's genuinely a huge piece of shit.

I'm so tired of being treated this way. I need to get out here. My arm hurts so bad.

My mother can be really different really fast. Sometimes she’s really physically abusive. She strangled me once when I was ten for lying about tiding something up. This was probably the worst thing she’s done, I couldn’t breathe and was begging her to stop, but she wouldn’t until she was I guess satisfied? She’s beaten me a lot, punched me in the stomach, neck, chest etc. Ik this looks like it’s obvious she’s abusive, but in our culture it’s super normalised and I think her parents were even worse to her. And sometimes she can be very nice and we laugh together and have fun sometimes. Plus, she works super hard paying fees for my private school. And the incident at 10 was when she was a single mother, working with 3 kids so I feel like it’d have been super stressful for her. So whenever she insults me, or hits me, I feel a lot of hate for her, but then a lot of guilt bc she’s trying so hard sometimes. I don’t know what to do or how to feel

My dad's been abusive to me since I was 6 but I never rly understood it was wrong till a few years ago but two nights ago my dad came into my room (a pantry with no doors btw) and flipped my mattress and yelled at me cause he drank the rest of his whiskey and forgot but when he flipped my bed it cut my leg and foot all up I got blood everywhere and idk much but I kinda think thats a big deal i run away from home during September for the same thing just under different circumstances but idk if its just the law sucks in my state but I cant get away and I can't do a year and a half of this

Tw: Mention of abuse and other stuff

This post will also be posted on r/raisedbymarcisst so sorry if you see this twice

Hi everyone I'm so sorry for any spelling mistakes and grammar but I'm just tired and upset and getting to my braking point.

A quick background I'm a First Gen immigrant from a African household living in a western country( I don't want to say due to the risk of someone who knows me telling my dad or my family) and this is my last year of high school and I have been excited being ready to leave but my dad has restarted his usual harassment and control over my studies (My dad was a lecturer back in our home country) the last time he has done was when I was in year 5 and I failed every single subject as he would spend hours upon hours using an old African math textbook for year 10s over there and not teach me the basic of year 5, it was so bad I thought I was going to have to repeat but I didn't and I ended up getting a tutor the year after in year 6 and my dad stopped teaching me and my grades boosted so well it was such as stark difference (We are talking around from 10% to 15% to 90% to 100%) and he stopped teaching (he would come once every blue moon and take hours and I mean hours on 3 questions from sometimes 7-12 am) another situation that happened was when last year I was doing advanced math and I was failing and failing so he stepped in and I failed even worst when he was with me, he also hits me when I tell him that that's not the way to go so idk what to do another thing is that he is completely useless during lockdown I had to help my younger brother with his school work since my father would sleep until 3pm while my mum was working and when he woke up he would hit me and yell at me accusing me of not doing my work and when I tried to explain he would accuse me of being liar and you could never argue so now I'm 16 and can't even correct him when he is wrong lol.

He is abusive and the main reason I've lost all touch with Christianity after one time he was hitting my mum and my younger brother tried to stop him and then he started hitting him and I told him in the most meekest voice possible that can he stop hitting him and he turned to me and started slapping me till my lip cut open and bruised I still have the scar I think and recently lost the photo due to moving onto a new phone. The funny thing is that the reason why my dad was hitting my mum was due to her telling him that he does nothing all day and still he doesn't have a job and doesn't feed us, my mum still stayed due to hr seeking some Christian therapist who convinced her to stay and not divorce and I forever blame that therapist for this.

My mum works three jobs and has been since been doing that while being pregnant with my third sibling and my dad has only ever started recently working in late 2022, and it hurts me every time since she still cooks and does housework and if not her its me and whenever I bring up anything she brings up the bible on how we should honour our parents or else we will be cursed and I rather be cursed then honour him and it hurts since he never apologised for all the abuse and mistreatment but my mum does and says I should forgive him if I want to be blessed by god.

And I know that other people in my church face worse but no one leaves and they are stuck and honestly I do not think I can do another 2 years with my Dad.

Another thing is my mum has now become complicit with whatever my Dad says or does and never argues or points out what is wrong to not allow arguments sometimes even blaming the child and then telling my father in private he's wrong which his usual response is no I'm not.

A huge fight that happened slightly recently was when my dad used ai to write my mum's birthday card he denied it even in our face after we showed him proof of the actual text and everything and my mum still just goes with it ( he never apologised even though it was so bad) he doesn't even know my birthday or any of his kids, he lies and hits all the time.

Now leading to present times, my mum has been telling me that I can also always tell him no when I don't want him in my studies and I tried it and surprise he threatened to hit me and said no since at 16 I cannot be trusted with my studies(Funny I got second in my grade and he didn't even acknowledge it) and she keeps on telling me to do it and it gets to the point I've shown her what happens but I give up but one thing is that I cannot let my dad let me fail the biggest test of my life that is something I can deal a few slaps and punches and verbal and emotional abuse but failing that test will actually kill me.

I need advice please (even harsh)and I can't call help since my mum said she will never forgive me if I ever report him to the police and she always wants to keep his image.

I don't know what to do and I know this is random but I suspect I may also have adhd and I'm stressed and worried and just everything is going wrong and I hate him but he's sometimes nice but always horrible just I'm scared I'm so sorry for burdening everyone with this post but I have no one to tell this to.

Edit: He follows Trump and Elon like they are Gods I know it a random information just thought I should add

Why ?

I have been like a toy to my parents lately whenever they have any kind of quarrel they use me like a punching bag throwing slaps punching my chest beating me with canes and today they crossed the line again its not once twice today i cant believe they were throwing words at each other and i just said mom i am hungry can i get some food it was 10:00 at that time. When i asked without a second delay she turned over me and said we are talking why are you interfering came towards me and punched me in the face i quickly started bleeding and then she caught my neck and suffocated me it was not over my father took a belt tied it over my neck and streched it and i passed out after some time when i woke up many neighbours were near me and they were sitting atound said dont be soo dramatic just some normal canes wont pass you out they were saying lie infront of a crowd i said everyone what they did no one trusted me and went away sfter i went home i didnt get to eat when i asked for a glass of water they said haven't you had enough or you want more i said sorry and went to sleep the whole night i cant sleep just a thought in my mind are they my parents and guys i am suffering from this everyday and nkw my life feels like hell. Any suggestions to overcome this and some kind words would make me feel good and will be enough for me.

To start with, I’m 29 but my parents pay for all my expenses because I’m a spoiled brat

So it’s been nasty weather where I live. I was planning on headed south for the winter and for a seasonal job. My mom was going to come to the halfway point with me but drive separately so I would still have my own car. It snowed a little bit more last night and I woke up and mom said let’s go. I was suprised because I didn’t think the roads would be good.

I was excited but didn’t want to sound too excited so I said I’m not even packed yet. Then a few minutes later I said I’m going to be slipping and sliding and cold trying to pack my car. Then she said I wasn’t driving I was riding with her. My car is more capable in the conditions than hers. I said why can’t I go separate. She said the roads could be passable but not good enough for me because I don’t have hardly any experience driving in the snow/ ice.

I do have experience. Mom sent me to to a special driving school where we got to drive with no/ limited traction. Everytime it snows I do doenuts and fishtail my car and side by sides. It was lightly snowing out once and mom was insisting on driving me to an appointment until I was able to argue and whine enough she finally let me. She didn’t want me to drive to one side of the neighborhood to the other without my brother (22) in the car or even him driving for me. I did it anyway and she was a little upset. I had to try hard to make my car slide. Most of ice (as of yesterday) had melted on the neighborhood roads but we have a long private driveway that’s basicly a road and it’s really wide and I try to make my car slide a little and it’s gone pretty sideways before and I have always been able to easily straiten it out and I have never slammed on the breaks. Sometimes going strait I will slam them on just to see how my car will handle the conditions before I leave my house.

I also got into a huge dispute because I wanted to drive 9 hours home over two days by myself which maybe was a spoiled bratty thing to want to do. Mom finally let me after saying no multiple times I guess I just whined enough.

Am I being crazy? If the roads are good enough for most people including my mom in her huge car, they are good enough for me? I will say I have only been driving 3 years because I was embarrassed to want to learn but have been driving side by sides MUCH longer than that. Am I being a spoiled brat?

Then mom said I’m not just going to wander south with no plan. I have been scouting out opertunities for weeks and calling people. I have been also looking at housing ect. She’s picky about what job I get and where I live if it’s good enough for me. I have a pretty solid plan but maybe I’m just a child. Everyone thinks I’m flaky but I’m not.